guys who say "my wife" instead of "the wife"

[JVS]

WHO THE FUCK ARE THEY TO CLAIM OWNERSHIP OF A HUMAN BEING!?!?
Putting the posessive in front of wife is demeaning!

[Magrittes Pipe]

1. I agree. The whole notion of a "wife" is demeaning...

...as are gender-specific pronouns.

This is why I refer to dolo as "it" or "that."

[JVS]

2. Yes, or simply as "spouse", "mate", "foe" or some other description

[Magrittes Pipe]

4. "The bonbon-eating flesh-puppet in my bed" works as well.

:thumbsup:

[Blue_Tires]

6. just like "that dumb broad!"

[Magrittes Pipe]

8. That only works if the "broad" in question does not talk.

The bonbon-eating flesh-puppet in my bed does talk, and quite a bit.

[no name no slogan]

3. much nicer than "ol' whatzerface", IMHO

[Magrittes Pipe]

5. No, that's my ex.

[no name no slogan]

7. heh, mine too

:thumbsup:

[eyesroll]

10. Isn't "ol whatzerface" taking your stepchild for a few hours this weekend?

And buying you dinner at Saffron at some point?

[Magrittes Pipe]

11. Theoretically. I have not seen any results from these vows.

I am sure the female human in question is just busy. Or it could be a deceitful goon.

[SCantiGOP]

9. what about..

"my husband"? Does that indicate ownership?

[Magrittes Pipe]

12. Yes.

And you are worse than Simon Legree. :grr:

[JVS]

21. Yeah, get your oppresive possessive pronouns out of here!

[aikoaiko]

13. To each their own. nt

[In_The_Wind]

14. I think that was exactly my point.

www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=5100663&mesg_id=5100711

[One_Life_To_Give]

15. As opposed to yours

Mine, yours, theirs, ours.

I don't beleive the intent is to be possesive. But to differentiate between the millions of Wives as to which the conversation is refering to.

The Wife sounds more like an object than a human being. IMHO

[SoCalDem]

16. Actually I prefer it to "the"

People identify their loves with possesives..

MY car
My apartment

It's also a truth. When people marry they become husband and wife.. To each other, which implies "ownership".. They agree to remain faithful to each other, they belong to each other..

A guy who says "the wife" is being disrespectful, IMHO :)

and in a large gathering where people are mingling with people they do not know, it's commom to say "my wife/husband" to differentiate them from all the others there who are NOT.

[Karenina]

20. "The wife"

is an "IT."

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

22. Exactly...what kind of person objectifies people ?

probably someone who thinks people are things to be used and discarded...or held out as some kind of fucking trophy

[Orangepeel]

24. seconded

I say, "my husband," "my mother," "my sister," "my friend." It indicates my relationship to them.

Besides, they aren't the only husbands, mothers, sisters and friends in the world. I just doesn't make sense for me to say something like "I'm meeting the husband at 3:00." Most people would understand that I meant my particular husband, but why not make it clear.

Also, "the wife" sounds one step removed from "the little woman"

[NNadir]

17. My wife refers to me as "my husband."

She does own me, body and soul. I am hers, and proud of it too.

[hfojvt]

18. so I suppose it is not okay either to say

my ol' lady :hide:

[evermind]

19. So.. "my father", "my son", "my friend" .. all wrong?

I'll have to adjust the way I talk so I don't claim ownership of all my relativ... er, I mean "the relatives"!

:eyes:

[bullwinkle428]

23. "Old lady" is quite commonplace where I live...

[Roland99]

25. Say what? Geeeeezz....

My cat
My mom
My dad
My daughter
My eyes
My sister
My dinner
My favorite movie


All those imply ownership? :wtf:

[tallahasseedem]

26. Ummmm....okay.

:eyes:

[JackDragna]

27. Oh, Jesus. Here we go.

She's "your" wife in the sense she's married to you, not to someone else. "The" wife could be any wife in the universe. Is this really what we've come to? Jesus Christ, people. Get the knot out of your undies and join the rest of sane society.

[Left Is Write]

50. Psst...

It's a copycat thread...don't take it seriously.

[driver8]

28. How about if I say, "The ol' ball and chain"??

I'm sure the woman I am married to says "My husband"...big f*cking deal. I am certainly not going to lose sleep over it.

[CanuckAmok]

29. It's better than "The Ol' Warm Hoover".

By the way, I'm divorced.

[Floogeldy]

30. All married couples should own each other.

Lay off.

[gardenista]

31. To each his own. uh. I mean to each their, um, other. Well. not their

I mean to all an opportunity to embrace a point of view (with the point of view's full permission, of course.)

[progmom]

35. ...

:rofl:

[Aristus]

32. Well, to avoid confusion and possible legal action, I just say: "My wife".

As in: "I went to bed with my wife last night." Instead of: "I went to bed with YOUR wife" or HIS wife, etc.

Saves a lot of trouble.

[WCGreen]

33. What about My Husband......

[Misunderestimator]

44. oops wrong spot

:hi:

[aePrime]

34. What an excellent troll

Look at those responses!

[progmom]

36. huh?

:shrug:

[Left Is Write]

49. He's not trolling. It's just a copycat.

[JVS]

56. Thanks for sticking up for me

Has humor died in the lounge?

[Skinner]

37. I can't tell. Is this OP serious?

Or is this a joke?

Could someone throw a bone to a confused admin?

[matcom]

38. we prefer to keep you in the dark

:D

its a spoof from another thread from yesterday

[Skinner]

41. Thanks.

Honestly, sometimes the "more progressive than thou" thing here on DU is so extreme that I honestly can't tell if someone is being serious. Many of the "real" posts seem like satire.

[WritingIsMyReligion]

43. We generally just bump around here in the Lounge.

Hardly anything SERIOUS is ever posted, without being spoofed up the wazoo.

;)

[WritingIsMyReligion]

39. I think JVS is tongue in cheek.

It's a copycat thread, of sorts.

:D ;)

[Misunderestimator]

40. Here:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=5100663

[Skinner]

42. Ah, yes.

Thanks for the link. :thumbsup:

[JVS]

57. Joke Copycat thread, Skinner!

[Misunderestimator]

45. "The partner" just doesn't have the same effect.

x(

[eyesroll]

47. How about: "The lump that gets to stay in bed as long as he wants

today because he doesn't have to be anywhere until 1 and I had to be at work at 7?"

Wait...that's mine. x(

[progmom]

48. ooooh - that would put me in a mood

:hug:

[progmom]

46. The Old Ball & Chain works well in all situations

:thumbsup:

[arwalden]

51. Yes... That's One Of My Favorites!!

I use it all the time. :thumbsup:

It works for both genders and for both gay and straight relationships.

[ChavezSpeakstheTruth]

52. I call mine "the potpie fixer"

[terrya]

53. I call mine "shmoopie"

Either I'm just hopelessly romantic or I'm an idiot.

[slide to the left]

54. I think the wife is derrogatory

its like, the dog, the house

I like being called my husband's wife

[Odin2005]

55. The OP must prefer to use the term "Womyn" as well.

:eyes:

"My" just indicate relationship, not neccessisarily ownership. I'm sick of political correctness butchering the English language.

[I Have A Dream]

58. OK, now you're just trying to start trouble.

:eyes:

(Copycat!)

[kmla]

59. And what about the "My DU" button at the top of the page???? Hmmmm????

Kinda presumptuous to assume ownership of part of a website that belongs to Skinner, dontcha think??

Just sayin'.

[calico1]

60. So now I should say "the husband," the mother"

"the friend," "the sister," "the dog?" I dunno...that sounds weird.


Oh, never mind..:)