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Parche Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 05:53 PM
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Would You Go Out With Someone Who Is Married?
:shrug: :popcorn: :popcorn: :hi:


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CatWoman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 05:54 PM
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1. why not?
:hi:
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 05:56 PM
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2. My dear Parche!
Oh, I did that just last week!


Of course, his wife was along too...;-)


Pictures to follow!

:D
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helderheid Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 05:57 PM
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3. I went out with my husband last Saturday!
:woohoo:
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PassingFair Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 06:15 PM
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4. Not knowingly...I think I DID once, though.
He was visiting from another country.

He told me he had a girlfriend he was
breaking up with. I wrote to him at his
office. We saw each other sporadically
for a few years.

I think, in retrospect, that he may have
been married.
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pokerfan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 07:59 PM
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5. Why not? Married people need lovin' too
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LostInAnomie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 08:06 PM
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6. Eeeewwwww!!!! Gross!!!
Married people! :puke: :puke: :puke: :puke: :puke: :puke: :puke: :puke: :puke:
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elshiva Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 08:25 PM
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7. Never in the romantic sense.
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supernova Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 08:28 PM
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8. You have have all the platonic lovin' you want
:D
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Lydia Leftcoast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 08:29 PM
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9. No
I wouldn't want anyone cheating on me.

Why should I help someone else cheat?
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BlueJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 10:32 PM
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19. Amen!
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NewJeffCT Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 08:32 PM
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10. Probably not, but if I were single
I might have trouble saying "no" to Angelina Jolie if she were interested.
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Mutley Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 08:35 PM
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11. Maybe if they are separated and on the way to a divorce.
But if there are any signs that the marriage is still going, no.
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Lorien Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 12:24 AM
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24. No, believe me, you DON'T want to fall for that one! n/t
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raccoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 08:43 AM
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34. Agree. Separated = Married. nt
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Robeson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 08:53 PM
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12. Only if my wife lets me....
Edited on Mon Aug-18-08 09:03 PM by Robeson
...;)
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triguy46 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 09:02 PM
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13. If one has to ask, one probably would.
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Iggo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 09:16 PM
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14. I've done it before.
But I'd never do it again. You'll have to take my word on that one. I'm a way better man than I used to be.
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rug Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 09:17 PM
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15. Depends on her looks.
:hide:
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bridgit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 09:17 PM
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16. i have, funny you should post a pic of an aircraft cause he was an airline pilot
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Lorien Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 12:26 AM
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25. Lol! Now THAT'S classic!
I have a friend who is a flight attendant and she says that nearly every married pilot she knows fools around (many have tried to with her)!
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mcctatas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 09:47 PM
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17. Only if he was also rich and terminal and wrote me into his will
to buy my silence?
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moriah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 09:55 PM
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18. No. In fact, I felt really bad that I met my current man while I was getting my divorce.
I'd already filed, and my husband was still living in New York, whereas I had moved back to Arkansas. It was obvious we were over.

But still, I felt like I wouldn't date a divorcing man, so I felt it was unfair to ask someone to date a divorcing woman.

We were both very interested in each other. When we first met, we were working together, however, which curtailed any chances of a romantic relationship right away. The obstacle instead allowed us to become good friends.

Then we both got laid off on the same day - along with 40 other people. A friend of mine suffered a psychotic break and I planned to go to visit him in the hospital. When my man heard I was headed to a city three hours away to visit someone in a psych ward, he couldn't be budged from his decision to come with me. He wanted to protect me. (I did tell him that the dude would be in such a chemical strait-jacket that there was no need for protection, but it was very sweet.)

We stayed with my best friend in that town that night, and he and I talked. I told him I thought I was falling in love with him but that I didn't think it would be fair to him to be with him when I wasn't yet free.

He said "Don't you think that should be my decision?"

And we've been together ever since.
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CatholicEdHead Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 10:51 PM
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20. No, never, not at all
No cheating for me.
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Lil Missy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-18-08 11:26 PM
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21. Never. Clean it up before you move on.
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amitten Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 12:11 AM
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22. No, because I'm not an asshole. I don't want to be part of
anyone else's potential misery.

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Drum Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 12:17 AM
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23. Never again.
:(
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Forkboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 12:29 AM
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26. Nope. Can only lead to hassle and stress.
Edited on Tue Aug-19-08 12:30 AM by Forkboy
More importantly, cheating isn't something I do, so it would be kind of hypocritical to be with someone cheating.

And if they're willing to cheat on their partner they're willing to cheat on you, too.

I'd rather listen to music. :)
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billyoc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 04:20 AM
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27. Yes.
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panhead1961 Donating Member (363 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 05:36 AM
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28. Does my Wife count
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Marrah_G Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 08:10 AM
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29. It depends on the situation
If they are actively living in a marriage situation then no.

However if they have been separated for some time, are not romantically involved, and residing separately then I probably would.
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Beer Snob-50 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 08:26 AM
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30. My wife says I can date Kathy Ireland
if she can date Bill Murray.
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 08:32 AM
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31. Not on a date. It is disrespectful IMO.
If they were separated and headed for a divorce, that may be a different deal. But with the other spouse not knowing, that is low.
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 08:38 AM
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32. It depends.
I'm married but essentially single. However because I'm still married, I'm a basket case and a bad bet, relationship-wise. On the other hand, I have a male friend who's been separated for more than three years from his wife, and lives happily with another woman. Now, somebody who is married and sleeping with their spouse: no. No, no, no. For their sake, for your sake and for the spouse' sake, never. MHO.
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raccoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 08:42 AM
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33. No. If they cheat with you, they'll cheat on you. Also, people who do this may end up on

48 Hours Mystery.



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MountainLaurel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 09:19 AM
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35. Not to mention
Drawn into divorce proceedings or even charged themselves (there have been some cases in recent years where "the other woman" was sued under antiquated anti-adultery laws.
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kwassa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 09:38 AM
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36. well, my wife would go out with George Clooney ...
and she has already informed me in advance.
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Blue_Tires Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 11:34 AM
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37. no...
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unpossibles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 12:04 PM
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38. it depends. If they had a "note from home" I'd be fine with it
Otherwise, no, or at least not as a "date" date.
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LynzM Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 12:14 PM
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39. As long as the spouse knew about it...
And was ok with it. :)
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Celeborn Skywalker Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 12:21 PM
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40. I doubt it.
I can't say with certainty though, because who knows what might happen in the future?
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raptor_rider Donating Member (517 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 01:12 PM
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41. When I met my husband
him and his wife at the time were currently separated, divorce filed, and living in separate states. We were together 3 months before the divorce was final. He was up front with everything with me and I trusted him. Here we are 5 years later, still together and married for 4.
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RebelOne Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 02:12 PM
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42. I have often, both knowingly and unknowingly. n/t
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redqueen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-19-08 02:22 PM
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43. Not just no but hell no.
What would be the point of that?

:wtf:
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