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terrya Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 08:01 AM
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What's the first thing that attracted you to your husband/wife/partner?
When you first met him/her...

What was the very first thing about them that attracted you? Their looks? Their personality? Sense of humor? Intelligence?

I met my partner, Doug, online. The very first thing that I found so attractive about him was his intelligence. Then I discovered his sense of humor and caring and warmth. And then I fell in love. And then I saw how attractive he was...and it was icing on the cake. :-)

You?

Terry
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phillybri Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 08:03 AM
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1. Her eyes...
Then, I was hooked... :-)
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HereSince1628 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 08:05 AM
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2. Biting wit...
Though I'm sort of tired of wearing teeth marks


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gator_in_Ontario Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 08:08 AM
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3. I too met
my wife online. We were close friends for years before anything romantic developed. She was the one person online, or in my life, that knew virtually everything about me. When we met in person, it was all over! Eleven months later, we had a wedding in Ontario and have been wrangling with our 2 governments ever since trying to stay together. So far, so good. Our life together is what I have always wanted in a partner, a friend, companion, lover. And someone who is my intellectual equal who is interested in the world and is open to exploring new ideas.
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dolgoruky Donating Member (454 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 08:15 AM
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5. Don't know
Perhaps the main thing that attracted me too her was the fact that she didn't run away when I told her I was a socialist.
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non sociopath skin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 08:33 AM
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11. Met my wife online too....
I was in the UK, she was living in Kentucky. First thing that brought us together was her AOL profile: I contacted her via AOL IM after being amazed at how closely her interests matched mine. She had just broken up from a long-term relationship: my wife of 20 yrs had passed away from cancer two years before.

First night we chatted online for about six hours, then it became a daily thing. One night the system went down and she phoned. Cue daily phone calls which led to phone bills larger than the national debt of several small countries. :-)

We met in NYC a few months later and it was love at first sight as we knew it would be. Virtually bankrupted ourselves with Atlantic crossings for the next year or so. Married in Louisville: she moved to the UK six months later together with Cud and Frit, the American contingent of our of our six-feline, three-bunny menage.

Yes, it's been hard work. But it's all been worth it.

And now you guys need to get rid of the chimp so we can enjoy visiting y'all again.



The Skin
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greatauntoftriplets Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 08:10 AM
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4. Intelligence, kindness, sense of humor, sense of irony, smartass-dom
on occasion and when appropriate. :)
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arwalden Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 08:18 AM
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6. The Size Of His
heart.

You thought I was going to say wallet, didn't you?

-- Allen
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Commie Pinko Dirtbag Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 08:18 AM
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7. No, I didn't think you were going to say wallet.
:evilgrin: :evilgrin: :evilgrin: :evilgrin: :evilgrin: :evilgrin: :evilgrin: :evilgrin: :evilgrin: :evilgrin:
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terrya Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 08:22 AM
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9. Yeah..."wallet". Right. :-) eom
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arwalden Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 08:37 AM
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13. My Partner Looks Like He Could Be Liam Neeson's Younger Brother
(not including the Irish accent, though)

That was something that immediately attracted me to him and encouraged me to find out more about this handsome man...

-- Allen
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terrya Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 08:58 AM
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15. Your partner sounds like a terrific guy. And a very lucky one.
To have you as his partner.

My partner, Doug, looks like David Hyde Pierce...which I find quite handsome. :-)

Terry
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arwalden Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 09:02 AM
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17. Lucky You!! --- But Is He As Fastidious And Neurotic As Niles?
Edited on Fri Jan-23-04 09:03 AM by arwalden
-- Allen
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terrya Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 09:05 AM
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18. Oh, God no....
Doug is just as much of a slob as I am. :-)

And no neuroses at all. Very level headed guy, my Doug.

Terry
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Commie Pinko Dirtbag Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 08:20 AM
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8. Hell, I don't have the foggiest idea.
I just felt GOOD being with her.
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Resistance Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 08:23 AM
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10. her smile.
:)
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Rainbowreflect Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 08:35 AM
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12. It wasn't love at first sight, but it was an instant connection.
I was with my first husband at the time. But we became best friends. Never before or since have I connected with someone like I did with him. We laugh at the same things, usually warped. We have read each others minds from the very beginning. I have never been so comfortable with anyone,ever.
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jimbo fett Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 08:38 AM
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14. It was love at first sight (for me). It took awhile to convince her.
She was cute, curvacious and she laughed at my jokes. I was hooked immediately.
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Corgigal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 09:00 AM
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16. His voice
Since I was working 911 radio and I would hear his voice. He always stood out and all the women I know LOVE his voice to this day. If I ever need anything done by the phone and I'm pretty sure a woman will answer I put the hubby on it. It always works.
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populistmom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 09:20 AM
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19. He stood up for me
We had this neighbor who used to harass me and although I can stand up for myself, there was something pleasantly chivalrous about a man who can stand up for a woman.
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soleft Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 09:20 AM
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20. Beautiful loving smile - true love at first site.
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commander bunnypants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 09:25 AM
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21. Blond hair a blue eyes
Seems kinda of shallow, but the question was asked


DDQM
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Robb Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 09:34 AM
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22. I'm not too proud to admit
...I was attracted by her outrageous physical hot-ness. :)

Turned out later there was more to her, but at the time... my only real thoughts were "Goodness, can this possibly be for me? Oh, my!" :D
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lovedems Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 09:40 AM
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23. My girlfriends/guyfriends and I were out bar hopping
(I was 26) and we went to check out a band. The lead guitar player was so sexy, he was bald with a goatee, and a couple of really cool looking tat's. As we watched, his fingers were on fire and I kept thinking he is so sexy. We went to an after hours party at a friends house and a guy friend of mine, knowing I thought he was so sexy, invited him. We talked and the rest is history. Married, 4 kids. So, the short answer is his musical ability combined with how good he looked "on stage".

BTW, my guy friend was hoping I would get to know him because he wanted guitar lessons. He got them and my husband continues to help out my guy friends to this day. Double pleasure effect.
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snobird Donating Member (59 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 10:57 AM
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24. gators and snobirds
Who would have believed that gators & snobirds could live , love and laugh harmoniously. :bounce: It was a meeting of the minds on line for years,sharing everything about one another to one another. She showed me how to laugh and not take life as seriously as I was. Living in the moment and the solution .That first meeting when I saw her smile heard her laugh "in person" we slipped into the same stream FINALLY !! We had been floundering along in opposite waters for too many years. Today , despite all the hoops that our 2 countries are forcing us to jump through, we are strong, happy & living life to the max.I have never loved or been loved like this since I WAS BORN! :love ya: gator
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Fleshdancer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 11:02 AM
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25. It was lust at first sight for me
His eyes, his lips...everything about him is just so damn beautiful. But that was just lust. He won me over completely when he opened his mouth. He's very intelligent...which is much more sexy than a face or a body ever could be.

We're working on our 6th year of marriage and my heart still skips a beat when he walks in to the room.
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 11:10 AM
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26. he is so freaking smart
gawd I love intelligence
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mopinko Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-23-04 11:18 AM
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27. noticed his friend first
but he was sitting on the other side of him at the bar. attempts at conversation didn't carry that far.
later i found out that he was funny and smart.
but most of all, he was crazy about me, and that didn't scare the shit out of him.
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