Has anybody else here been generally happier when not in a relationship

[raccoon]

than when in a relationship?

Most of my adult life, I haven’t been in a relationship. Recently, I realized that I’ve been happier when not in a relationship.

Some of that I attribute to having made poor choices of SO’s in the past. Not saying they were bad people, but we weren’t well suited. I think I’d make a better choice now.

I’m happily single but wouldn’t mind an LTR if it was a good one.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

1. i was much happier single than when partnered with people not right for me

but i am happier now than i have ever been single.

[Deep13]

2. My Sweetie is perfect for me.

I'm much happier with her being around.

[Chan790]

3. I'm happiest single...

but dating.

Relationships are not my cup of tea.

[mike_c]

4. I've been single for the last several years and I really like it....

Sure, there are times when being alone all the time gets tiresome, but on the whole it's better than the conflict that inevitably seems to come with relationships.

[acmavm]

5. I agree.

[raccoon]

11. I agree, and seems to me most of the time the costs outweigh the benefits.

I think a lot of it is just what a person's used to. If you're used to being alone, it's easier to be alone. For some people, who're used to being in a relationship, it's easier to be in a relationship.

[El Fuego]

6. Depends on the relationship and my life at the time

If you ask me now, I would say I'm MUCH happier in a relationship.

[InvisibleTouch]

7. Oh, absolutely.

Neither the "obsessive infatuation" stage nor the "disastrous aftermath" stage are particulaly pleasant. Of the former, I generally just weather it and hope it passes soon; of the latter, I've cut down on that tremendously in recent years by simply realizing it wasn't worth the energy. Ultimately I'm happiest in solitude - and I've never wanted anyone in my personal space, long-term.

[Yavin4]

8. Nothing Is Better Than Being In A Relationship With the Right Person

And, nothing is worse than being in relationship with the wrong person.

Does that answer your question?

[SarahB]

9. Yep!

:thumbsup:

[Bunny]

10. Ever since I made the decision to stop inflicting myself on unsuspecting men,

I've been the happiest I've ever been in my adult life. Although at times I miss not having anyone to really discuss current events with, I find that I simply don't need much in the way of companionship.

I'm raising two kids myself, and I have a (sometimes) demanding job - my overall level of stress is lower when I don't have to also work on fitting someone else's needs into my life.