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It's terrible, here I am haven't seen her in a month, she comes home and walks past me without saying hello.
At my oldest sister's wedding last month, we barely spoke. At xmas there was a big hub-bub where my oldest sister came down on me for not ever spekaing to her. I've never done it on purpose. I'm a very warm guy, I just always felt as though I wasn't welcome with her, which is wierd because we used to swing dance and I taught her Karate when we were kids.
But as we grew she grew distant. She kind of was a big wannabe of my older sister, consequently she ended up being a bitch. And I have to be honest, I have little respect for her, she goes through too many boyfriends, doesn't respect my Dad, and is very superficial.
I don't get it.
I think one of the reasons for the problems may be (on my part) when I was younger, before she was born, I was best friends with my older sister. Then when she was born my eldest sister kind of ditched me. Then next 12 years of my homelife were not good. My Dad was never around (he's a good Dad, he was just trying to run a business) and so I was the only boy in a house full of women. Much of the tim eI felt unwelcom and alone. I spent most of my time on my own or with friends. It resulted in some rejection and abandoment issues, regarding my eldest sister especially.
I think she may have some problems with men because of it.
So, I'm thinking I may not be able to open up these days because of deep seeded resentment towards my youngest sister because of the reasons explained above. No matter what I try I can't get the gusto to try to reach out.
I think she wants to be friends..as do I ..very much. But each seems to scared to make the bridge.
I don't want to live like this, I want to have birthdays, Christmases, and such with my sister's and their families. You only live once and family is important.
But nothing seems to bridge the gap.
(You 40,000 are the only ones I've ever shared these feelings with yay beer)
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