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In reply to the discussion: daycare says baby is aggressive (9 months) [View all]Hekate
(90,683 posts)30. My gently-reared daughter left a complete set of tooth-marks on another toddler's arm. At that point
...I gave up my feminist dream of building some kind of separate identity and decided to stay home awhile longer. That was 1976.
Let me just say she has always had strong opinions, but now owns her own preschool devoted to letting children munch dirt and settle everything compassionately and nonviolently. She doesn't bite anybody.
The one who really, really needed to have me home for several years was her younger brother, who was a much softer baby. But I had to go earn a living when he was 18 months old, and we just had to deal. He doesn't bite anybody either.
Somethings are normal infant behavior -- within a range mind you.
Something my mother used to say with irony was: Children are born savages, and it is our job to civilize them.
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A 9 month old baby cannot be aggressive. That requires intention. And the only solution
pnwmom
Aug 2015
#18
And that is not aggression. And the solution is to control that baby's interactions
pnwmom
Aug 2015
#25
This should be a good thread LOL...yes babies and toddlers can show shitty behavior
snooper2
Aug 2015
#3
Nine month olds can be a handful but they are NOT aggressive. They aren't old enough
pnwmom
Aug 2015
#19
I don't think the word "aggressively" applies to babies either. It isn't equivalent
pnwmom
Aug 2015
#43
My gently-reared daughter left a complete set of tooth-marks on another toddler's arm. At that point
Hekate
Aug 2015
#30
It's ridiculous to call a 9 month old aggressive. A baby that age hasn't developed
pnwmom
Aug 2015
#21
"Aggressive" isn't an accurate description of a 9 month old. This isn't a toddler; it's a baby.
pnwmom
Aug 2015
#29
Because of the daycare's use of the word "aggressively" I don't think they do understand
pnwmom
Aug 2015
#36
Exactly! This is a supervision problem. It's probably going to take months of repetitive teaching
pnwmom
Aug 2015
#38
I don't think that "aggression" has to mean that there was intent to cause harm.
blue neen
Aug 2015
#56
The ratio was 1:4 when my daughter was that age. Even at that, kids go from
winter is coming
Aug 2015
#20
If memory serves, the first time my daughter was bitten, it was by a 9-month-old.
winter is coming
Aug 2015
#48
Apparently a lot of people don't. There are people in this thread who think the same thing.
kcr
Aug 2015
#40
"play roughly w/ her friends and her dog" is what I found interesting. Some parents allow their kids
Sunlei
Aug 2015
#34
If a baby is aggressive at 9 mos., I wonder who is being aggressive with that baby to teach
mother earth
Aug 2015
#52
It's a pretty normal stage of development for a lot of infants. They just need to be stopped...
Hekate
Aug 2015
#54
The way it's being described, yeah. I have a family, don't ever remember aggressive behavior
mother earth
Aug 2015
#69
That's normal behavior, aggressive behavior is different. The day care person seems to be
mother earth
Aug 2015
#86
The teacher complaining about about normal behavior is probably the problem, not the baby.
pnwmom
Aug 2015
#80
Yes, she is describing aggressive behavior which is different than the normal antics of
mother earth
Aug 2015
#88
No one teaches babies this and probably every nursing mother has experienced it,
pnwmom
Aug 2015
#79
The parents should take the child to a psychiatrist and have her evaluated. Maybe the stress..
BlueJazz
Aug 2015
#67
You're probably right. Rats..I was hoping we might have a young sociopath that we can study.
BlueJazz
Aug 2015
#74
Before we all go off the deep end criticizing the daycare worker that wrote this note,
PatrickforO
Aug 2015
#77