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dixiegrrrrl

(60,010 posts)
Thu Mar 26, 2015, 01:33 PM Mar 2015

DU member ms.smiler is no longer with us.

Her given name was Mary Ann, she was a small business owner in Penn.
She posted often about the mortgage fraud, was very knowledgeable, and had emailed me a lot of valuable info.on the subject.
One of her happys was suing illegal robocall people, she used the Consumer Protection Act against them, and invariably won!
Very very smart lady. Wickedly funny, too.

She was a very proud grandmother for the first time, and sent pictures over the months of her grandbaby.

Last Sept. one of my emails to her was returned with a message from her son that she had suffered a very very serious stroke,
he was quite shaken and prospects did not look good for her.
I have not heard from the family since.

I do miss her a lot.



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DU member ms.smiler is no longer with us. (Original Post) dixiegrrrrl Mar 2015 OP
So sorry to hear this! Strokes are such serious events! RKP5637 Mar 2015 #1
Many are very serious - LiberalElite Mar 2015 #47
Excellent words of wisdom!!!!!! n/t RKP5637 Mar 2015 #48
I got lucky 2 months ago, with my stroke (Jan 21) SoCalDem Mar 2015 #50
That's when mine happened - when I was asleep - LiberalElite Mar 2015 #56
My left arm & leg were "spaghetti" SoCalDem Mar 2015 #58
Did they give you LiberalElite Mar 2015 #61
Since they did not know when it happened, they said I was not a candidate SoCalDem Mar 2015 #63
Oh i didn't know - thought the injection was for everyone LiberalElite Mar 2015 #64
The nurse told me that it was dangerous to give it if you did not know exactly SoCalDem Mar 2015 #65
:( shenmue Mar 2015 #2
So sorry that we have lost another good person. sinkingfeeling Mar 2015 #3
Yes, I remember her from this thread: closeupready Mar 2015 #4
thank you for this BlancheSplanchnik Mar 2015 #19
YVW, Blanche. closeupready Mar 2015 #20
And she was nice & patient & open-hearted to a poster who A-Schwarzenegger Mar 2015 #44
Wow! Sadly, I don't have personal recollections, but her posts in that thread... Cooley Hurd Mar 2015 #36
It was a long time coming for that poster laundry_queen Mar 2015 #41
Exactly. I can smell a RW troll a mile away. closeupready Mar 2015 #49
Wow. She joined DU just one week before I did. madinmaryland Mar 2015 #42
Thanks for the link - ms.smiler was a VERY smart person. erronis Mar 2015 #62
What sad news. May she rest in peace. myrna minx Mar 2015 #5
That's two... KamaAina Mar 2015 #6
Damn. progressoid Mar 2015 #7
Peace be with Mary Ann... Mike Nelson Mar 2015 #8
kick. midnight Mar 2015 #9
RIP. Damn, seems like everyone is dying LittleBlue Mar 2015 #10
Yeah, no kidding. calimary Mar 2015 #17
I'm sorry you lost a friend. herding cats Mar 2015 #11
Not only sued, not only won, dixiegrrrrl Mar 2015 #15
She sounds like a wonderful person. herding cats Mar 2015 #28
Such sad news blm Mar 2015 #12
So sorry to hear this... joeybee12 Mar 2015 #13
RIP ms.smiler bigwillq Mar 2015 #14
may she rest in peace Liberal_in_LA Mar 2015 #16
Omg, I am so sorry to hear that. I received so much information from her regarding Mortgage Fraud sabrina 1 Mar 2015 #18
I am very sad to hear this. n/t Mugu Mar 2015 #21
Sad news. May she rest in peace. LoisB Mar 2015 #22
Very sad to lose another DUer. mountain grammy Mar 2015 #23
Mary Ann... Dont call me Shirley Mar 2015 #24
... glinda Mar 2015 #25
Did she pass away? I did not see that here, but see the RIP's. TheNutcracker Mar 2015 #26
My assumption is that she did pass away. dixiegrrrrl Mar 2015 #33
I didn't know her but anyone who could get the best of Cleita Mar 2015 #27
I got to know her when my friend was going through a foreclosure on her house. sabrina 1 Mar 2015 #53
I am so sorry. LeftishBrit Mar 2015 #29
May She Rest In Peace, DU Is More Than Forum, We're A Family! Corey_Baker08 Mar 2015 #30
So sorry to hear this brentspeak Mar 2015 #31
Damn, she was amazing dreamnightwind Mar 2015 #32
Peace to her and comfort to her family. kairos12 Mar 2015 #34
She'll be missed. I'm thinking of her family. BlueJazz Mar 2015 #35
Cross gently, ms.smiler... Cooley Hurd Mar 2015 #37
... sheshe2 Mar 2015 #38
All the best karma to her; I am so praying she's improving. raven mad Mar 2015 #39
Deepest sympathy malaise Mar 2015 #40
Aw, damn. Peace to her friends and family. nt ladyVet Mar 2015 #43
Rest in peace ms.smiler lovemydog Mar 2015 #45
This saddens me. I hope she makes a good recovery. Ilsa Mar 2015 #46
:( MynameisBlarney Mar 2015 #51
In memory of ms.smiler Dems to Win Mar 2015 #52
So sorry, dixiegrrrrl. I hope that she's just having a long recovery... countryjake Mar 2015 #54
I'm sorry that you miss her. Major Hogwash Mar 2015 #55
I'm so sorry to hear this. My condolences to you, her family and friends. MerryBlooms Mar 2015 #57
So sorry to hear of her passing. Another good person gone. nt Fla Dem Mar 2015 #59
Condolences riqster Mar 2015 #60

LiberalElite

(14,691 posts)
47. Many are very serious -
Thu Mar 26, 2015, 08:36 PM
Mar 2015

a co-worker ended up in the hospital for a couple months and then rehab. I had a stroke several years ago and got off very very easily. There is a window of about 3 hours after a stroke in which they can give an injection of some substance that can mitigate the damage. I blew past that window by over 24 hours. As a result I have some relatively minor, but permanent, residuals on one side. It could have been much worse - my doctor said it was caused by a tiny clot in a tiny blood vessel but in my brain stem.

The point of this post is - it doesn't take a big clog of gunk to cause a stroke. Watch your diet and exercise.

SoCalDem

(103,856 posts)
50. I got lucky 2 months ago, with my stroke (Jan 21)
Thu Mar 26, 2015, 10:30 PM
Mar 2015

Last edited Fri Mar 27, 2015, 06:44 AM - Edit history (2)

woke up and my left side was GONE...

I had a inch long "oopsie"..and fully recovered..whew !!

It happened while I was asleep..

So now I take my 325 aspirin and my statin..and hope I will not repeat the "event"..

LiberalElite

(14,691 posts)
56. That's when mine happened - when I was asleep -
Fri Mar 27, 2015, 06:24 AM
Mar 2015

I woke up, got up and fell over. Although I was aware of stroke symptoms, when it actually happened to me I was just "what the fuck" I couldn't walk without bumping into everything. Balance was completly kaput. Then I was concerned they'd be mad at me at work for calling in sick the day before Christmas. (!!) But I obviously wasn't going anywhere.

SoCalDem

(103,856 posts)
58. My left arm & leg were "spaghetti"
Fri Mar 27, 2015, 06:43 AM
Mar 2015

Lucky for me, I was able to make it to the bathroom somehow before I peed my britches...I normally would have slept for 3 more hours..
That's about how long it took for my arm & leg to come back (at the hospital)... for my arm & leg to come back.. I may not have ever even known I had had a stroke

LiberalElite

(14,691 posts)
61. Did they give you
Fri Mar 27, 2015, 01:07 PM
Mar 2015

that injection? There's about a three hour window after the stroke in which it'll mitigate the damage. I blew past that deadline by about 36 hours.

SoCalDem

(103,856 posts)
63. Since they did not know when it happened, they said I was not a candidate
Fri Mar 27, 2015, 05:36 PM
Mar 2015

and since my stroke was not a hemorrhagic one, it turns out that the injection could have caused a bleed..

LiberalElite

(14,691 posts)
64. Oh i didn't know - thought the injection was for everyone
Fri Mar 27, 2015, 07:23 PM
Mar 2015

mine wasn't hemorrhagic either but I showed up in the E.R. way too late.

SoCalDem

(103,856 posts)
65. The nurse told me that it was dangerous to give it if you did not know exactly
Fri Mar 27, 2015, 08:06 PM
Mar 2015

when the stroke happened , and in some cases it could cause bleeding.. It scared me, even though I was miffed that they might be withholding something that I might have needed..

The whole episode was frightening though, because when the use of my left side came back it left again twice more before it came back & stayed....

It was like someone was flipping a switch..and I just hoped that the last flip was my way

 

closeupready

(29,503 posts)
4. Yes, I remember her from this thread:
Thu Mar 26, 2015, 01:41 PM
Mar 2015
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10025575501#post28

VERY smart woman. Interesting that the one with whom she and I sparred on that thread was PPR'ed not long after this thread.

Thanks for the head's up.

BlancheSplanchnik

(20,219 posts)
19. thank you for this
Thu Mar 26, 2015, 02:18 PM
Mar 2015

I never "met" her, since that's not a subject I'm into.

But reading her here.....I really like her.


Peace and vibes.....


 

Cooley Hurd

(26,877 posts)
36. Wow! Sadly, I don't have personal recollections, but her posts in that thread...
Thu Mar 26, 2015, 06:41 PM
Mar 2015

...were BRILLIANT!!!!

Funny how the person on the losing side of the argument has been banned!!!

laundry_queen

(8,646 posts)
41. It was a long time coming for that poster
Thu Mar 26, 2015, 07:31 PM
Mar 2015

never met a right wing economic theory he didn't like and defend vigorously.

I remember that exchange well - ms.smiler was wonderful.

herding cats

(19,516 posts)
11. I'm sorry you lost a friend.
Thu Mar 26, 2015, 02:12 PM
Mar 2015

I didn't know her, but I read through some of her postings from a thread linked here. She was smart as a whip, and any person who sued those vile robocall people would have been a hero of mine.

dixiegrrrrl

(60,010 posts)
15. Not only sued, not only won,
Thu Mar 26, 2015, 02:16 PM
Mar 2015

but had such a lovely victory giggle about it.

She was the only other person besides me that I knew would do this.

even when I was overwhelmed by all the mortgage details, she would carry on, poking at the beasts.
She had 2 lawsuits going with her mortgage bank.
I guess they are moot now.

herding cats

(19,516 posts)
28. She sounds like a wonderful person.
Thu Mar 26, 2015, 03:33 PM
Mar 2015

I wish I'd have had the good fortune to have at least met her on here.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
18. Omg, I am so sorry to hear that. I received so much information from her regarding Mortgage Fraud
Thu Mar 26, 2015, 02:17 PM
Mar 2015

after one of my friends lost her home illegally. She was a fountain of information and so willing to share it.

I hadn't seen her for a while but assumed she was just busy.

This is such sad news!

dixiegrrrrl

(60,010 posts)
33. My assumption is that she did pass away.
Thu Mar 26, 2015, 03:59 PM
Mar 2015

From what her son said in sharing details, he did not expect she would live from the stroke
and I have had nothing from her since.
She would have definitely contacted me if she were able to.

Cleita

(75,480 posts)
27. I didn't know her but anyone who could get the best of
Thu Mar 26, 2015, 02:50 PM
Mar 2015

the robo-callers gets extra special prayers from me. I hope she's on the road to recovery.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
53. I got to know her when my friend was going through a foreclosure on her house.
Fri Mar 27, 2015, 12:30 AM
Mar 2015

She really was a fountain of information on the subject, and she was very feisty, so I'm not surprised to learn that she went after robo callers. Wish I had had a chance to talk to her about that also.

I miss her and feel so sad to hear she is no longer with us!

raven mad

(4,940 posts)
39. All the best karma to her; I am so praying she's improving.
Thu Mar 26, 2015, 07:23 PM
Mar 2015

Strokes are the worst, and my heart hurts for her.

countryjake

(8,554 posts)
54. So sorry, dixiegrrrrl. I hope that she's just having a long recovery...
Fri Mar 27, 2015, 12:49 AM
Mar 2015

and maybe you'll hear from Mary Ann soon. Thanks for letting us know about her, it's so sad when some of us simply drop quietly away and DUers are only left to wonder (or worse, few of us even notice that they're missing). I'm still worrying about where Uncle Joe got to.

Peace for Mary Ann and a hug for you


Here are a few useful links, in honor of the tenacious ms.smiler. I think I might file a complaint this week on a particularly obnoxious robo-caller, in memory of Mary Ann:

https://www.donotcall.gov/

https://www.fcc.gov/guides/robocalls

Telephone Consumer Protection Act
http://transition.fcc.gov/cgb/policy/TCPA-Rules.pdf

Major Hogwash

(17,656 posts)
55. I'm sorry that you miss her.
Fri Mar 27, 2015, 01:21 AM
Mar 2015

I don't remember seeing her nickname, but that doesn't mean she wasn't important here.
Sadly, a lot of the old familiar names are no longer here.

I try to limit my time here more now because of it.
At times like this, I always remember what the Wizard said to the Tin Man --

A heart is not judged by how much you love; but by how much you are loved by others.


I hope that she knew how you, and many others at DU felt about her, and loved her.

Peace.

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