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In reply to the discussion: California becomes First State in Nation to Ban 'Gay Cure' Therapy for Children [View all]Manifestor_of_Light
(21,046 posts)breathing and alive, no matter if they are straight or gay. God is a crooked prosecutor; he wants to send you to hell for existing, because a priori, before you are aware of good and bad, you are a sinner. That's extremely abusive. Original sin is a lie based on a fairy tale.
Raising a child in ANY Christian Church is abusive because you have to believe in Original Sin to be a Christian. It is the starting premise. And the cure for this magic affliction, substitutionary atonement, is unnecessary. An unnecessary and unproven cure for a made up problem, invented by church officials to keep the people shamed, scared to death, giving them their money and time so they won't go to Hell, and obedient.
Read Healing the Shame That Binds You, by John Bradshaw, Ph.D.
http://www.amazon.com/Healing-Shame-Binds-Recovery-Classics/dp/0757303234/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1349328493&sr=1-1&keywords=healing+the+shame+that+binds+you
An excerpt:
Shame is a natural feeling that, when allowed to function well, monitors a person's sense of excitement or pleasure.
But when the feeling of shame is violated by a coercive and perfectionistic religion and cultureespecially by shame-based source figures who mediate religion and cultureit becomes an all-embracing identity. A person with internalized shame believes he is inherently flawed, inferior and defective. Such a feeling is so painful that defending scripts (or strategies) are developed to cover it up. These scripts are the roots of violence, criminality, war and all forms of addiction.
What I'll mainly describe in the first part of this book is how the affect shame can become the source of self-loathing, hatred of others, cruelty, violence, brutality, prejudice and all forms of destructive addictions. As an internalized identity, toxic shame is one of the major sources of the demonic in human life. Endquote
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And yet people give Christianity a pass, although its doctrines spoken by its ministers destroy millions of people as children, break their will to do anything on their own, and deprive the world of millions of creative works of art and creative acts.
For further reading, read The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller. She calls this brutal authoritarian child rearing style the "poisonous pedagogy". It produces tyrants like Adolf Hitler. The parents are always right, no matter how unreasonable their demands, and the children must protect the feelings of the parents.
John Bradshaw expanded on Alice Miller's work in many books.