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Is DU somehow immune to rape culture?

So when all those guys come into threads to insist that the accused rapist is innocent and the victim a liar, that's a figment of my imagination. When they insist women should dress appropriately, not drink, and not go out after dark if they don't want to be raped, that has absolutely nothing to do with rape culture. When they insist that rape prevention PSAs that mention the word men, once, are "misandrist" and the only acceptable rape prevention campaigns are those that seek to control women's behavior, that's not rape culture. "When they misrepresent the facts to insist false allegations of rape are commonplace, that isn't rape culture. When they insist rape isn't really a problem because it's prevalence in the population has declined with other violent crimes, that isn't rape culture. When someone says that a rape victim who had the nerve to report her rapist to police should get what's coming to her, that's not rape culture. When men insist women shut up about rape and domestic violence because the posts are illegitimate if they aren't about male victims, that isn't rape culture.

Only it is. Rape culture defined: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_culture

No one need apologize for being male. Nor is being male an excuse for denying the existence of something as obvious as rape culture because frankly most men are not that out of it. One might like certain individuals to consider that lives besides their own have some value, but then some people are simply not predisposed to care about anyone who isn't exactly like them. I however know what I'm dealing with, so I expect exactly nothing. I don't seek an apology. I am instead eternally grateful I do not have to encounter them in my real life.

Frida Kahlo is not impressed

by Democratic debate in the 21st century.

Anyone else feel like this?

I need this framed over my desk.

Idris Elba (Mandela) on Charlie Rose, right now!!!!!

Idris Elba is on Charlie Rose talking about his role in the film on Mandela that opens in theaters today.
I am sooooo excited!!!!!!!!!!!!! Check listings in your area.

"jumps out of the water and uses those teeth to break nuts"

Everybody, hide your nuts.

Senhor Testiculo in better days

I have some very disturbing news

It seems Senhor Testiculo has fallen on hard times. His life is in imminent danger.


Wow. I didn't expect that comparison

Ladies, listen up

No more posts from Jezebel making fun of MRA types. No more making fun of "misandry," the word that even spell check doesn't know. You "in your face feminists" are a royal pain because you make some men feel bad. The most important lesson for being a feminist is that you must never under any circumstances make a man feel bad. So if you post about far right-wing MRA ideas, and some random DUer can't be bothered to read the article or figure out the context and therefore takes it as a condemnation of all men, that's just your fault. Don't recommend threads because if they end up on the home page or greatest page and someone can't be bothered to read the OP or see which group its in, that's all your fault.

So here are the lessons for proper "feminist" etiquette:

Don't broad brush. Now one might think broad brushing means leaping to conclusions about all men are this or that. However, as has been pointed out to we slow learners of HOF, broad brushing also includes any discussion of sexism or patriarchy or any critique of MRA Groups. What is not broadbrushing, however, is when a man uses an example of his ex-girlfriend as evidence of what is wrong with all women. That's okay because he's a guy and you're just a woman.

Stick to the ERA.
Acceptable feminist "tactics" involve limiting your speech to what men find acceptable. So rather than talking about social norms, sexism, and misogyny, keep it simple, focus on the ERA. We were told that at least three times in a recent thread, so we must learn.

Don't talk about rape: Rape is a big bummer, unless of course it's the subject of porn, then it's totally cool. Discussion of real rape bums some guys out. Remember that rape really isn't that big of a deal because it's numbers are in decline. So no "haranging" men about how to prevent rape. The only acceptable rape prevention campaigns are those that lecture women on their behavior. Men have absolutely nothing to do with rape. Rapists have absolutely nothing to do with rape. Rape is entirely a function of how much a woman drinks, what she wears, and where she goes.

Don't talk about violence against women. If you aren't talking about violence against men, you have no right to mention violence period.

If a man claims to be a Democrat, he is your ally. What he says or does is inconsequential. That he claims to be a Democrat is enough. You have no right under any circumstances to suggest anything about him is anything other than perfect.

So final lesson: Focus on the ERA. Be nice. Smile. Don't be overly forceful in stating your opinions. Don't talk about stuff that bums guys out. Work only for those rights men agree are necessary or acceptable. Remember ladies. This isn't the Congo or Saudi Arabia. They let us drive and wear clothing that shows our legs. Remember how lucky you are. Above all, stay in your place.

No, of course not!

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