Ladies, do you get greated this way at your ob/gyn's office?

[crim son]

I just love my doctor and everybody who works there but yesterday I was bowled over. I was seeing the nurse practitioner for a regular checkup and she was asking the normal history questions, so the hideous state of my personal life came up. I wasn't upset discussing it and in fact was laughing about some of the pitfalls when the NP jumped out of her chair, came over to me and gave me a huge hug. She then proceeded to give me a pep talk about how I am young & beautiful and smart etc. and that she's "proud" of me. I got two more hugs during the appointment and a bunch of "my child"s as well (she's ten years older than me). The doctor is very much the same - fewer hugs but great conversation and she hates the Pretzel too. Normally however she doesn't actually hug me. I left the place feeling like a human being (aside from the high blood pressure nonsense). I wish all doctors were as human. No hugs are required, but it's really something to be treated like a human being.

[MissMillie]

1. My doctor is very similar

though I've never gotten a hug. But I always get an emotional pat on the back. I think my doctor realizes that even something as simple as an "atta girl!" can help alleviate stress and therefore improve help.

[crim son]

2. It really does help.

Come to think of it, I guess male doctors can't easily get away with hugging their female patients, can they? I once had one kiss me on the forehead when he saw I was extremely upset and it still stands out in my mind as rather inappropriate though I know it was a paternal kiss. I'm glad you have a decent doctor, MissMillie.

[MissMillie]

5. well, my doctor is female

I can certainly see how it may feel inappropriate for a male doctor to hug his female patient... but I guess for a female doctor, they might be able to get away w/ it depending on how long they've known the patient.

I've been w/ my doctor for about 6 years now. I think she's terrific. She never lets me leave until she answers all my questions.

[GalleryGod]

31. I'd get "enlightened" for hugging any female student under 21.

P.S. I think you meant "Greeted" in OP ??

[skygazer]

3. I miss my ob/gyn from back in Vermont

The office was just like that. I started going to them when I was pregnant with my oldest, 27 years ago and went there until I moved out here 8 years ago.

They knew me and they honestly seemed to care about me, not just the reasons for my visits but beyond that. It was a really nice feeling and I've never found it to that level anywhere else.

I remember when I was pregnant with my son, I missed a couple of appointments (because I had no car and my damned ex was unreliable) - by the time I got in, it was a few days before my due date and the doctor spotted me as soon as I came in the door (I had no appointment that day - just got a ride and figured I'd take a chance).

He said, hands on hips like he was scolding a child, "skygazer, where have you been?!" and whisked me into an exam room ahead of everyone. Good, good people.

[crim son]

7. It sounds like he was an exceptional physician.

They're out there, but rather hard to find.

[Missy Vixen]

4. I was at my normal GP appointment a couple of years back

I knew there was something wrong. I'd had a significant personal setback. I hadn't been feeling like myself for a long time.
My GP kept at it until I agreed I was depressed. She made sure I got the help I needed, then she hugged me while I cried.
I think she saved my life.

Crim son, I'm glad to know that you have a caring doctor and office staff, too.

Julie

[crim son]

8. Thank you Julie!

:hug: We are lucky, you and I. :hug:

[Beausoir]

6. No. I have been mistreated by a couple Gyns. I just fired the last one.

Dismissive, patronizing creep with a HUGE wooden cross around his neck.
Sent me someone else's lab results.

Erroneously told me I had an STD. (Been married for 20 years and faithful...try throwing that topic up at the dinner table!)

[crim son]

9. That is VILE.

I'm so sorry to hear about your experience. I honestly believe that a fundy cannot make a good physician, not for the general public. This one sounds like he was mentally ill - a sadist. I hope you find somebody who knows how to do their job, soon.

[Missy Vixen]

10. I'm sorry, but that wooden cross would have ended up somewhere he didn't want it

>Erroneously told me I had an STD.<

He WHAT?
Beausoir, please complain to the licensing board! This guy shouldn't be practicing! There's human error, and there's just plain stupidity. It would seem to me that after his first mistake, he would have double-checked results like that. I can't even IMAGINE what Mr. Beausoir must have said!

Julie

[Beausoir]

11. The funny thing is...my husband is a surgeon. This is a small town. They all know each other.

And my hub warned me off this guy months ago. But when you live in rural MN, your choices are VERY limited.

When I went ballistic about receiving someone else's test results (Hmmm..wonder who got mine?) his nurse just kinda chuckled and said "Oh well, I must've put them in the wrong envelopes!".

I honestly feel that because I am not and never have been pregnant and will never be pregnant, I am not seen as lucrative to alot of Gynecologists.

I switched to another one in a town 30 miles from here, but rumor has it she is fat-phobic...so that's...well....yeah...really helpful.

[crim son]

12. Shit. My father is a recently retired ob/gyn

and I can tell you categorically that it wouldn't have mattered to him whether or not you were having kids. These days a lot of OBs are closing up shop because of all the lawsuits so if anything, you would be a desirable patient. Having said that, I don't doubt for two seconds that you're having trouble finding somebody good, and I'm sorry about that.

[Beausoir]

15. It's all about the procedures to make money. That's why this last doc insisted

on fitting me with an I.U.D. Even though my husband had a vasectomy. The guy insisted that the hormones implanted in this IUD would be good for me.

Then, after 20 excruciating minutes of agony, he gave up trying to place it because he was afraid he would rupture my uterus. And yep, he billed me for it.

Like I said...I fired his ass.

There are alot of fine docs out there and they never get recognized. But there are alot of really bad ones, too.

[crim son]

18. How insane is that? The IUD, I mean.

Didn't your husband tell you that was a LOAD OF SHIT? Jesus, I smell malpractice.

[Beausoir]

19. Happened too fast. That's one of the things I resent most.

I am normally a smart girl and I can be mean and obstinate as hell. But something about being up in the stirrups makes my spine dissolve and I readily accepted his recommendation. It is such a vulnerable position. That's what I resent most.

Stupid me.

But, I have moved on and learned by my mistakes. This time, I'm going in with both barrels loaded.

[crim son]

23. Good.

I guess we need be on our guard at all times these days. I wish you well.

[wildhorses]

13. i think i am a guy

:shrug:

want my information given to me in a composed, detached, professional manner with a desk in between us, thanks.

:hi:

[crim son]

16. Normally I am entirely with you.

But these people are just so great that I feel lucky to have them. You're no guy, wildhorses! :hi:

[matcom]

14. DAMN! Hot OBGYN on Patient action!

Dear Penthouse Forum......

[crim son]

17. That's not even funny!

Nor is it original. :P

[Beausoir]

20. You know what we should do with you, Matcom?

We should strip you down to your socks, throw your feet up in the stirrups, strap you down to the table, pull the XXL speculum out of the freezer and take a gander under your hood.

You naughty little 12 year old. :rofl:

[zanne]

21. My cats' vet is like that.

No, she's not a doctor for humans, but when I had to have my cat euthanized, she hugged me until I stopped crying.

[crim son]

24. No matter who is being treated, doctors need to do their work

with real compassion. I'm sorry about your kitty, zanne.

[Akoto]

22. It's like the president said.

They're just trying to practice their love on you. :shrug: :evilgrin:

[crim son]

25. LOL!

I didn't think of that, although we terrorized my father, a republican ob/gyn, with the quote for months and months.

[Phillycat]

26. Maybe I'm weird...

but I would be EXTREMELY uncomfortable in a clinical medical setting if ANYONE hugged me. Particularly at the GYN's!! I don't like to be touched by anyone that I'm not VERY close to.

[azmouse]

27. Not weird at all. I feel the same way.

Don't hug me or touch me unless you're family or a close friend. Doctors should be hands off except for what they need to do practice medicine.

[GalleryGod]

30. I Agree.

But...I'm A Guy (of course)

[GalleryGod]

28. SICNR

[Connonym]

29. Yes, my GYN hugs me at every visit

She's been my GYN for 15 years and seen me through complicated pregnancies, miscarriage, etc., so it's cool. If it was a man I might feel a little vulnerable getting a hug wearing one of those gowns.

I hugged my dentist after he told me his cat died. Even though I've known him 20+ years I felt sort of stupid after I did it.

[mockmonkey]

32. Do you ever have your spouse or partner stay in the

room with you while the Doctor examines you? I was wondering if anyone besides me does that. My SO is F2M transgendered and I always stay with him during the examinations. He still has to have the yearly check-ups that females have to have.

I think he would be more uncomfortable if I wasn't there, even though he has a GREAT Doctor. I'm thinking it's very rare for someone else to be present.

[crim son]

34. When I was pregnant sometimes my husband would come in

for the exams. I'd really rather not have company, though.

[elfrangel]

33. I loved my last OB/GYN

I have always HATED going in for annuals, it would hurt so bad. Then there is that whole thing about having some other guy seeing everything who is NOT your hubby....uh...Yeah...I tend be a bit uncomfortable about that.

My doctor was amazing in the 2 greatest areas for me: He didn't hurt me when he performed a pelvic and he put me completely at ease.....I really think that the fact he was gay helped me feel comfortable with him.

He never hugged me or anything, but he always made me feel like he had time for me and was available if I needed him. My first pregnancy I ended up being induced and he made sure that he could be there with me the whole day. It was wonderful!!!! If he wasn't so far away, I would be going back to see him once I get prego again.

[SPKrazy]

35. My Doctor Is Super Friendly

He always is willing to talk to me as long as we need to, he always shakes my hand, looks me in the eyes, now that I think about it ewwww, he's giving me the creeps. Not really. I've known him since he was the chief resident at the family medicine clinic through the University of Arkansas for Medical Sciences. He went into practice with a couple of great family practice specialists and I just love him. Sometimes though he tells me he "prays" for me, and I just tell him thanks. I mean, can't hurt? He also does pretty much what I tell him to do, I've got him trained well. ;)