|
Edited on Wed Apr-18-07 07:06 PM by Daedelus76
I hope Asian Americans and Korean-Americans do't become targets in some kind of backlash over the VT shootings. Especially the family members. I don't think it's likely to happen, but you never know.
And the family really cannot be held to blame at all. After all, their son is an adult, and for all we know he had a normal childhood. Once he's an adult, they can't wave a magic wand and force him to get help. Maybe they footed the bill for his college education... who knows... but they only wanted good things for their son.
Asian Americans have it very hard in the US. They are misunderstood. Unlike Blacks and Hispanics, they are assumed to be always more affluent, hard working, and smarter, so they aren't worthy of as much concern. But there are often language and cultural barriers that keep them from assimilating into the broader culture, and still alot of racism against Asians.
My adopted cousin was born somewhere in Korea. He lives in Oklahoma now. He grew up Catholic. He's bad at math. He likes subjects in school like English, Spanish, etc., and he doesn't speak any Korean or know much about his own culture- nor does he seem to care to, beyond the fact he likes Chinese food. I remember once he was visiting us, he was maybe 8 and I was 16 or so, and he said he wasn't really "American". I corrected him right then and there and told him he was as American as anybody. Maybe that rubbed off on him in a good way, I hope so.
He wants to take marketting in college. I have a feeling maybe he is actually gay but in the closet, because his parents are very conservative Catholic and Greek Orthodox. Or he could just be really effeminate and confused. He doesn't have dolls or anything like that, but he was as a teen obsessed with Britney Spears music (barf, that's what me and my brother said), and didn't care about the typical video games most kids did (but then, my aunt is very much a fundie and doesn't like blood and gore, go figure), wasn't interested in airplanes or anything remotely boy-ish. I sort of blame my other aunt (childless) because she wasn't a real good influence on him, and alot of the time she "raised" him, doing "girl" stuff because she didn't have any real children of her own (my aunt is very anal rentetive- she's a nice person but turned off by anything remotely masculine, except for my uncle). He's a great guy, though, but he gets treated very differently for being an Asian. At one time he wanted to be an actor or something crazy like that, but the reality is beyond chop-sokey martial arts films, there's not alot of room in American culture for Asian. And that's very wrong.
|