I need a shoulder to cry on, guys....

[MiniMandaRuth]

Today I learned that the guy I have a crush on is being set up by one of my 'friends' for a date.

She know I like him.

She doesn't even care.

I know that love is not really important at this age, but I really did like him. He made me laugh and smile... he even took me to the movies with him....

I just feel really hurt and betrayed.


:cry:

[flamingyouth]

1. I'm sorry, Mini

That really sucks. :( :hug:

[MiniMandaRuth]

5. Thanks...

I have tears streaming down my face right now... I'm used to rejection... but this is just... worse...

[AirmensMom]

2. Aw, I'm sorry.

:hug: Love is important at any age and it hurts to be betrayed. :hug:

[MiniMandaRuth]

6. Thank you for your kind words...

:cry: Thank you... :loveya:

[bigwillq]

3. .....

:hug:

Sorry Mini.

Cut this friend out of your life. They are not your friend.


:hug:

[MiniMandaRuth]

7. Good advice...

Thank you. Thank you.

[devilgrrl]

4. Sorry sweetie...

that's horrible. :hug:

[MiniMandaRuth]

8. Thanks...

:hug:

[YellowRubberDuckie]

9. Most girls your age have no loyalty when it comes to cute guys...

And that's a shame. I pretty much hated every other girl I went to high school with. That's why most of my friends have always been guys. Much more simple, they say what they mean, mean what they say, and tell you the truth even if they think it will hurt. At least my friends were like that.
Oh and if that girl is doing that, she's not really your friend. :hug: I feel ya though. I had it happen to me enough.
Duckie

[MiniMandaRuth]

10. I have a lot of guy friends...

I'm at school right now, doing a project (Just getting over some writers block) and one of my friends is sitting next to me. He says he's going to find that girl tomorrow and have a word with her about other peoples feelings.

:cry: I don't know what I'd do without them...

[deadparrot]

11. I'm sorry, MMR.

:hug:

Sounds like a crappy "friend."

I'm having ice cream...want some?

[MiniMandaRuth]

13. Aw. Thanks...

My friend next to me is saying how nice all you people are. Big :hi: from him!

:hug:

[XemaSab]

12. Ditch her

She's not your friend.

[MiniMandaRuth]

14. I second that.

After my guy friend is done with her, I'm going up to her and telling her straight to her face that she sucks.

[Oeditpus Rex]

48. May I make a suggestion?

Tell her that what she did sucks. Tell her it was nasty and cheap and low-life and conduct unbecoming even a member of the BFEE.

Okay, wait...

But, seriously — if you make it a "you" thing, she'll remember that you got in her face. If you make it about what she did, she'll find it very hard to deny and it'll sink in.

You deserve much better. :hug:

[skygazer]

15. Love is important at any age

And friendship is important too which means loyalty and honor to one's friends. As so many others have said, she isn't much of a friend.

I'm sorry you've been hurt. :hug: That's a rotten feeling.

[MiniMandaRuth]

16. Thanks...

I feel loved again..

Thanks, everybody! :grouphug:

[RevCheesehead]

17. So.... Why don't you ask him for a date yourself??

Maybe he thinks it's you she's setting him up with. Besides, just because she's doing it, doesn't mean he's asked her to, does it?

And I agree: Dump the so-called "friend." She ain't one.

And here's a hug, just to feel better. :hug:

[MiniMandaRuth]

18. Thanks, Rev.

Haven't seen you, lately. :hug: But your wisdom is love, nonetheless.

[SeattleGirl]

19. Being betrayed by someone you thought was a friend is one of

the worst kinds of hurt, and I'm sorry it happened to you. I agree with the others -- she is not your friend, and you don't deserve that kind of treatment.

You do deserve this, though: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[miss_american_pie]

20. I'm sorry

She doesn't sound like much of a friend. :hug:

[hholli11]

21. Ask him out first yourself, Girlfriend!!!

No day but today! Besides, you won't really care about this one way or another a year from now. (Hell, you probably won't feel that way a month from now). Tell him you've had so much fun with him at the movies that yu'd like to go for ice cream (or whatever it is you guys do these days GAWD I feel old saying this but in my day, it was skating).

Just because someone is playing junior high yente with your man is no excuse to roll over and give up!

Besides, you're WAY cute, and so you're no worse off either way. :)

[ZombieNixon]

22. Wow. Eerie. It's like a prelude to my life.

I'm so sorry, and this time I can say I know exactly how it feels. :hug:

Someone said just cut this friend out of your life. I agree. It might be motivated by my own grief and ill-feelings right now, but in situations like these, I cannot think of another course to take. However, it's really better you deal with it now than later. I never had a situation like this happen to me before now, and now it's such terrible hurt I can't put it into words. I can only hope that it gets easier for you in the future, because as things get more serious, so does the pain of loss and betrayal. I know all about it now; I just wish I'd found out sooner, because then I might have had prior experience on which to draw. You will have that if it ever happens again.

This morning I finished cutting all vestiges of my ex-girlfriend out of my life. It hurts terribly, pain I've never experienced before, but if I'd had to deal with a situation like yours when I was 14, I think I'd be bouncing out of this malaise quicker. I think that pulling through this will make you stronger.

Not sure how much help I'd be right now, but PM if you want to talk more.

:hug:

[rockymountaindem]

34. It seems that all the teens of DU are stewing around in a big pot of

unrequited love lately. Just this morning I talked to my "non-girlfriend" from back home, who I have very strong feelings for, and who is a good friend, but who doesn't want to make that connection with me or with any other guy. When I talk to her, I'm both grateful and really, really frustrated at the same time. The thing is, I don't think anybody really treats her with respect, and here I am... I would be *sooooo* good to her, but she doesn't think along those lines. For all I know, she doesn't have any idea how much I care for her. But, if I tell her, she's so shy she'd prolly never talk to me again. It's sad :(

[ZombieNixon]

37. Eros hates us.

Damn you Eros, damn you. I hate you.

Yeah, that's pretty much my philosophy paper right now. :(

It sucks.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

55. Yes it does .

Eros and I are going to brawl really soon . Eros , you don't make any sense . You never have - now is a good time to start .

[BreweryYardRat]

40. I'm jumping in the pot.

The one girl who might like me (I'm not even sure!) I didn't get a chance to see over the weekend, and we've both got a shit-ton of work this week (finals), so odds are I won't be able to get hold of her.

And I think I just botched a final to boot (ran out of time).

This sucks.

[Jazz2006]

23. Sorry, MiniMandaRuth....

I was trying to post a response to your thread earlier when DU crapped out on me again, but here's a hug.

:hug:

Your "friend" sounds like no friend at all. I know it doesn't help, but you are better off without "friends" like that.

[MiniMandaRuth]

25. Du crapped on me, too....

I mean, crapped OUT on me...

[LeftyMom]

24. I'm sorry.

Anybody who treats you like this sort of thing is no big deal must not remember being a teenager. Feeling hurt and betrayed is awful at any age.

[MiniMandaRuth]

26. Thanks, LM.

:hug:

[In_The_Wind]

Real friends don't flirt with the guys you like if they know how you feel.

You need a new friend cause this one needs to be out of your life.

[MiniMandaRuth]

29. It's not her she's setting the date up for...

but her friend.

[In_The_Wind]

31. That's even worse!

She should really spend more of her time with this other friend of hers.

You'll find better things to do.

[Rhiannon12866]

60. Now that REALLY sucks!

This girl is not your friend. And pain hurts at any age, probably more now. I'm really sorry.:hug:

[HEyHEY]

27. Get used to it

And start drinking.

Cause it, along with way shittier things, are going to happen over and over in your love life.
But, way it goes. Best thing is to learn early how to get over something like this quick and move on.

[MiniMandaRuth]

28. The truest thing, HEyHEY...

Which is why you Canadians are so damn superior to us Americans!

[Ava]

30. i know how you feel. my day went from great, to horrible, to ok.

had a great morning because of the interview and an awesome email i got last night. then around lunch my dad and stepmom did something wrong and stupid and i don't know if i'll ever talk to either of them again. my stepmom DEFINES wicked stepmother. anyways, my evening got better when i got another request for an interview and found out i was featured on crooks & liars. so i'm feeling much better now and I'm sure you will later.


now back on topic: screw her! steal the guy from her! :P

[Sequoia]

32. It's not over.

Love is important, it just hurts more when you're younger because it's new. Let the "friend" have her date and then you can approach him. It's not like they're getting married. Seems to me this girl is doing it to hurt you because she is insecure and would rather go after someone who holds a special place in your heart. She might be mean and vindictive so be cool.

[Random_Australian]

33. Here's your shoulder.

:shoulder::hug:

[crispini]

35. Hugs and peace to you.

(((( H U G )))

[Haole Girl]

36. Hope things look up for you soon, mini!

Here is a ray of sunshine for you:

[MiniMandaRuth]

39. That's a beautiful picture, KC2!!!

Thank you! :hug:

[WritingIsMyReligion]

38. He took you to the movies with him?

Doesn't that count as a....date? So what's this beyatch doing??

:grr:

:hug:

[MiniMandaRuth]

41. Eh, who knows?

:hug: Hey, WIMR!

[BreweryYardRat]

42. Three steps.

A: Cut off contact with her completely.
B: Call or e-mail the guy, fast and tell him how you feel. Guys are not picky about who they date, and most of us like nice girls better than backstabbing bitches like your rival.
C: Get revenge on the little walking pool of STDs and pettiness. :evilgrin:

[MiniMandaRuth]

43. A. Done.

B. Doing it now.
C. Hehehehehe.... :evilgrin:

[BreweryYardRat]

44. Just thought of something good for C.

Is there any way you can forcibly "Nair" her? :evilgrin:

[MiniMandaRuth]

45. No... but I know the guy she likes...

Let's see how she likes someone sneaking up on him... :grr:

[uppityperson]

49. give her a bottle of "special" shampoo

no, don't

[BreweryYardRat]

50. I was thinking something a little more direct.

Get friends to hold Little Miss Bitch down, apply Nair, pour bucket of water on her afterwards.

[mdmc]

46. Hang in there minimandaruth

you are okay to feel the way that you do.

soon, you will feel better.

peace,
and
my thoughts are with you.

[WCGreen]

47. You gonna take it....

Or fight for him....

Just ask yourself....

What would Bogart Do....

[Zomby Woof]

51. Hang in there MiniZW

Better things await you... you have many gifts and virtues just waiting to be discovered by the right person. This too shall pass...

Ok? :hug: :-)

[mduffy31]

52. Sorry to hear that

It will get better, I promise.

[TimeChaser]

53. Girls can be evil, evil creatures sometimes,

especially in middle school and high school

[TimeChaser]

54. dupe

[billyskank]

56. Awww Mini

It isn't any easier to deal with just 'cause you're young :pals:

[Bassic]

57. Ask him out before he goes on that date.

You never know, he might feel the same way about you.

[Sugar Smack]

58. Oh honey. People can be so mean sometimes.

:hug:

You seem like a gentle person and you don't deserve this.

[jukes]

59. scald her

sugar-water sticks.

or forget the little back-stabber & concentrate on the guy. if he blows it off, then you're solid; if he goes along, he's not worth your efforts.