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Charlotte Little

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31. I loath Social Media used as punishment for kids in general

Thu Dec 6, 2018, 02:34 PM

Dec 2018

But honestly, it's really not that much different than the parents who make their kids where signs around their necks to school and/or stand out in public with the signs as punishment.

https://www.tristatehomepage.com/news/national/florida-dad-makes-son-wear-im-a-bully-sign/1151747828

https://wnep.com/2018/09/19/mom-makes-fifth-grade-son-wear-i-am-a-bully-shirt-to-school-as-punishment/

And then there are the parents who really take it too far: https://www.oddee.com/item_99844.aspx

But some public shaming can be very effective. It's kind of how we have a civilized society to begin with. If no one felt shamed for their actions as they grow up and learn to become part of a functioning society, we'd have a lot more crime and chaos than we do. The idea of social acceptance has to be taught. Other than sociopaths, most humans can and do feel empathy. Children just have to be taught how to use that ability and sometimes punished, even publicly shamed, to really drive the lesson home. Hopefully, this girl will learn her lesson and never bully anyone again.

As for the walking, totally not harsh. Fitness is good for kids and she didn't have to walk the full five miles in one go at it, so no biggie other than embarrassment perhaps.

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Girl, 10, forced to walk five miles to school after dad hears she bullied another student [View all] Floyd R. Turbo Dec 2018 OP

Parents should not share this on facebook janterry Dec 2018 #1

I have no problem with the walk to school. Cracklin Charlie Dec 2018 #4

Same here. Zing Zing Zingbah Dec 2018 #15

I have no problem with what this father did. It sounds like a lesson learned that won't soon be politicaljunkie41910 Dec 2018 #20

Sounds like the kid got the bullying from home. lark Dec 2018 #24

That was my reaction. She learned bullying from him. pnwmom Dec 2018 #62

Same here. BigDemVoter Dec 2018 #40

+1. nt tblue37 Dec 2018 #53

I agree completely Jarqui Dec 2018 #6

makes her a target Hermit-The-Prog Dec 2018 #43

Well, it's obvious where she learned it. Making her walk isn't bullying, but filming and posting it WhiskeyGrinder Dec 2018 #2

My thought exactly!! InAbLuEsTaTe Dec 2018 #11

Exactly. And I'm wondering if he's a bullying narcissist who likes attention. nt pnwmom Dec 2018 #63

The reactions here to this will be interesting, I think. MineralMan Dec 2018 #3

bully brags about bullying Hermit-The-Prog Dec 2018 #47

He should have walked with her exboyfil Dec 2018 #5

Young whippersnappers today. Huff. Why when I was her age... Achilleaze Dec 2018 #7

When you were her age... ret5hd Dec 2018 #8

I frankly do not have any problem with making her walk the 5 miles to school. Fla Dem Dec 2018 #9

I'm agreeing with these posts blueinredohio Dec 2018 #10

Seems most people are in the same boat. blugbox Dec 2018 #12

The public humiliation could make her vulnerable to bullying herself. lpbk2713 Dec 2018 #13

Good point! nt The_jackalope Dec 2018 #41

Parental bully is enabling bully daughter randr Dec 2018 #14

Didn't You Just Contradict Yourself ProfessorGAC Dec 2018 #17

Actually physical punishment, that can be forced upon your daughter because you have JCanete Dec 2018 #18

Walking To School Is Physical Punishment? ProfessorGAC Dec 2018 #21

I do not consider walking a punishment randr Dec 2018 #32

The "shame he laid on her by following"? LongtimeAZDem Dec 2018 #34

I don't see it that way randr Dec 2018 #36

Physical punishment? Walking to School. GulfCoast66 Dec 2018 #30

I think that when you frame something as punishment, like say, exercise, which a lot of JCanete Dec 2018 #68

The shaming is worse, it is the root of the problem randr Dec 2018 #33

I have no problem with any of this Amishman Dec 2018 #16

The only problem I have with this is his making... WePurrsevere Dec 2018 #19

No problem with the punishment if she is healthy. WeekiWater Dec 2018 #22

but it was uphill! both ways! ;) - n/t Locrian Dec 2018 #29

lol Demovictory9 Dec 2018 #38

People need to stop publicly shaming their kids. The punishment itself was enough. Luciferous Dec 2018 #23

I made my daughter do the same thing mercuryblues Dec 2018 #25

You're lucky this worked!!! LeftInTX Dec 2018 #37

I am really glad he followed her home. I do worry that it makes physical activity 33taw Dec 2018 #26

On familiy trips, we regularly got booted out of the car for a walk Ms. Toad Dec 2018 #27

I had fighter kids in my car LeftInTX Dec 2018 #39

We had a VW bus Ms. Toad Dec 2018 #42

I would have driven her to school if I were her dad. Blue_true Dec 2018 #28

I loath Social Media used as punishment for kids in general Charlotte Little Dec 2018 #31

Public shaming is no better than corporal punishment Ms. Toad Dec 2018 #44

First off Charlotte Little Dec 2018 #49

All of what you describe is bullying, and not necessary. Ms. Toad Dec 2018 #56

You're entitled to your opinion Charlotte Little Dec 2018 #59

Here's Concrete Evidence RobinA Dec 2018 #65

That's a very cute story, actually Charlotte Little Dec 2018 #69

I have no issue with the punishment Devil Child Dec 2018 #35

I take issue with it all - including the walking womanofthehills Dec 2018 #51

5 miles is one hour of walking at 12 minutes a mile. Slower, maybe 1.5 hours Demovictory9 Dec 2018 #64

I got in trouble aftrr school when I was 12 or so. Got in a fight. GulfCoast66 Dec 2018 #45

This message was self-deleted by its author GulfCoast66 Dec 2018 #46

If five miles isn't a real punishment as narrated to us by replies... LanternWaste Dec 2018 #48

Punishment fetishists are gonna love this one. Iggo Dec 2018 #50

Agree with you womanofthehills Dec 2018 #52

He made her walk uphill, both ways Jersey Devil Dec 2018 #54

My parenting method was very different than this, and is demonstrably effective. byronius Dec 2018 #55

This is a wonderful post. Thank you. Yes, a lot of parents are lazy and want to take shortcuts pnwmom Dec 2018 #61

Having a partner smarter than me helped. byronius Dec 2018 #66

Thank you for this! I try to parent like you. I do really well sometimes at explaining things OhioBlue Dec 2018 #71

I have a problem with publicly shaming a kid on facebook. LisaL Dec 2018 #57

100% with the Father. He followed her, she was in no danger and learned actions have consequences. NoMoreRepugs Dec 2018 #58

Including with him publicly humiliating her on Facebook? pnwmom Dec 2018 #67

The walking was fine but posting it Raine Dec 2018 #60

Fuck that guy... cynatnite Dec 2018 #70