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In reply to the discussion: Adults that spoil kids aggravate me [View all]Sarah Ibarruri
(21,043 posts)And it's illegal. She could've been arrested.
I agree that the child I referred to in my OP is quite different from most. Certainly day from night from the kids my sister has! On the other hand, when my sister's kids are not behaving properly, she certainly makes it known to them in one way or another. She doesn't stand adoringly by and watch them be destructive or a pest to others. Doing nothing while they engage in destructive, rude behavior, is a statement to the child that what they're doing is fine, good, okay.
I don't doubt most parents love their children. However, that's not the same thing as saying that all parents are suitable to be parents, although I'm sure all parents think themselves most excellent and would take issue with anyone who said otherwise. The mom who brought her child to my party and then allowed him to run wild and do anything, is definitely not much of a parent at all.
I agree with you that children who are raised in households where there's no order, schedule, control, rules or anything, are also bad for the rest of families. They're bad everywhere. Other kids know them as bullies.
I do think there's a big disconnect between reality and whatever is in the mind of a parent who stands adoringly by while their child is destructive, bothering others, or behaves like the tyrant of the household.