What do you do with people like this?

[BuelahWitch]

I had a friendly acquaintance from a job where I was temping. The job was finished and we promised to keep in touch. So I email her last Monday and asked if she missed me. The first email was like normal, she asked me about my weekend, blah, blah. So I replied to that one.

The next morning I get a really nasty message from her saying that I "went behind everyone's back" and "did what I did," and that she didn't want to me to contact her anymore. Now, I have no clue what it was I am being accused of. I have asked her twice and she wont' say.

Do I care that this 19 year old kid doesn't want to be my friend anymore? Not really. What I am nervous about is that something happened after I left that I'm being blamed for, and that this could cost me precious references for my next job. Of course, no one has contacted me, I'm just getting this BS junior high stuff.

To bring this around to spirituality, I'm trying to pick up a vibe to let me know whether to leave it lie or try and find out what is going on over there. I'm also trying to figure out why I'm attracting this drama (I have enough with being unemployed). I'm no angel, but I certainly didn't do anything to bring this on!

Would anyone care to help?

On edit: please don't tell me to post this to the lounge.

[NMDemDist2]

1. speaking of angels.....

ask your angels to connect with her angels and give you the scoop

forget about it and in 3days (or less) you'll have a dream or a coincidence or something that will let you know what if anything needs be done

[BuelahWitch]

2. Thank you!

:hi: I will do that!

[BlueIris]

3. God. That IS b.s. junior high stuff. Good Lord.

Now, I like AZDem's suggestion, but another I would add is to try burning a yellow candle, which is generally good for protection, as it supposedly invigorates your naval chakra, the center of your life force, which then helps shield you from negative energy. Anything to keep the drama--especially that created by others--away from you during this time would help you, I think.

[BuelahWitch]

4. Thanks for the info Iris

AZDem's suggestion is helping already, because I kinda feel that this isn't something that really happened, this kid is just trying to yank my chain (for whatever reason).
At first I felt bad that the job there had ended, but now I think I'm probably lucky to be out of there.

[BuelahWitch]

5. Well I found out what happened

I sent a personal email to a guy who had been flirting with me on and off for almost the entire time I was working there. I sent it to his personal email box when I was no longer affiliated with him and we were both off the clock. Yes, it was sexy, but he had sent me some sexy stuff in the past, and I thought he liked me.

SO he decided to let the entire office in on my email. I tried to call the office manager to find out what the problem was. The receptionist told me that she saw the "ugly" email I sent this guy. I told her it was not meant for her eyes and I was sorry if it offended her. She gave me some

To say the least I am very, very very upset. I did good work for these people and I had a good rapport with them when I left. Yes, I did something stupid, but I never thought for a minute that he would do something like that.

[stellanoir]

6. ooooooooooooo bummer

That story reminds me of something a guy I was tutoring once said.

He was a REAL character. He said "LOOK, I'm a egomaniac with an insecurity complex and there is NOTHING more DANGEROUS than that."

Sounds like this former co-worker had that complex as well.

He set you up so he could appear oh so irresistably desirable to prop up his ego.

Consider it a hard learned lesson and try to release any guilt or shame around this unfortunate incident. I know. . .easier typed than done.

Maybe every time you feel a pang of remorse around what transpired say "I'm co creating with spirit that there will be no further negative repercussions from that e-mail." Furthermore, while you're at it you may want to try. . ."I'm co creating with spirit an appropriate, rewarding, and gainful employment opportunity."

I highly doubt that anyone in a position to give you a reference would care to divulge such a thing as it had nothing remotely to do with your work performance.

Chin up dear and don't let the suckers get you down.

[BuelahWitch]

8. Thanks so much

A friend of mine said, "Just think what might have happened if you had gotten involved with him." I'm just going to take it easy today and pamper myself. At least it's out in the open and I can move on now.

[Love Bug]

7. I know someone who went though something similar except

one of the guys at her office told others she had "serviced him" (if you get my drift), which never happened. He has since gone on to another job, but her reputation has suffered for it.

I'm sorry this has happened to you.

[BuelahWitch]

9. Well, I don't work there anymore, so I don't have to worry about

seeing most of them ever again.
I just can't get over a 60 YEAR OLD MAN would do this!!

[stellanoir]

10. LOL

Well as an astrologer I always say, age is just a matter of planetary reference and has NOTHING to do with maturity.

I know more uber successful guys in their 50's and 60's who have the emotional bodies of two year olds. Ya know still stuck on the "me, me, mine" stage. They've often been focused on accumulation and maintainance of their wealth to insulate themselves from feeling a damned thing. IMHO

To put it in perspective, look at it this way. . . * is about to turn 60 and his behavior couldn't possibly be more juvenile or immature. Or could it?

Boggles the mind really.

[Cleita]

11. Having done a lot of temping in the past, it's the temp who

is often the scapegoat when something goes wrong especially when you aren't there to defend yourself. If you work through an agency, call them and ask them about this. If anything went wrong, they would know. If they don't have any complaints then you probably don't have to worry about references.