Hell, we just got my Mother moved in, I am the only one with a wheel chair friendly house.

[texanwitch]

My sister and I am taking her to the Dr.'s tomorrow to to see about her knee.

This didn't need to happen, my Mother was warned about this knee going out if she didn't have surgery.

I told me roommates they need to keep me sane dealing with my Mother, she is really hard to deal with.

It will be a long few months dealing with this.

I really need the Lounge to keep me sane.

[mzteris]

1. You're asking the LOUNGE

to help keep you sane??????

You MUST be crazy!!!!!!

:rofl:


Sorry - I couldn't help myself.

I'm sorry about your Mom. I hope she gets better soon. For her sake. And yours.

:hug:

[texanwitch]

2. This will be her choice,

She gets her knee fixed or she has to go a home.

She is staying in my roommates room, it was made wheelchair friendly by the woman who owned the house before me.

I could not live my Mother, one of us would be dead.

Thanks for the hug, I really need it.

[krispos42]

8. Damn, you beat me to it!

I thought "He wants US to keep him sane?!?!?", then scrolled down to hit 'reply', and your post was there! :rofl:

[mzteris]

18. well - you know what they say

about great minds!

Or is that warped minds? :crazy:

[Suich]

3. You have my sympathy!

I took care of my Mother (with dementia) for 6 weeks and it was very difficult.

Hang in there!

[texanwitch]

4. Thank you Suich.

Thankfully my mother doesn't have dementia but she just can't get along with anyone.

My sister had her for a year and just couldn't take it anymore.

She was living in an independent living style home for almost two years but now with her knee she had to move out.

She can move back if she has surgery and can walk again.

I just don't understand my Mother.

[allalone]

5. you aren't gonna like this but,

she's your mother. I'm sure she was less than thrilled with your shitty diapers, vomiting, temper tantrums. Your behavior when you turned 13. face it, we all turn into crazies at 13. If you are really a witch, as I am, your attitude surprises me. cut her a little slack please. she;ll be gone soon. The things in life we usually regret are the things we didn't do.

[texanwitch]

6. My grandmother raised me, my mother was never really a part of my life.

My mother is not a nice person.

When she was living in my sister house, nothing my sister did was good enough for her.

I am taking care of my mother, but it is going to be hard.

When I was 13 was helping to take of my Aunt, so I was rather grown up at that point.
Living with two Grandparents and my Aunt, I had to grow up quick.

I just wish my mother would have taken better care of her health, she has been in pain for the last few years with her knee.

I am hoping she has a successful surgery and can live the rest of here life pain free.

She was having a good time were she was living, and I want her to go back to that life.

No we are not close but she is here in my house, and I will do the best I can to take care of her.

She just makes it really hard.

I was hoping we could get closer over the years but it hasn't worked out.

I will make another try but it does take two.

I wish I could undo whatever it was that made her so bitter.

[allalone]

16. you really are in a difficult position

my mom and I were like oil and water. As she got older it became more difficult to deal with her. She had a lot of health issues but her mind was still very sharp. When it came time for her to live with someone I knew it couldn't be me. We had a long talk about it and she realized it too. She went to live with my brother as they had always been very close. His wife is a saint. After a few months it became clear she needed skilled care. She woke up one morning and told my brother, it's time for me to go to a home. Very brave of her I think.

please remember, we are with you. It's hard to care for an elder person and when it gets too tough, check with your local Y or rec dept. a lot of times they have programs for caretakers to get a time out
and recharge their batteries.
hang in there.

[Patiod]

17. Sounds like you're being a great daughter

allalone is being a bit harsh. Some people are just so difficult it's impossible to describe, and if you haven't experienced it, it's hard to imagine how bad they really are.

Plus you know the rule of three. (I'm a Quaker myself, but was always struck by the basic truth of that)

Doing what's right is sometimes its own reward in the long run. As someone who is going through eldercare issues, I know that it's the short run that's tough, however.

We're here for you TXWitch.

[Nicole]

7. I hope the next few months pass quickly.

It's difficult to care for someone like that, especially when that person makes it harder than it has to be.

Best of luck to both of you!

[texanwitch]

10. Thank you Nicole

I really love my mother and we still have time, she is 83 and my Grandparents lived to almost 100 years old.

[krispos42]

9. Time to take some overtime.... and a second job

"Looks like I picked the wrong week to quit sniffing glue!"

[judaspriestess]

11. bummer, your mom is hard to deal with

my mommy lives with us, but we are very, very happy to be like we are. But oh dear momma, can get on my nerves sometimes. She is all I got, I grew up without a father so my mom is it. She and my SO absolutely adore each other. It was not always like this between me and mom, mom did a poor job raising me or lack there of and I was kinda pissed off there for a lil bit, but I came to the conclusion one day that she did the best she could with what she knew and she is really a good person and I am her life. she just grew up very simplistic and around some dumb ass people.

Its gonna be all good for you. :hug:

[texanwitch]

12. My mother pushes people away.

I wish I knew how to reach her.

I would love for my mother to live with me, but not the way it is right now.

I am glad everything is working out between you and your mom.

:hug:

[zanne]

14. Dear Judaspriestess....

Your post touched me. We lived with my mom and took care of her when she got Alzheimer's. It was alot like your situation now. My mother and husband were close, too. And I didn't realize it while she was sick and needed so much of me it almost seemed impossible, but when she died I realized that it was the other way around. Even when she had lost the ability to speak and didn't know who I was, she was my rock. The first anniversary of her death comes on the 16th, but it seems like yesterday. I'm so glad that you love yor mom. Please enjoy being together as long as you can. Nobody will ever love you more.

[NC_Nurse]

13. I understand how tough it is.

I have several relatives requiring help these days, none of whom is easy to deal with.
My mom is sinking into dementia and has had both hips replaced. At this point, my dad
is hanging in there with her. We are going one weekend a month to give him a break.

My mom has never been easy to deal with either. I pray that nothing happens to my dad because
I dread having to deal with her full time. You have my sympathies. Hang in there! :hug:

[Callalily]

15. Hoping

all goes well with your mom and that she has a speedy recovery and can go back to her own home soon. I know how trying it can be to care for a parent, especially a difficult one.

Here >>>>>>> maybe some self medication will help? :rofl:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

19. sorry texanwitch. hope you can retain your sanity.

let us know if we can help.

[ThomCat]

20. Be strong. You're doing something good. Don't let it get to you.

:hug: