Whine Thread,

[ThomCat]

This is your one chance today to whine today to get it out of your system. What do you want/need to whine about.



I'm in a friggin lot of pain today and it won't go away!
I had a migraine this morning and now I've got the side effects of the migraine meds and the after effect of the migraine.
My back is killing me!
My hands ache.
I have shooting pains in both legs.
I was supposed to go early today to apply for public assistance and social security disability, and I haven't left the house yet.

x(

I only just got out of bed an hour ago. Today kind of sucks.

[billyskank]

1. Not going to today. But yours is read and appreciated.

Whine all you want. :hug:

[ThomCat]

6. I'm done now.

Thank you. :hug:

Now I just suck up and deal. JennaLaw's birthday is today. I have to get out later today to go help celebrate. Somehow I'm going to manage this. :)

[Parche]

2. life sux

:hi: :hug: :hug: :hug: :loveya:

[ThomCat]

7. Sometimes.

But sometimes it's pretty cool.

:hug: :loveya:

[XemaSab]

3. I got no job and my ass hurts

x(

[ThomCat]

9. It amazes me that you aren't in management somewhere.

building some kind of cool environmental company. I can see you tromping around outdoors doing good stuff. :(

[XemaSab]

39. You try tromping around outdoors with a sore ass

:P

[TZ]

4. I'm tired of repeating my work over and over again

because of stupid shit! AARGH.

[ThomCat]

14. That can make even good jobs into horrible ones.

:(

:hug:
I hope your company acquires some decent managers somewhere. They have to exist. I have to believe that.

[TZ]

16. actually..

most of the stupid shit is because of another lab that handed over a project with little data and inaccurate data..plus *I* screwed up yesterday. *Sigh* two week project now going into week 6 I think...x( :hug:

[KitchenWitch]

5. I have zero stamina - I mean zero

I am supposed to go to lunch with my girlfriends and I am having difficulty getting moving to even do that.

I have hours of K's homework facing me today. Not fun.

[ThomCat]

15. Chronic fatigue sucks. And sucks. And sucks.

:(

I hope every day you're getting a little bit more energy back. :hug:

I can't wait for the day you're all energetic again. :)

[KitchenWitch]

18. Me too

meanwhile, my housework has gone to shit. And I can't even get up enough steam to even car about that.

:crazy:

I know I am only a few weeks post surgical, but man, this one has taken a lot out of me.

[malta blue]

8. my maladies seem so insignificant compared to you....but here goes nothing:

I have pain shooting down my legs into my ankles. :(

Work is boring. :banghead:

I am lonely. :cry:

[ThomCat]

19. Never compare maladies. We all have different lives.

And what interrupts your life is significant, no matter what is happening in mine. :hug:

I hope you're not working on your feet. :(

And I wish I could come visit for a few days. And I wish you weren't lonely. :hug:

[malta blue]

22. No working on my feet

but sitting in a cubicle for 8 hours a day doesn't help me much.

I wish you could come visit too :hug: I just fear it would be too cold in the house for you right now - I have to keep it at 63 in order to afford the bills :(

[ThomCat]

25. That is definitely too could for my joints.

:(

Please check out different chairs. If your chair is pressing too hard into your legs it could be causing the pain. Sitting too long is a bad chair hurts.

[malta blue]

36. I am sure it is too cold - heck it's cold to me

I have lots of fleece pants and layer up with blankets and robes - real attractive I know....

My chair is actually quite comfortable - I think it is the cold that is making my legs hurt :(

[rcrush]

10. I'm skinny fat.

And that extenze commericial that comes on late at night with all the women talking about how they only like guys with big penises. That makes me sad. I havent had sex in 5 years.

[ThomCat]

23. Never listen to comercials. They're trying to take your money.

And they'll deliberately make you insecure to get it. x(

The best solution is to socialize a lot. Meet lots of people (men and women) and try to be the best friend you can be to the best of them. The more friends you have, the more people you will know who can introduce you to people you might like. Dating becomes easier after that.

Really, worry about friendships, not dates. And if many of your friends are women, that makes it even easier. They'll look out for you.

:)

[KamaAina]

113. 5 years? Lightweight.

Try the Bush administration. The elected one.

[Inchworm]

11. I'm fighting a nap

I had poor sleep last night,
got up early.

The dog slobbers on my hand even when it's 25 degrees out.

My ass is sore.

The buzz of computers in my room is getting annoying.

A friend's mom died, and I totally think I lost the ability to communicate my condolances when I spoke to her husband this morning.

My mind won't shut off even though it feels like my eyes are bleeding.

It's December 2nd.

*whew*

:hi:

PS: man! that was easy! :D

[ThomCat]

27. I think you really need that nap.

:hug:

Everything becomes easier to deal with when you are rested.

Remember, dog slobber is an eternal sign of love. You would miss it if it was gone. :loveya:

[Inchworm]

54. Thats it! Nap time

:D

I hope I have a sex dream :evilgrin:

*goes to bed with erotic thoughts*

:boring:

[ThomCat]

56. If you do have erotic dreams

invite me over. :)

I'm due for some of those. :P

[meegbear]

12. I can't get laid

x(

[La Lioness Priyanka]

24. i for one do not believe you.

[meegbear]

33. It's a whine thread and at this moment,, I'm not getting laid ...

if I was, I wouldn't be here ... or I could blog it. Hmmmmm ....

[ThomCat]

29. Why the hell not? You're awesome.

Damned fools. x(

:hug:

I can only guess you're hanging around in the wrong places with the wrong people. :(

[meegbear]

35. Thanks Bud ...

:hug:

[BarenakedLady]

13. I'm glad you are back.

:hug:

Hmmmm my whine today is...well it's a pre-whine whine actually. I spent a good part of the morning cleaning the kitchen/living room area. I know that it will be a matter of minutes before it is trashed again when the kids get home from school. Maybe I should just take a picture now so I can remember it later. Heh.

:hi:

[ThomCat]

31. Housecleaning is definitely a constant whine.

:(

I hope you can enjoy it for a little bit. :)

:hi:

[Sequoia]

91. How do some people keep their homes so clean is beyond me.

I try like the Dickens and my daughter said I was a clean freak. I feel disorganized when my house is a wreck. I have no vacum so all the dirt gets smashed into the rug. I hate thinking about it since I have no spare $$$ to buy a vacum. Which reminds me....I don't have all the rent money for this month either and I dread Christmas. No $$$ for that either and my kid wants an Ipod.

[ThomCat]

92. That sounds like you're having a stressfull month too.

:(

:hug:

Being a "clean freak" isn't a bad thing. And not having a vacuum cleaner isn't insurmountable if you can take your carpets out to beat them at least once per year. (though, not possible with wall to wall :()

I hope you get some relief from the money stress. Please be well. :hug:

[Sequoia]

105. Thank you.

[DS1]

17. ereg kicked my ass today

I finally had to learn it, but imagine deconstructing




for the first time :headache:

[ThomCat]

32. I'm getting a headache just looking at it.

If that's math, and you have to make sense of that, then you win. That's the most painful thing on this thread so far. :(

[justabob]

20. not so bad as yours, but here goes

I am in day 12 of the worst back spasms I have ever experienced... like having effing seizures... all I want to do is lay in bed, but that just makes them WORSE

I send out a flurry of job apps a day and can't even get a shitty job that I have tons of experience at like waiting tables (which I couldn't do anyway because of the @$%$# back spasms)

It's Christmas time

My damned phone keeps ringing with telemarketers and or collectors...

*sigh*

[ThomCat]

34. No, that is just as bad as mine.

Not as many pieces, but just as disabling. :(

I hope you have a good pain-management doctor, because back pain like that needs long-term management.

:hug:

If you haven't already, get your disks checked out. It's almost certainly not just the muscles if the pain has lasted this long.

[justabob]

42. I have been to the chiropractor...

just about every other day since this started, and it has gotten better.. but getting up & down is problematic, and getting out of the car is a two spasm event at best. After the first week he said was likely a disc issue, and we can look into mri, injections, surgery. I am hoping we don't have to go there. We are giving it another week of chiro before we do anything else. The pressure I was feeling along my spine has eased up, but the muscles are still twitchy. I am hoping it is just extreme stress.... not that that is much better, but it doesn't involve epidurals or surgery. :)

I hope your day improves! Thanks for the guilt-free opportunity to whine a bit.

[ThomCat]

43. You are very welcome.

Every once in a while we all need to let it out. :)

[Bertha Venation]

21. I got nothin'.

I'm fortunate. Life is good. I wish I could share some Goodness with you. :hug:

[ThomCat]

37. You do share goodness. Often.

:hug:

:loveya:

When you post about good stuff and share lots of kitty pictures that's exactly what you're doing. :)

[skygazer]

26. I slept until 11 am today

That was actually nice but now I'm behind - I had a whole long list of things I really NEED to get done today and it's not going to happen. Especially since I'm now puttering on DU. :P

Feel better Thom. :hug:

[ThomCat]

38. Thank you!

:hug:

Now go log off and get to work! :P

[lizziegrace]

28. Hey sweetie...

:hug:

Got a migraine starting behind my right eye. Combo of allergies and weather. Can't imagine you dealing with this all the time. :(

[ThomCat]

41. I hope you took something for it quickly.

:hug:

When it's allergies and weather that trigger it, you know it's going to be a bit stubborn, because your triggers aren't going away. But I hope you can still kill it quickly. :(

I don't know either. I try not to think about all the time I lose to these migraines. I just try to enjoy the periods between them. :)

[lizziegrace]

48. I wish I had half your positive attitude

I don't have anything to take except ibuprofin and tylenol. I won't have medical insurance until January at the earliest, so I make do. I could take benedryl, but then they'd find me asleep under my desk. ;)

[ThomCat]

52. Please, please, please remember

Aspirin + Tylenol + Caffeine = Migraine med

Take them together and they will work against most early or small migraines. :hug:

[lizziegrace]

62. I'll pick up some aspirin on the way home

Thanks sweetie. :hug:

[newcriminal]

30. I hit my head this morning...

and it still hurts 7 hours later.

[ThomCat]

44. I'm sorry.

I hope it feels better soon. :hug:

Whatever you hit your head on, I'm glad your head was hard enough to handle it. :)

[jobycom]

40. I prefer a good Crybernet, but sometimes I go with a PleaseNo Moir.

[ThomCat]

45. I think we have mostly homemade whines here.

Nothing too fancy or imported. :)

[jobycom]

46. Ah, good old moonwhine, eh?

[RFKHumphreyObama]

47. I kind of feel guilty complaining about my problems when you're going through so much more

I am single and feel alone and unwanted. I've never been in a relationship and the chances are I will never be in a relationship
My prospects of employment in the short-term are not good. I feel I have much unfulfilled potential
These last few years have been very depressing for me personally
Many of my friends are going overseas these holidays and I have no money to afford an overseas trip at this time
Christmas is coming and recently it has been a very depressing season for me. It reminds me of my mother and how much she loved Christmas and celebrating the Christmas season just isn't the same without her. It also reminds me of how much I have failed to accomplish during the yea

But as I said, I have much to be thankful for and my problems pale in comparison to so many other people's

My thoughts, prayers and best wishes to you Thom

[ThomCat]

55. I really empathize.

It seems that so many of us spend are lives alone.

But please, I can't offer you enough encouragement, check out meetups and social groups. The more pointless and fun the better. The whole point is to meet people who just want to hang out and meet people.

The more people you can comfortably sit and talk to, and listen to, and relate to, the more of a social base you will have. Even if relationships don't come out of it, you'll have friends to commiserate with. :)

Far too many people are alone, and stay alone. We should all be alone together.

If you where nearby I'd happily hang out with you and introduce you to friends. :)

[cwydro]

49. Hey Thomcat,

glad to see you are back.

I've not been around much since the election, but I gather you have been going through a rough time.

My whine? Hmmm, my ear is stopped up. I have terrible problems with swimmer's ear and usually it clears up on its own. This time it's not.

Sure hope you are feeling better soon. Where has the Lioness been? I did a little page turning and can't find her.

Hang in there:hi: and I'm sending you some warm sunshine and sea salt vibes!

[ThomCat]

57. Lioness was traveling in India. She just came back.

I'm sure she'd love to hear from you. :)

I hope your ear doesn't turn into any kind of serious problem. If there is anything you can do to take care of that, please be careful. :hug:

I'm glad to be back, and very happy to see you again. I hope you're going to be around more now. :hi:

[cwydro]

How cool that she was in India!

Terrorist attacks aside, I would love to go there.

I'd love to come to NYC as well and the terrorists won't scare me out of that either!

I'm still staying scarce from DU; kinda disappointed in all the hatefulness in GD:P and even GD...lol, though what else is new, huh?

[ThomCat]

64. If you come to NYC

I can offer you a queen sized sofa bed to sleep on as long as you're here. My place is newly renovated and I love hosting people. :)

[DarkTirade]

50. Pinot Noir.

... wait, wrong kind. Ah well. At least I can use this post to send virtual hugs to my Thomcat. :P

:hug:

[ThomCat]

58. Yay! I love getting hugs from you...

and flirtatious or suggesting posts. :blush:

Oh my...

I'll be right back... :P

[DarkTirade]

59. I gotta behave right now.

I'm in the school computer lab. No privacy. :P

[DarkTirade]

96. Okay, I'm home.

Flirtation and suggestion are a go! :P

[redqueen]

51. Aw...

After reading that it's kind of hard to want to whine anymore. :hug:

But I'll do my best! :patriot:


Life's just not fair, dammit!


I think that about sums it up. :)

[ThomCat]

60. No, life isn't fair. It's too damned random

and all too often we're stuck on the wrong side of the bell curve whether we think we deserve it or not.
x(

:hug:

If life can't be fair, I hope we can be. Or better yet, I hope we can be kind. :loveya:

[redqueen]

67. I used to say just that to my dad!

He was always telling us, whenever we'd say something wasn't fair, that life wasn't fair.

And I'd always respond, well WE can be fair to each other! He disagreed. :P


:hug:

Hope you're feeling a little bettter now... :loveya:

[LanternWaste]

53. I'm in the middle of a cycle of Cluster Headaches...

I'm in the middle of a cycle of Cluster Headaches. Smack dab in the very middle, and I know what will happen to me tonight at 8:30. And I know what I have to look forward to every damnable night for the next three or four weeks at 8:30. :argh:




And it's not fair, and I don't deserve it, and, and, and...

[ThomCat]

63. I wish there was something any of us could do.

:cry:

There are very few hells that compare to cluster headaches. :(

It's not fair. I hope you can endure, and I hope you can do it without losing the best parts of yourself to the pain. :hug:

[SoxFan]

61. A guy is using a table saw below my window

[ThomCat]

66. I hope s/he's doing it safely.

As annoying as that is, it's good to remember that s/he's got no choice in the matter. Everyone who has a job has to do it. And it's good to have a job. It would be nice if s/he could do that someplace else, or some other time, but that might be the best, safest place to so it. :)

I hope the sawing is done quickly so you can get some peace. :)

[Throd]

65. I am forced to take design direction from an absolute moron.

Initially I thought I wasn't connecting with your marketing strategy. With every subsequent communication I realize to a greater degree just how incompetent you are.

[ThomCat]

68. Ooph. That's really difficult.

There are a whole lot of morons out there who just make it up as they go along. x(

I hope you can find a way to sidestep to a position under someone else, up upward so that you can boot the morons to the curb. :hug:

Unfortunately, there is no escape from morons, and we're all morons at one time or another in some context. :(

[tandot]

69. I have a herniated disk in my lower back since October 3rd and am pregnant

which means that regular strength Tylenol is about the only thing I can take to ease some of the pain.

It is improving very slowly and I couldn't do physical therapy because of the pain. I hope that changes soon.

And, I'll be out of a job by February. Job search with a big belly will be a hoot.



Other than that, I've been never happier in my whole life :hi:



I hope you feel better soon!

[ThomCat]

70. I hope your pregnancy is going very, very well

except for your back problem. And I hope your back problem disappears forever after your pregnancy. :hug:

I hope, after the delivery, when you've had time to settle in you'll post some pictures. We'd love to share you joy with you.
:loveya:

Job hunting when you are pregnant, or when you have a newborn, must be a real ordeal. I'll be sending you good thoughts. I hope you find a wonderful job with wonderful benefits. :)

[tandot]

72. Thank you so much, ThomCat.

My pregnancy has been going very well so far. I haven't had morning sickness and have not had any weird cravings. Our ultrasound last Tuesday showed the baby is moving a lot and developing fine. I am only 3 month so far and have 6 more month to go. I am 44 and this is my first pregnancy. My husband and I are elated.

I hope you'll be able to control your pain better. I'll be sending good thoughts your way, too :hi:

[From The Ashes]

71. Here's my whine...

...I have a $300 electric bill hanging over me, and they won't make arrangements with me. I don't get paid until the 11th so I'll probably be days without lights. Thank god it ain't real cold down here. And my ex-husband called with the news he's going to file bankruptcy and, oh by the way, WE'RE STILL MARRIED! So I'm probably going to be on the hook for the debts he has.
x(

[ThomCat]

73. I am very, very sorry.

My mom used to say that "if all your problems could be solved by money then you don't have any problems." She was horribly wrong. Poverty, whether it is temporary or permanent, just barely not enough or far over our heads, is a horrible problem and it is a central factor is our lives. :(

It used to be that more of us were in good shape, and the ones in good shape could prop up the ones in bad shape. I used to give away my Christmas bonus every year to people who needed it, because they needed it and that's what civilized people do. I saw others doing the same. And throughout the year we quietly helped people when we could. I can't do that anymore. Now I'm on the receiving end of charity.

I hope people are still doing this. I'm sorry that I can't.

:cry:
I hope the economy improves, not in abstract terms, but in a real sense for all of us. I hope we get back to a point where we can share more and help each other over the rough spots.

[From The Ashes]

74. My problems pale to insignificance....

...compared to yours. :hug: I'll be ok.

[ThomCat]

77. Please,

It sort of bothers me when people say that. Other people's problems are just as important and significant as mine. Other people's problems impact their lives every bit as much as my problems impact mine. :hug:

And I really do hope you find some good things happening. I hope you find some solutions to financial problems. I hope your husband's bankruptcy doesn't drag you down.
:hug:

[Lucian]

75. My whines are trivial compared to what others are going through.

[ThomCat]

78. I hope you appreciate any good things that are in your life then.

And enjoy yourself as much as you can. And when problems come up, because they will at some point, you'll have wonderful memories to fall back upon to remind you that life is good. :)

:hug:

[mnhtnbb]

76. Our house was supposed to be finished mid-Sept for us to move into.

(Our house burned down August 07, we were in a rental for a year. We bought a much smaller house in May on the same street where the one burned down and have been adding on/remodeling). We moved anyway at the end of September even though the house wasn't finished.

Today the workers showed up to finally install the drainage system underneath the deck which makes it watertight so that under the deck functions as a carport. The contractor has only known since June
that we wanted to do this--but didn't order the system until two weeks ago. Wrong system was delivered
last week and had to be reordered.

When they reroofed the house, I think the workers allowed ants to set up shop between the roof and
the peg and groove ceiling. We keep getting little bits of crud falling into the bathroom along with occasional ants. I don't know how we're going to get rid of them without pulling off the roof.

I'm still waiting for the ceiling to be fixed in the dining area where the electrician hung the chandelier in the wrong place in spite of a drawing showing them exactly where to put it. I'm not talking inches--they put it 9"off one way and 15" the other way. They've plugged the hole--but not
fixed it to blend in with the ceiling. Same with bathroom ceiling where a pipe was relocated. Should have been fixed months ago.

Tomorrow a guy comes to re-dig a hole that was filled in and shouldn't have been because it was supposed
to provide space in front of an electrical box to meet inspection requirements. The electrician moved
the box there knowing it would not meet requirements and nobody told me or I would have had them move it inside which would have solved the whole damn problem of digging a hole.

I'M FED UP WITH CONSTRUCTION! Nothing--and I mean nothing--seems to get done right the first time.

There. That feels much better. Thanks for the rant opportunity. We're just fortunate we have been
able to make a place feel like home after having ours burn down.

:hi:

[ThomCat]

80. Damn...

I'm so sorry you're having all these problems. :(

On commercial projects I know how I would have addressed each of these, but residential construction is a whole different monster. It seems like your entire construction project lacked a competent project manager. :(

I hope you can fix all the screw ups. You definitely have my sympathy for all the pain and aggravation.

[GRLMGC]

79. Mine isn't too serious but it's really bothering me right now

I'm a substitute teacher and have gone weeks without working in the past. I haven't worked at all this week which stresses me out because it makes me think I'm going to have a dry spell again. I need to work at least 10 days this month and only have 13 days to do it. I really should get a more stable job but part of me is terrified of being tied down. I want to pursue my dream and don't want to get sucked into a job that will prevent me from doing what I want. I'm just too high-strung. I hope I work a decent number of days this month.

[ThomCat]

81. I hope you make those 10 days.

:hug:

Do you have any contacts at the school(s) you can talk to so that you can on the top of the list of substitutes to call?

[GRLMGC]

82. I called one today

She has not called me back so I may try again tomorrow.

Thanks for the hugs! Hugs right back!

Great thread idea! It's really nice to vent.

[bicentennial_baby]

83. If I started...I might never stop

:)

[ThomCat]

84. You have had a lot of stress to vent about.

:(

I hope you can vent someplace else if you can't do it here. :)

In the meantime, I wish you good food, and good music, and someplace warm to curl up, and cuddly beasts. :)

[bicentennial_baby]

85. I'm considering a visit to the University Counseling Center tomorrow

That is, after I go beg my Dept. Chair/Professors for Incompletes in my courses for this semester. Ugh.

Thanks. Right now I have no appetite, but the Bloody Mary I'm drinking is good. :)

[harmonicon]

86. Ok, what the fuck was Liz talking about yesterday?

It's been driving me crazy all day. In the way that I couldn't think straight and felt all fucked up inside. Now I'm drinking, so it's mellowed a bit.

Back story (because you really care): Sunday night, there is a sort of wrap-up party for this festival at a bar, where, after the crowd had largely dwindled, I sat and talked to this girl, Liz, for hours. It was the nicest time that I've had in months, since I've been dumped and felt very alone and insanely sad. She was sweet and we just talked about things... not about how our lives are horrible. On the way to this bar, she mentioned that there was a party that night, but we agreed that we don't like parties and would rather hang out at the bar. When we were there, I knew that something was up, because she was getting calls and texts and avoiding them, some, I'm sure, from her boyfriend. Her boyfriend who has cheated on her, but she took back, but I don't think is very happy with. The way she looked at me and touched me made me feel a way that I haven't felt in years...

When it was time to go, I told her that I would walk her home, because she lives right down the street from me. Then, she said, "you know I live with my boyfriend, right?", and I said, "I know that all too well, dear." Anyway, I walked her most of the way home, but after we'd passed my house, she told me that I shouldn't walk all the way with her, even though it was only one block or so more. Then she tried to shake my hand, which I would have none of, told her as much, and then we had a nice hug.

The next day, I felt a mix of incredibly sick and hung over, but also great, because I didn't wake up thinking of my ex and crying. I thought of what a nice night I'd had.

So, later that day, I run into her and two of our friends on the street, and we all talk a bit. She says something like, "I felt really horrible this morning", at which point I asked if she'd been hung over, and then it was clear that that's not how she meant that she felt horrible. WHAT THE FUCK DID SHE MEAN?! Did she feel horrible like, "I'm felt horrible for possibly leading you on", or did it mean, "I felt horrible for not going home with you or at least giving you a kiss", did it mean, "I felt horrible for skipping the party and not telling my boyfriend where I was", or did it mean, "I felt horrible about my life, because you're a sweetheart, and I think my life could be better without this cheating douchebag." What the hell did she mean?

And what the hell did she mean the other night when she felt she had to remind me that she lived with her boyfriend? Did she think I was trying to pick her up, and wanted to make it clear that that wouldn't happen? Did she realize that I don't care, and that I just wanted to walk her home to spend more time with her and make sure that she got home safely?

There was no chance to talk about any of this on the street, because I was all sick and hung over, and because it all seems rather private. However, a friend of ours then did thank me for walking her home, and said that a lot of people had been worried about her when she didn't show up at that party. However, she didn't say it in a mean or concerned way. It all seemed rather nice. Then I went home and drank, as I do, so I didn't worry too much about it until today.

Today it's been driving me fucking crazy. I feel so completely fucked up. I'm still 100% heart broken about X, but I also really adore Liz, but don't know what the hell she wants. I don't even know what I want, though I do know that spending that time with her made me feel better than I have in a very long time.

Ok, that's my whinging for today.

[ThomCat]

90. If she doesn't know what she wants,

and what decisions she's prepared to make, then all you can do is stand back. :(

But if there is any way to be her friend first, do that. She's not just a potential girlfriends. she's a person. So be there without the implied pressure of a relationship. And when she knows where she's going she can take you by the arm. :)

In the meantime, Please hang on. I hope it doesn't all get you down.

[harmonicon]

93. thank you, buddy

It actually doesn't have me so down.... I mean, it does, but I've been so incredibly down about the woman that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with leaving me with no almost no explanation, that it's good to feel alive in the sense that I can actually have a life apart from what had defined it for the last 4 years.

I do want to be her friend. I couldn't even handle having a girlfriend right now, but I want her to know that I care, and that I actually like spending time with her. I think what endeared her to me a few weeks ago was that I knew she was going through a bad time. I just didn't know her very well then, so I didn't really know what to say, and I was also way too broken up about my own life then to talk to someone else about theirs without taking over the conversation by crying about my own troubles (like I'm doing to you, right now).

I am standing back, and that's what's killing me. I think, in a very real objective way, that she should split up with this guy and move out, but I would hate to have anything to do with that. I've been on what would be her end of that situation before, and it sucked. It sucked for me, and it sucked for the people who were around me, especially the person who was the very real, but understandably strained, romantic interest.

For her sake, and my own, I don't want to come on too strong. I'm not ready for this at all, and I don't think that she is either - I'm really afraid that she has NO idea about if she's ready for it, because I'm so much older than she is (7 years of life and love), where as I think that I just need time... maybe several months. I hope that I haven't already come on too strong, but I was horribly drunk, and I honestly don't remember what I said when we said goodbye - at all. I mean, I think I told her that I liked spending time with her, but apart from that, I've got no idea. The night before that, I definitely got insanely drunk, and complained about being jealous in regard to her to my friends, which was a VERY bad idea.

[mopinko]

87. my studio mates are driving me crazy.

i recently posted this on my wall-

"the secret to successful managing is keeping the 5 guys who hate you away from the 4 who aren't sure."
casey stengal.

[ThomCat]

On your wall?

Have you sent me a friend request, now that I have a facebook page as of 2 days ago? :)

[mopinko]

99. yeah, printed it out

18 point type. stuck it to the wall with one of my buttons- impeach indict imprison.
no one has ever accused me of being subtle.

facebook? sure. i need to waste more time.

[rug]

88. I still miss Staten Island.

[ThomCat]

89. It has changed a whole hell of a lot.

The fastest cure for home sickness is to come home and see what's left of it. :(

I hope you're well where you are. And if you were here on Staten Island it would be cool to have you nearby to hang out with. :hug:

[Lavender Brown]

94. I only have a week left in the semester

but it feels like years. I've been staying up late to finish papers and projects and I just want a long winter's nap. I have one due tomorrow that I've been working on forever, but it is nowhere near finished. :argh:

It feels good to whine it out. :)

[ThomCat]

100. It always feels like projects are easy to start and difficult to pull together

and finish. :(

I hope you can finish everything on time. :hug:

And then, after everything is done, I hope you get to enjoy a long winter nap. :)

[crispini]

95. I have no job.

I have interesting ideas about other possible income sources, but there are a TON of them. I am nervous and scared at the idea of starting my own business because I don't really know what I'm doing and I only have so much time before the money runs out and I need to figure out how to pay the mortgage. I'm scared of winding up losing everything and my house and being homeless. And I have nobody to really talk to about this because the guy I'm "dating" is terribly unsupportive and I've learned not to try to have that kind of conversation with him.

[ThomCat]

101. Please find a consultant firm that specializes in small businesses.

If they think you can pull things together to start a business then go for it. But if the experts think you aren't ready, then listen.

There are people out there who can help you. You don't have to, and shouldn't, jump into something like that on your own or with only amateur support.

:hug:

[RetroLounge]

97. Okay, I can whine...

I somehow hurt my back, no idea how.

It started Friday and by Sunday I was immobile, pin-racked, and a sobbing mess of hurt.

I went to the doctor today and I have somehow strained the ligaments (or tendons?) on my lower 2 discs of my spine and have severe muscle spasms too.

Just got home and took Skeletor, or maybe Skelaxin, and some pain pill too.

Maybe tonight I can sleep...

:cry:

RL

[ThomCat]

102. I'd take your pain if I could. I could handle a little more if it would

spare you. :(

I really hope the strain heals and you recover without any lasting problems. Please, please, please be well. :hug:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

98. i have body pain, not as much as you but enough to make me irritable

my dad seems to have lost the ability to make conversation

my career seems stalled

i feel blah

[ThomCat]

103. Those are all things to take seriously.

I hope you have a doctor taking your pain seriously. Now, while it's relatively minor, is the time to keep it under control.

I am very sorry you have the start of chronic pain. :cry: :hug:

I hope your family can find out why your father is withdrawing into himself. That doesn't sound good for any of you.

All things considered, I would love to see you move to someplace where you can advance your career. You are too smart and have too much drive and energy to sit still and let things stall. I hope you find an opportunity.

:loveya:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

104. i am doctor hunting. do you have a good internist?

[ThomCat]

107. I do.

Please call me. :)

[LaraMN]

106. ...

I hate my life.

At least my body doesn't hurt. I don't know how you cope with your pain. You are amazing, hon'.
:hug:

[ThomCat]

109. I hope you can get some changes so you love your life again.

:hug:

:loveya:

Your life is definitely non-stop, and constant work. I wish you could get frequent help and vacations.

With beautiful mostly naked men at your beck and call. :9

If you had time, I know you could do a lot of things you've been wanting to do. I wish you had that time. :hug:

[lightningandsnow]

108. Oh, man.

:hug:

This is so trivial. But my finger/wrist/elbow joints are sore today for some reason. (It happens sometimes, probably something to do with the fact that I'm double jointed.) And I miss my ex-boyfriend. A lot.

[ThomCat]

110. Hi AspieGrrl.

:hug:

Soak. In Hot Water. Take care of yourself. :hug:

Are you still friends with your ex? :)

I'm sorry that you're missing him.

[lightningandsnow]

111. Yup, me and him are still friends.

It's hard, though.

And I shall take a long bath tonight. Hopefully. After I get home from this theatre workshop I'm going to.

:hug:

[northernlights]

112. why oh why..

did both my chem and micro professors decide to hold exams on return from Thanksgiving, after a week off to forget everything and not be able to follow up on the thermochemistry crammed into the last 15 minutes of the last class before Thanksgiving?

I'm tired. I didn't get enough sleep last night. Thermochemistry is killing me. The book sux. The author can't write and the editors did a shit-job. 11th edition and still filled with mistakes. And what kind of definition uses the phrase your defining as...the definition. As in "a state function or property is a property of the state that doesn't depend on the path. Sounds socialist to me, if not communist. :wtf: And why the fuck can't scientists pick a name and stick to it. Enthalpy H = q heat. Freakin' alphabet soup.

No job. Afraid by the time I get my new degree, there won't be a need any more. Nobody will ever hire me again cuz I'm too old.
My knees hurt, my ass hurts, my allergies hurt and I'm tired from not getting enough sleep.

And I almost couldn't find my bacteria in the micro lab test today. Then when I did, I thought I had little purple cocci with big pink schmutz, but instead I had big pink rods with little purple schmutz. And then my lab partner wouldn't use my water and my professor called me "the mad scientist."

And why isn't there anything good on tv after a long day at school and it's not a school night? Not that there's anything good on tv any more. Whatever happened to good old fashioned westerns and sci-fi and sitcoms? Why is it all these stupid unreality shows with morons after their 15 minutes. Ugh. Yuck.

Ok. Rant over. Wine glass in hand. Then off to bed. yawn. and I thank you...

[ThomCat]

115. I hope, despite all of this

that you do well in these classes.

And I hope that you do find a job using your new degree once you graduate. :hug:

[Arugula Latte]

114. A family member got back together w/ a jerk guy who I thought was gone from our lives forever.

Shit! :banghead: It was so nice without him.

[ThomCat]

116. If he's that bad a person

and bad for her, hopefully this won't last long. :(

A lot of people make a habit of bad relationships, and who knows why?