Well I finally did it. I suscribed to eHarmony last night...

[badgerpup]

..and today I closed my VERY FIRST MATCH because while the must-haves lined up pretty nicely, I hit a big damn brick wall on one of his "Can't stands".

Warning: Possible TMI ALERT
This is kind of a scary process. Been broken up with Ex-beloved Sig Other for almost a year now...and as I read the profiles and what these nice gentlemen had to say about themselves, it hit me that I would be getting involved with FUNCTIONAL MALES. Functional on more than just the emotional level if you get my drift...:scared:
Ex-beloved Sig Other has spina bifida and the logistics of his condition made...er...physical intimacy a non-starter...and we were together for nearly six years.
Prior to that, before my former partner and I broke up, we hadn't slept together for more than a year.
That's a rather overwhelming bit of math there...:hide::yoiks:

And while some people may be thinking "Ha ha, she must be SCREAMING for it by now...actually I'm not. I'm scared actually...even though I went through the virgin thing (mumble) years ago, that's what it feels like now.

Is anybody else finding their way down this particular path?
I have heard good things about eHarmony...which relieves me...

:scared::banghead: I need to get a picture taken of myself. I hate...I mean I really freakin' HATE having my picture taken.
Do you suppose I could put in my religious beliefs that I believe that the taking of images steals away the soul? :crazy:

[Drum]

1. I can (somewhat) relate

to the re-virginizing thing...been a solo act for awhile now, and the dating scenario is a little daunting to contemplate. :eyes:

Good luck with your match-ups, and let the adventure generate the warmth organically. I hope all works out well, and that you encounter someone that you connect with on all levels.

[Chan790]

2. If they're into you...

they'll be caring and understanding as that's part of your package. If they're assholes...well, then you can consider them to be "practice" for when you meet a man.

(Because being a male asshole is mutually-exclusive from being a real man.)

I went down this road several years ago for a different reason. After being a wild spirit in HS I spent 1/2 of college thinking I was meant for a collar. It did make for a few uncomfortable nights when I started dating again after 2+ years.

As for the photo...someone once told me that the only reason most people care about photos is to make sure you have front teeth and 2 eyes and lack a horn or pig-nose. I don't know if that's true, but I do know that whether the photo matters or not, you'll feel better about it if you have one taken by a pro (or a talented friend) who is being paid to make you look good and values your input.