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Quayblue's Journal
Quayblue's Journal
June 3, 2016

****AA Group**** Natural Kinky Curly Wavy Hair.

I didn't want to hijack 1SBM's thread and I know I have a tendency to go off topic...so I'm starting a new thread.

One of the personal reasons I decided to grow out a relaxer was my mother's passing. She had beautiful, long natural hair which I admired. And she would spend hours on my sisters and I's hair when we were children. She had that hard black Ace comb she would pop us with when we started squirming. But the worn, soft-haired boar bristle brush gently brushing up our edges at the end of the process was worth the trouble. She combed our hair out of love.

I begged my parents for a relaxer when I was in eighth grade. All the other girls were doing it..and they would whisper and snicker when my press-and-curl reverted. I played a lot of sports and couldn't maintain a hairdo to save my life. Finally, my parents relented. And I was happy. But the girls still whispered and snickered. It took adulthood to realize how foolish I was to listen to them, and even moreso, how white supremacy affected how they viewed me..and how I viewed myself.

I was scared when I first started wearing my "own" hair. I left the relaxed portion on for length because I just couldn't stand to cut it just yet. And I didn't want to look "nappy-headed". It was still a healing process for me. Grieving in a way...apprehension.. And the childhood fear of not being accepted as DNA/God/whoever or whatever made me.

I still sometimes have that fear. And not because of just my hair, but because I am dark-skinned as well. And colorism exists...and whether or not my white counterparts acknowledge or not, there is a difference in how some view black folks, particularly women, with African features. I have times when I go into work and when a curl is out of place, I'm angry with it. I think we all do that, regardless of color. But it IS a different brand of insecurity that I think some white folks aren't privy to.

I think I am now at a point where I've embraced my hair.

...but not 100%...Posting last night made me ponder where I personally stand...and I can totally admit that.

So...anyone else had the relaxer to natural journey? Or have you always been without a chemical process? And how do you feel? What are your thoughts?

August 20, 2015

I posted a couple of tracks the other night just to break it up a bit

Music is healing for me, I think for all of us. I haven't been into my sounds as much as I used to. have a set of SP1200s, I spin sporadically... I love music, more so house and techno, being a Detroit girl and all. I grew up on 70s and 80s music of all sorts. As a Gen X/Y nerd, I delved into hip hop, grunge, techno, house, rock. I was broken up by Tupac and Cobain. My parents always had the hi fi system going. My mother passed on and I still play her records, her Whitney Houston and Billy Ocean, Kenny Rogers and The Beatles. Me and my Dad just sat and listened to some Otis Redding a week ago. He will get up in a heartbeat and come see me. He's on classical now, so i think I definitely will be soon.

my turntables are sitting next to my treadmill. Both need more usage.

but i just hope everyone is out there enjoying what brings peace to you and keeps you sane in this world. Tonight, I'm gonna pull out Earth Wind and Fire and Frankie Beverly and Maize.

"Keep on pushin" - Curtis Mayfield

August 18, 2015

Talib Kweli and Hi Tek

August 18, 2015

Erykah Badu

August 18, 2015

Knowledge of Self of... Determination.

Mos Def and Talib Kweli

August 14, 2015

heaven05 is back in the building!

Word up!!!

February 14, 2014

To those of you who decided to leave corporate America

How did you do it?

what do you do now?

what were your struggles?

describe your emotional level in comparison to your life in the rat race.

thanks in advance and peace to you

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