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In reply to the discussion: Dad's 'I am bitterly, bitterly disappointed' email to adult kids goes viral [View all]LiberalEsto
(22,845 posts)Each of my daughters has dropped out of 5 colleges, and left us with tens of thousands of dollars in student loans. Neither one has a degree, though one is 2 credits short of a BA and the other 3 credits short of an AA.
Neither one works at the moment, though the older one at least does work most of the time. The younger one hasn't worked in years and has a number of other issues I won't get into. Both live with us. Neither one has ever contributed a dime toward their student loans.
I tried my best to raise them well and set limits, rules, etc. Unfortunately my husband is a classic enabler who let them do whatever they wanted, and yelled at me if I raised my voice to them. Now he realizes the damage this has done, but it's too late.
I would give anything to see them finish their degrees. What I wouldn't give to attend someone's graduation. Get decent jobs. Pay their own way in life. (The older one does, except for the loans) Move out. I stopped writing Christmas letters to family and friends because I'm so ashamed and disappointed in my daughters.