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In reply to the discussion: Adults that spoil kids aggravate me [View all]Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Several years back, we moved into the place we're at now. We had (still have) some neighbors who we sort of knew from the old place. Minute we moved in, they glommed onto us, which was fine, they asked me for all sorts of 'favors' that involved me driving all over creation to pick up and help them move pieces of furniture, etc.... again, all fine. I'm a helpful and friendly guy.
So these guys are married, she's the 2nd wife, he's got teenagers from a prev. marriage that occasionally stay with them. But no kids for her, certainly no little ones. So she decided early on that my wife was her new best friend and (most importantly) emotional venting stack. Call up at odd hours, lets take a walk, I need to go off about job, husband, ohmygodnooneunderstandsme, yadda yadda.
Again, all fine. My wife is okay with being called upon to listen. And the exercise is good.
So about a year or so into this, our littlest one was maybe just turned two... and 2nd wife lady calls my wife and is like "I need to talk, let's take a walk". My wife, home alone with 2 year old, says "great, but I need to bring ******"
At which point, this "adult" throws a giant, whiny, entitled fucking temper tantrum: "I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY YOU ALWAYS NEED TO HAVE THE KID AND I DONT WANT TO SIT AND FOCUS ON CHILDREN AND BABIES AND BLAH BLAH BLAH ME ME ME BLAH BLAH BLAH ME ME ME"
Uh, yeah. So my wife is supposed to do... what? Leave the 2 year old at home-- alone--- so this grousy, self-absorbed, 'childfree' so-called adult can have her full attention as she engages in another hour long piss-and-moan over 'oh, why is the universe not constructed to be more convenient to my endlessly sensitive IMPORTANT emotional needs'???????
It ended the friendship. After all the shit we'd done for them, apparently, my wife not being able to leave a 2 yr old in the house alone for an hour was just too, ah, "selfish"...
Some people with kids just don't fucking get it. So, fine, don't hang out with parents. Because we already have kids, we can't take care of you TOO.