Warning to cute girls who are wannabee "beauty queens" or who expect to get jobs later on in life

[SoCalDem]

and the same warning to guys too..especially "rowdy" college boys

TIMES HAVE CHANGED..


In days past, the only "evidence" of your shenanigans may have been some fuzzy polaroids, taken by a drunken friend ..(these often had more of the photographers thumb in the picture than anything else)... and of course there was always here-say 'evidence'.. (OHMYGOD-YOU-SHOULD-HAVE-BEEN-THERE.. SO AND SO DID THIS AND THAT...)

These days young people should be SURE that EVERYTHING they do when they are "out & about" WILL end up on-line in someone's blog or on You Tube or MY Face (or whatever it's called)

Employers DO use the internet to search for this sort of thing, as do rivals for jobs you may want. teachers look, school administrators look..everyone you KNOW looks.

You LIVE a public life these days, and you can not deny anything that shows a picture of you DOING it..

There are things we all have done in our young lives that seem perfectly normal and fun at the time....but when you grow up a bit and especially when you have children, these things make you cringe.

Who wants to have their 10 yr old son looking at pictures of Mommy kissing some drunk guy in his underpants? or of Mommy blitzed out of her mind, dancing half-naked at a party?

[slackmaster]

1. K&R

Well said.

:kick:

[Tandalayo_Scheisskopf]

2. Oh damn.

I knew I shouldn't have posted those nude photos of me on the net.

I did get a lot of compliments, however. Some people felt the were the most effective emetic they ever used.

[northernsoul]

3. doubleplus true if you ever want to work in a law firm

You really, really don't want to flush 7 years of post-secondary education and all of its attendant debt down the hole because of some stupid pictures up on Facebook.

[NeedleCast]

4. I guess this only applies if

you think dancing half-naked blitzed out of your mind at a party is a bad thing?

[SoCalDem]

7. Heh-heh-heh.. haven't we ALL done that?)

but MY pictures are in my head..safe and sound:):evilgrin: and I was only 1/4 naked :)

[BlooInBloo]

10. Nope. Only if you think *other people think* it's a bad thing.

[wildhorses]

5. you interviewed me, didn't you?

how bout we work a deal? i can do things you know:evilgrin:

[Sweet Freedom]

6. Live your life as if you're always being recorded. /nt

[pitohui]

12. better never to have lived at all than to live like that

you could never take a dump or have sex even w. your own spouse if you lived as if you were always being recorded

what's wrong w/ people that they even think this reasonable advice?

[Clark2008]

31. Why couldn't I have sex with my spouse on camera?

Ooops...

:blush:

[pitohui]

47. friend let me put it this way

if you could have sex w. your spouse on camera and it's internet safe then you ain't doing it right

[followthemoney]

43. Big Brother is watching. Fuck him. He's soliciting a blowjob in a

public restroom. Find a picture of your boss and you can do what you want an get paid for it.

[pitohui]

48. agreed that's the spirit

we all take a dump some time

we all do something in bed that aunt martha and the angel gabriel and the baby jesus it makes them cry

ya just can't live life unless you color outside the lines

[BlooInBloo]

21. God is always watching.

[yardwork]

8. I tell my sons this all the time.

Employers, colleges and universities, the press - everybody googles anybody applying for anything nowadays.

I tell my teenage sons that the last thing they need is a photo of them doing something stupid or illegal on the internet. I also tell them to be very careful about what they write, too.

[NeedleCast]

16. I can't wait for the future

As we all sit around in a room, nervously eyeing each other, wondering if anyone doesn't like us and making sure we're not doing anything that anyone might find offensive.

Because as soon as that happens, I'm going to run into that room naked, fart loudly and then find the nearest bar.

[yardwork]

19. LOL! I think that there is a fine line between repressed and....stupid.

[NuttyFluffers]

49. just like the wisdom of Ben Franklin, "Fart Proudly!"

part of being free is owning your actions and not being ashamed of them. if you let yourself be ruled by fear of everyone else's opinions then you are truly a prisoner with no hope of freedom. better to live on your feet standing, warts and all, being proud of who you are.

[diamidue]

22. Me, too!

I cringe to think how many of my computer-savvy relatives may already be viewing his escapades on-line. Fortunately, we are mostly a family of luddites. But, employers are a different story.

[SoCalDem]

24. My son's friend lost a fiancee because he showed up on a Girls Gone Wild tape from Havasu

My son was at the same bash, but thankfully, he had his hands to himself.... in the video at least :eyes:

[iconoclastic cat]

30. I hate to ask, but how'd she find that out? nt

[SoCalDem]

34. A friend told her & then showed her the video

He tried to wiggle out of it, but she did not buy his excuse.. He's married now to another woman, and she has seen the tape too.. Noting terribly "nasty"..just a 21 yr old drunk guy with his hands on a young topless woman's boobs..

[Clark2008]

33. Good for the fiancee. She found out what a cheat her

man was before she got suckered into marrying him. That would have been nothing but heartache.

And, yes, I realize being engaged isn't marriage, but it should be the "test," you know.

I'm so glad I'm married to my guy. He wouldn't dream of cheating on me... well, he might DREAM, but he wouldn't do it. :7

[pitohui]

9. if you don't have a life the photos will be "shopped" anyway, this is dumb advice

the problem w. giving up your youth and not living your life because someday "they" will know you were once young is that photographs are easily shopped

hell there were sex photos supposedly associated w. my MOM sent around the fabulous internets a few years ago and it is not because she ever posed nude or participated in facebook or friendster, which probably didn't even exist then, it's because her industry is a competitive one, she is a female, and photos are very easily faked

life is too short to live worrying about nasty photos of yourself on the net, i've never posed doing the nasty, nor has my mom, and yet these photos will be produced by the jealous or the envious anyway

the only "cure" for this is to not be cute, not to have any money, not to ever have a rival in love or business

ya just can't live like that

next?

and by the way don't forget, everything you did in fifth grade IS in your permanent record

[SoCalDem]

13. I was teacher's pet in the 5th grade.. and my permanent record is clean as a whistle

:)

I know pictures can be photoshopped, but I also know how in love kids are with their phone-cams too :) and photoshops CAN be unmasked :)

I always told my boys that they should always think before they acted.. and the first thought might be "Would I like this on the front page of the newspaper ":evilgrin:

One kid ignored my advice & he lived to regret it :(

[northzax]

18. indeed

by far the better advice is to delete any references that you yourself have made. lock your myspace, lock your facebook, delete your blog (or make it anonymous) if there is anything on there that might be too embarrassing. something that someone else attributes to you "Jane is such a slut, she got drunk and pulled a train on the lacrosse team" is going to carry a lot less weight than your blog saying "wow, I am such a slut, I got drunk and pulled a train on the lacrosse team."

[iconoclastic cat]

27. Where exactly are these massive perm. records held? lol nt

[SoCalDem]

28. Oh Shit.. I heard that Cheney has TWO "man-sized" safes in his office

:scared:

[iconoclastic cat]

32. Yah know, it's just not that hard to stay anonymous. It's a basic skill.

People need to be taught that, not to be paranoid. For example: Gettin' it on in public? Avoid cameras. Better yet, get a room. Duh!

[pitohui]

51. there are 300,000 google references to my name (just checked) :-)

and if you have a common name, probably more -- a dear friend w. a common name i just googled and he has 2 million 600 hundred thousand references to his name

ya know what?

it ain't worth worrying about

most of the crap they pull up will be somebody else of the same name who actually DID have the courage to live

i pity the fool who uses this as an excuse to fear to live

[w8liftinglady]

11. lol-thank god they didn't have the internet when I was 20

[SoCalDem]

14. Isn't THAT the truth?

I had a LOT of fun in college. I am SOOOOO glad there are no pictures :)

[monmouth]

15. The background check is now the employer's best friend. If you

receive a DUI or anything that's going to get you in front of a judge, remember this will follow you around for many a year. That old saw about "getting it expunged" is not as easy as that. If the case was heard and you were guilty, look for a job without background checks and good luck... If you were found innocent consult an attorney. Easier to just not do anything stupid...

[MuseRider]

17. I say thank god for that thumb!

I have a few rowdy photos out there but I can't even remember the name of the person who took them! If you remember the 60's...well you know how that goes. :)

[Ron Green]

20. Also: Think carefully about where you locate your tattoos.

[w8liftinglady]

23. good point-i went to a club where a guy had

"motherfucker" tatooed like a necklace.Another guy had a picture of a penis on his forearm that had "Blow Me" underneath.
Dumbasses

[IronLionZion]

25. I wish those sorts of pics pics of me were out there

because that would mean I have actually done something worth photographing...but i haven't. I've lived a very boring and unfulfilling life.

[progressoid]

26. What about posts on a liberal discussion board?

[SoCalDem]

29. on ANY site where you use your picture or real name

There's an advantage to being old..no one cares anymore :)

[nosmokes]

35. I have the solution! lets just outlaw having fun! n/t

[SoCalDem]

37. "Fun" is not the issue..it's the "forever" pictures online of the fun

:evilgrin:

It's hard to admit, but the internet is forever..unlike our youthful exuberance :)

[The Cleaner]

36. Is this related to miss new jersey's naughty facebook pics?

It is very true - people are putting up all manner of stupid pics on Myspace, facebook, etc. not thinking of the consequences. They don't think anyone will see it. But the do, and they will. All it takes is a quick name search and bam.

Good post.

[markk]

38. thats why you use fake names on the internets

[Threedifferentones]

39. The problem is easy to avoid really:

Just don't use a networking site like FB or MS. And if you are going to post a pic of someone on your blog or something, please be considerate and use only the first name, especially if its your buddy taking a bong rip or something.

[ProgressiveEconomist]

40. In summary: 'Beauty fades--Dumb is forEVER!'. -- Judge Judy

[hunter]

41. Someday we will be troubled by people who DON'T have an internet past.

I can see an employer thinking, "hmmm... I wonder what this guy is hiding..." if she is unable to find a person's foolishness in the inane clutter of the internet. After all, employers will have internet pasts too.

Someday we'll have a President who wins in part because of, and not in spite of, some risque' pictures posted years before on the internet. Maybe voters will wonder why her opponent seems to be hiding his internet past, especially if he hasn't got one.

Ah, but what do I know? I've never been shy about writing my mind or skinny-dipping.

[BlooInBloo]

42. I've actually been told by job headhunters that the impossibility of finding me on the internet...

... would cause problems for potential employers with me. (With my resume in hand, all of which is true, it's essentially impossible to find anything about me on the internet.)

Like most recruiters, she had no idea what the fuck she was talking about.

[pitohui]

50. no hunter you are correct

i wouldn't hire someone who didn't exist on the internet, i got to assume they have something BIG to hide (witness protection program BIG or david vitter diaper fetish BIG)

normal people either have sex lives or even if they don't if they're even moderately successful in their careers then someone has pasted a fake blog about them or a fake sex scene starring them out of pure-dee jealousy

as for the person who thinks that "yeah but it's easy to tell when it's fake" they are dreaming -- the people who have never had lives or the people who are not going to hire you anyway have this little theory of "where there is smoke there is fire"

you cannot live your life to please the prudes and if you do all you do is cheat yourself of your one and only life

as far as only the young being affected by this, my mom was in her late 50s when the pornos were sent around -- you never get so old that nobody is jealous of you unless you have never lived at all

[hunter]

53. You simply smile and say "Yeah I was HOT!"

A man dressed as a robot holding a naked woman at the 1935 Exposition

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You can't allow yourself to be controlled by that fear.

A lot of what is wrong with the Republican leadership is that they have unusual fetishes which they use against each other to maintain loyalty within the party.

It's pretty obvious that the Bush Administration is held together by such threats -- silent whispers of "don't go against us or we'll open up your closet for all the world to see..."

Welcome to J. Edger Hoover world.

[Jed Dilligan]

44. MySpace has tanked a lot of job hunts.

One oblique reference to marijuana in the comments, for instance--yer out. Better to stay totally anonymous on the web. My real name doesn't bring up anything but my resume and some articles I've written.

[NuttyFluffers]

45. i do keep a rather obfuscated life, but i'm all for lenient appreciation of party behavior

i think drug use, wild, wanton sex, and all the other wonderful things in bacchanals should be celebrated and savored by society.

when co-workers are being smeared by some bullshit 'background check' in office politics our culture should respond "that's wonderful! wish i was there!" if people are worried about children looking at 'the evidence' remember that children would rather gouge out their own eyes than see evidence that their parents are sexual beings. i think it's an overreaction to worry about these things. in fact, it's an indictment that we worry even this much.

how to explain such things to your kids? easy: "Well Britney Lee, mommy's human and she had a lot of fun in her youth." done. trust me, the children wouldn't dare flip through the albums so freely after that. and if your coworkers see such stuff and ask, just grin slyly and "jealous? 'cause otherwise you wouldn't bother to ask..." that should shut most of them up.

i never understood the puritanical nature of america... pleasure is nothing to be afraid of.

[SammyWinstonJack]

46. ...

:thumbsup:

[BreweryYardRat]

52. Somewhere out there, there's a picture that could cause problems for me.

Fuckers snapped it before I could put the blunt (one of the very few I've ever smoked) down. Worse, it turns out there was a 60+ naked old guy standing in the shot.

Could be worse. There's another shot of the naked old guy sprawled next to some chick. She was borderline passed-out, and he was pulling on his dong. I can offer a good excuse. She's going to have trouble.

I swear, who thinks it's a good idea to take pics at a geek/goth party?