How is everyone doing this holiday season?

[flamingyouth]

This is a very hard time of year for me, and I know it is for a lot of people.

Regardless of religious affiliation, there's so much emphasis on spending time with family that those of us who grieve are constantly reminded of our losses.

Just wanted to send a hug out to everyone in the group. :hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

1. Well.. holding together but....

You know little things keep making me think about mom. Like the 15th is the date for a school union Xmas concert. I distinctly remember mom telling me she had seen Ian at the one last year. And then I thought how weird it was because it was just a few short weeks after that that she died and now she's not here any more.

Time is all weird for me now. Some days she has been gone forever, some days it's just been a few weeks, and others she's not gone at all and if I call the house she will answer the phone.

Yep.

I still hate the new normal. *blah*

Hope all of us from this group can get through the holidays all right. *great big :grouphug:*

[auntAgonist]

2. thanks flamingyouth!

Holidays are tough, not only am I missing my Mum, but we live far from any family so it's just me and my husband. My son isn't travelling here for Christmas this year because his g/f's Dad is dying and we all feel it more important that they stay put for whatever comes up.

Yeah, it's rough at holiday time.

thanks for thinking of all of us.
Here's a huge :hug: for you too!!!

[livetohike]

3. A hug for you too!

:hug: I'm holding up okay, I think. We are driving back home to Pgh. for the holidays. It will be the 2nd Christmas since my Dad passed, but we have added sadness this year. My Uncle (Mom's oldest brother) died at the end of October.

My Mom says she doesn't feel like celebrating Christmas. She is not sending cards out. My sister-in-law is having us all over for Christmas Eve. So we will do our best.

[we can do it]

4. Thanks and a big hug to everyone from me, too.

I miss my mom terribly - she always made christmastime a lot of fun. Its just not the same without her.

[auntAgonist]

5. we can all get through this ..

:grouphug:


thanks for being here!

[we can do it]

6. Really Missing My Mom....

She's been gone just over a year - she always made the holidays a great fun event. Without her warmth, its just not the same. Still, I am trying to decorate & celebrate & enjoy (as she would want me to). O8)

Hugs to all of you - we can do it together!

:grouphug:

[obxdreamer]

7. It's been three months since the death of my granddaughter...

..and I am having a really hard time tonight, She passed away on Sept 26th of SIDS at three months of age. Frankly, I just want Christmas to be over, and it doesn't help that the third anniversary of my mothers death will be on January 3rd. I miss my grandbaby AND my mom, sometimes it gets too much to bear.

[flamingyouth]

8. I am so sorry.

The death of a child... there are no words. I just can't imagine your pain. You'll be in my prayers. :hug:

[wryter2000]

10. Welcome to DU

I'm glad you found this group.

[auntAgonist]

12. I 'm so terribly sorry for the losses you've experienced.

I can't imagine the loss of one so young :cry:
My mother passed away 8 years ago and it seems like yesterday.

You will be ok. Some days I didn't think I'd be ok, but I am.
I'm glad you found this group of caring people.


Hang in there and stay in touch.

:hug:
kesha

[wryter2000]

9. It's been better

My husband of 25 years died last December 29. He went quickly and without pain, and honestly, I thought he was beginning to slip mentally. It was almost a relief the way he went, given what we could have had to endure.

I do very well during spring, summer, and fall. But the anniversaries are hitting now. I've been through the beginning of his illness and the anniversary of the day we learned he was dying. (He was mostly out of it the whole time and didn't realize what was happening to him.)

I'm coming up on the day I didn't get to the hospital because I had to prepare the house for him to come home to die. I didn't realize that he'd die before he could get home and that I'd never see him alive again. I only hope he didn't "come to" and realize I wasn't there at the end. If only I could know that, I could be happier.

[auntAgonist]

11. I think

You were there in his heart, no matter what and he probably knew that. He felt your presence even when you weren't physically there, just like we 'feel' our loved ones around us.

It's the hope i hang on to.

:hug: to you, I will keep you in my thoughts.

:hug:

aA
kesha