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We need to be working harder at the grass roots level to be spreading the truth about what the fight for "gay marriage" really is and really means... to educate people on this subject, and to inoculate people against the lies, smears, and fear-mongering that already exists, and the flood that is yet to come:
- We're not asking for 'special rights'. We just want the same rights as every other American Citizen has. If anything, marriage is currently a "special right" of heterosexuals, and like you say, "special rights" aren't fair.
- This has nothing to do with religion. We aren't asking for any changes from the church at all. We just want to be able to go to City Hall and get a marriage license, like anyone else can. Just because The State approves of a marriage, doesn't mean any church has to support or perform the marriage. Many churches will not marry interfaith couples, requiring anyone getting married in their church to convert to the church before marriage. This is fine. Churches can set their own rules. It has nothing to do with the state.
- Gay people do NOT already have these rights, and civil unions or domestic partnerships do not provide equal rights and responsibilities under the law. Separate is not equal.
- This isn't redefining marriage for any heterosexual. It doesn't affect any straight person's marriage, or definition thereof, in any way.
- Marriage is constantly being redefined by straight people already. Marriage never used to be about love, now it is. Divorce never used to be allowed; now it is. People of mixed race used to be unable to get married; now they can. It goes on and on. Marriage has never been this pure, static, unchanging thing.
- Marriage isn't solely about religion. Atheists can and do get married all the time.
- Marriage isn't solely about children. Elderly people passed the child-bearing years, men who have had vasectomies, women who have had their tubes tied or who have had hysterectomies, as well as couples who have no interest in having children, all get married all the time.
- If you don't "believe" that gays should get married, that is your opinion and you're entitled to it... however, your opinion should not be enshrined in the secular legal system as a law, forced upon everyone. It is wrong to legislate opinions.
- Many, many churches actually support same-sex unions, and some have performed them for decades. This is about religious freedom. Just because YOUR religion doesn't like it, doesn't mean your religion should trump every other in terms of what is legal under secular law. Unitarians, the United Church of Christ, the Reform Jewish Synagogue, and Liberal Quakers all perform same-sex marriage ceremonies, as do many other individual churches within broader religious sects (Methodists, Episcopalians, and others). Why should marriages performed by those churches be "less real" in the eyes of the law than those performed by, say, the Mormon church or the Church of Scientology?
- This is simply about equal civil rights for all Americans. Gay marriage will eventually pass. Our country has always moved forward, expanding civil rights for all Americans and struggling towards being that more perfect union. History is on the side of gay marriage. It will happen. It's sad that our country is not leading on this issue though, and that we're so far behind countries like the Netherlands, Spain, Canada, and South Africa. All these countries have legal and full marriage (and more are being added to the list all the time), and there simply hasn't been any negative effects in these countries. This country should be leading and championing equal rights for oppressed minorities. It's a shame we're being held back by irrational fear and ignorant bigotry.
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