He's moving out! He's moving out! He's moving out!!!!!!!!

[crim son]

We've agreed that it's worth the money for him to move into his own house. We even have a date: I'm travelling to Oregon in May and he'll move while I'm there.

The separation is actually going to happen. I can't BELIEVE IT! :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
On edit: It's now five o'clock and I need to do some homework. So I can finish school. So I can get a job.

:woohoo:

[KitchenWitch]

1. Party on!

:woohoo:

[crim son]

8. I have not yet BEGUN to party!

I won't even need to escape on Fridays. I can have friends visit me here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Whoa. I'm breathless.

[Connonym]

2. YAY!!!

[crim son]

I know!!!!!!!

:woohoo: :woohoo:

[Chan790]

3. Please let me be the first to say CONGRATS. (Damn...minute too late.)

[crim son]

11. It's the thought that counts.

:pals:

[cwydro]

4. That's a very good thing.

Glad to hear it.

[crim son]

12. It really is.

One way or the other, this has to happen so we can get on with life. He's actually very excited about it which makes me feel even better!

[La Lioness Priyanka]

5. YAY!

:party:

:bounce:

:hug:

[crim son]

13. Thanks sweetie!

I feel like a boulder has been lifted off my chest. :hug:

[ThomCat]

6. Yay! Congratulations!

I hope that catalyzes a lot of good things for you. I hope a lot of seriously good things start happening for you.
:hug:

[crim son]

14. Even if there are no other good things for a year, this is a start.

Happy!

[Whoa_Nelly]

7. OMG! Yay!!!!!!!!

Keep me posted re: dates in OR!


From down to upbeat for you! :hug: :woohoo: :pals: :loveya: :hi:

[crim son]

16. I will.

I'll tell for sure, but it's something like - no, I'll check right now. It's May 7th - 16th. Only a short trip but at least I'm getting away!!!!

[Whoa_Nelly]

51. You do realize the leaving of the "negative"

Will make for the positive energy entering in the house selling!! ;)

[crim son]

61. It has occurred to me that his hanging on has had a negative

effect in terms of energy, and I'd even asked him to work on it. Geez I hope we're right...

[Zuiderelle]

9. I had someone move out when I was gone once.

Found a lot of things missing that were not part of the bargain when I returned. I never made that mistake again.

[crim son]

17. This is my husband of just about seventeen years.

We're writing a checklist together and are amicable. I'm sorry to hear about your e xperience, though. :hug:

[Zuiderelle]

38. Funny thing is that it was also a long relationship with an amicable split.

I just never brought the things up because I didn't want to drag it out. We had a checklist too. It was really just little things, that if I had been there, I would have objected to having them walk off, and it would have been fine.

[crim son]

42. Okay, then I'm going to consider myself armed with

the knowledge. Things do tend to take a turn for the worse when the end is near. I appreciate you sharing your experience and will bear it in ming.

[Dervill Crow]

10. Congratulations!

It's always nice when life gets a little less complicated.

[crim son]

18. This is the second step of about twenty that are necessary.

I'm happy.

[Aristus]

15. Woo-hoo! You GO, girlfriend!

I'm happy for you! :woohoo::woohoo:

[crim son]

19. Thanks Aristus!

I'm in shock right now but I'll get over it. Quickly!

[SarahB]

20. It'll be like a huge weight off.

Being stuck in a dead relationship sucks the big one. :hug:

To your new life!!!! :toast: :bounce:

[crim son]

22. Thank you SarahBelle!

It's just the beginning but at least it IS beginning! Thank you for being kind :hug:

[wildhorses]

21. what wonderful news!!!

:hi:happy for you :hug:

:woohoo::woohoo::woohoo:

[crim son]

23. I'm so due for good news and this is the best!

Next: finish school and get a job!! :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:

[wildhorses]

26. yes, you were due --

keep planning your work
and
working your plan

i have feeling you are going to be just fine

really, so happy for you :hug:

[Pierre.Suave]

24. WooHoo

Party at Crim sons house.

[crim son]

28. And you're definitely invited!

I haven't been allowed to have people over. Now I can!!!

[Pierre.Suave]

45. SWEET

What should I bring? Other than my awesome self of course.

[crim son]

47. Um,

your bathing suit. We don't want to annoy the girlfriend :) Better still, bring her!

[Pierre.Suave]

57. LOL

She will come too, and we will BOTH have bathing suits.

[LaraMN]

25. Hot tub party at crim son's!

Except for Matcom.
His massive-consumption-of-laxatives-prior-to-entering-the-tub "joke" totally ruined the last party.



:bounce:

[crim son]

29. Thanks for the heads-up, LaraMN.

I'm scratching his name off the invitation list! You must be here, though. :woohoo:

[graywarrior]

27. Sweeeeeeet. I am very happy for ya.

[crim son]

31. gray, I am very happy for myself.

The four months he takes off in the summer would have killed us both. Now we will have space to breathe and think.

I keep on not believing it. But it's true!

[graywarrior]

50. Like cutting out a tumor.

[crim son]

62. another dupe

[crim son]

63. Yes, he feels the same way.

This tumor is rapidly growing and the sooner it's excised the better. :)

[Xipe Totec]

59. Kudos to both of you

It seems to me you are handling this break up as mature adults.

I rare thing these days.

I am happy for you, but I am also glad that he's cooperating and taking it well.

[crim son]

64. I appreciate that, Xipe.

We've tried. We have three wonderful kids so we must be as careful as we can.

[Xipe Totec]

78. I truly respect that

As long as your children are foremost in your thoughts, your hearts are in the right place.

It's all about preserving your bloodline; lastnames be damned, so long as your descendants carry forth, survive, and thrive.

[cobalt1999]

30. I don't know the whole story, but...

Many years ago my live-in girlfriend and split up. We continued to live amicably together for about 3 years afterwords and dated other people, but it wasn't until we ended that arrangement that we both were able to completely move on. Within a year we had each met someone new and gotten married. It helps more than you think. Congrats!

[crim son]

33. It will make a tremendous difference to my mental health

and his. We absolutely need to do this. Thanks!

[Guava Jelly]

32. Good!

To your happiness :toast: :hug:

[crim son]

35. No, to yours!

:toast: :loveya: :hug:

[Guava Jelly]

40. How about to ours than.

:hug: :loveya:

[crim son]

43. Okay, angel.

To ours. :toast:

[Starbucks Anarchist]

34. Yay!

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[crim son]

36. I'll probably stop abusing you now!

I'm going to be much less grouchy. :hug: :hug: :hug: :loveya: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[Starbucks Anarchist]

44. No, abuse away!

:D

[crim son]

48. Righto.

That's it, SA. You've broken my heart AGAIN. I'm putting you on nuclear IGNORE! :mad:

[Starbucks Anarchist]

52. Ooh, hurt me.

:evilgrin: :rofl:

[crim son]

37. Dupe!

[u4ic]

39. Great news!

:toast:

Now you can get your life back on track again. :hug:

[crim son]

46. I'm going to try. It's never been this off-track before

and I think I have the ability to survive on my own. Thank you, u4ic. :hug:

[bigwillq]

41. Well that's good news!

:bounce:

[crim son]

49. It is. It really, really is!

:bounce: :woohoo: :bounce:

[BarenakedLady]

53. OMG...I'm so jealous!

Congratulations babydoll!

So when can I come visit? :evilgrin:

:bounce: :bounce: :toast: :bounce: :bounce:

[crim son]

66. YAH!

He should be out by the weekend after May 16th. Anytime, lady! ANY TIME!!!!! I'll still be going to school on my own schedule, so I can easily make room for a visit.

Then you'll see how truly screwn I am, living up here. :loveya:

Your time will come. I've been sitting on this for over a year.

[Omphaloskepsis]

54. Congrats...

If you make it to Eugene I will buy you a drink.

[crim son]

67. Be afraid.

I will be in Salem next month! :hug:

[Omphaloskepsis]

77. Oh shit... Salem..

I will leave a twenty taped under the park bench located west of the gold plated thing that is perched upon our capital building. Buy some beer and cry yourself to sleep. I hate Salem.

[crim son]

81. I remember that you do!

hehehe. I'm gonna look for that money. :P

[Omphaloskepsis]

83. I was joking about that...

I would have to go to Salem to put it there. Fuck no... I used to work in Salem, my hatred is based on experience.

I'm not joking about buying you a drink (or a night of drinks) if you stop by Eugene. I'm not hitting on you.. I have math homework. Later.

[Debi]

55. Congrats and good luck to you

Will never forget the day I asked my ex to move out....I slept like a baby for the first time in three years!! I never would have become who I am today w/him in my life. Now I'm happy and in :loveya: with Mr. Debi!! Good things do happen when you move forward! :party:

[crim son]

68. That's so good to hear.

I've had a helluva long time to digest the separation. I'm so looking forward to being myself, and not somebody's appendage. And I'm happy for you and Mr. Debi!

[GenDem]

56. That's wonderful news

This is such a positive development. I'm very happy for you!
:woohoo:

[crim son]

72. I think it is.

Now, if I can just sell this house and find my own all will be well.

[Brewman_Jax]

58. Congrats!

You deserve a break! :thumbsup:

[crim son]

73. Thanks, Lurking!!!

I'm not sure that "deserve" is exactly the right word, but I am surely "desperate" for a break. :D

[SPKrazy]

60. Yayyy!

good for you and him!

now get to work!

:woohoo:

and you are sooooooo right about what you said!

:rofl:

[crim son]

74. Yeah, it's so hard to tell, with you.

:P

I just did an hour. Wee break and then back I go. :woohoo:

[SPKrazy]

89. Hey, It's Easy To Tell...

I'm turning blue in places... :blush:


:rofl:

[Danger Mouse]

65. Congratulations, hun, congratulations.

:hug: maybe now you can move on and be done with this.

[crim son]

75. That is my hope.

Generally speaking my plans tend to go awry, but this is a good start. And you know what? The sky has cleared. Even the heavens are in a good mood!

[In_The_Wind]

69. Hurray!

:toast:

[crim son]

76. Thank you Joanie.

It's nice to see you! :toast:

[Maine-ah]

70. awesome!

:toast:

[crim son]

80. It is awesome, Maine-ah!

I need a job now but that will come in time. It will actually be cheaper for my husband to maintain two smaller houses than our one huge one, not that I expect him to have to do that for too long.

[Maine-ah]

71. awesome!

:toast:

[mentalsolstice]

79. Sweet, so sweet!

Congrats! I'm sure it's a hugh!!!!1!!! weight off your chest!

[crim son]

82. That's what it is1

It's starting to sink in. Yay!!!!

[fizzgig]

84. that is good news sweetie

no, wait, that is fucking great news! :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:

:hug:

[crim son]

88. I'm so excited I can't eat

and there are three pizzas in the kitchen. That means I'M EXCITED! :pals:

[SeattleGirl]

85. I'm so happy for you!!!!!

:bounce: :bounce:

[crim son]

90. Thank you SeattleGirl.

It's been a few hours and I'm still disbelieving. But, :woohoo:

[Left Is Write]

86. This is for you. I heard today and IMMEDIATELY thought of you.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IDlfeCOrskc

[crim son]

91. My new motivational song! Thanks!

And if I can't do better, I'll do it alone. :pals:

[S n o w b a l l]

87. That is fantastic news crim son!

I'm so happy for you. :hug:

You can finally start to move on and I just know you'll see such an improvement in your dating relationships from now on too.

Here's to you and your new life...finally! :) Yay!

:toast:

[crim son]

92. Well, those relationship(s) couldn't be much worse,

not surprisingly. I'm getting a headache from happiness. Every time I get happy something bad happens & I'm hoping this is the exception to that rule. Cheers! :toast:

[mainegreen]

93. Good for you!!!

Congrats! Soon you'll not only be free, you'll feel free too!

[crim son]

94. First I'll feel afraid

but after that, free. It's perfect timing because he has the summer off starting in two weeks so he can make the transition easy for the kids by having them over for part of each week. Damn, that's a fringe benefit I hadn't considered! :hi: Hi, mainegreen!