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In reply to the discussion: Posting T&A threads helps to create a hostile environment for women here. [View all]cui bono
(19,926 posts)That's more the equivalent of posting an OP. It's out there for everyone to see. Having it in your own cubicle is akin to having it on your own computer. The workplace was used as an example more than a metric. Of course you can't use the church as churches have varying belief systems. The workplace is at least under some sort of legal jurisdiction so it lends itself as a guide. I would suggest that you can use a scenario of hanging out with your female friends and relatives as a guide as well.
And you've missed the point if you think it's about women wearing bikinis, that's not it at all. It's about posting it on DU and about the drooling over them in a public place that's supposed to be progressive and supposed to treat women with respect rather than ogling them in public. Hell, as I mentioned elsewhere, I go to nude beaches, so it's not about that. It's about how we are treated as objects.
You can defer to Skinner, but he seems to defer to us. DU3 is about being community run. So if everyone here is not going to act considerately without being told to well that's pretty immature and self-centered.
I'm not trying to tell anyone how to act and think other than that people should be respectful and considerate. You know, when the term African-American first started getting used I didn't understand it. It doesn't make sense to me, but if that's the term that those who belong to that group want me to use I'll use it. I can't begin to understand what it's like to be black so I defer to what they feel comfortable with. I'm not going to react as too many people on here have and whine about being repressed and controlled and ordered around. That doesn't take anything away from me to use a different term. It's the same thing with T&A threads. It doesn't take anything away from anyone here to not post them on DU. There's a whole internet of T&A out there. I think it's pretty telling that some think it's such a terrible thing to be asked not to post them or participate in them.
Again, it's basic consideration and respect. When friends tell you something bothers them do you tell them whatever and continue to do it? That's what it comes down to.