Do you find attractive people who hate you or are indifferent to you?

[ladeuxiemevoiture]

I'm just curious how that hate or indifference affects someone's attractiveness. Some people say it makes the other MORE attractive, others say no. What do you think?

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

1. Not I.

I am much more turned on by someone who is affectionate with me.

[Shell Beau]

2. I think the inner beauty always exceeds the outer.

At first, you see a beautiful person, but if you get to know them at all and they are a bitch/asshole then, to me, the beauty automatically goes away. And vice versa!

[Q3JR4]

3. It's the same way with me.

If I can't stand to be around someone, then there's no point to start anything other than the stunted, disinterested conversation we'd been involved in.

[GaYellowDawg]

4. Bingo.

I couldn't agree more. Add stupid to the mix, too. For instance, I think Jessica Simpson is attractive, but damn, she's dumb. I don't think I could spend more than five minutes around her without getting pissed off.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

6. Yes, but there must be some physical attraction too.

I'm definitely all about inner beauty, but for a romantic relationship, both have to exist in the eyes of the beholder.

[redqueen]

7. What you said.

Couldn't say it any better. :)

[PittPoliSci]

5. attractive people hate me.

but so do people who aren't so attractive. it doesn't really seem to matter because I try not to dislike people based on looks alone.

though to me, nothing's more attractive than a smart, funny woman.

[I Know How To Do it]

8. I think that beauty is only skin deep, but ugly is to the bone.

[Shell Beau]

13. That is one way to put it!

[sniffa]

9. i Love dick swett

[Shell Beau]

14. Lovely!

:P

[crispini]

10. No. I find people who like to argue amazingly attractive.

But argue in the intellectual, not personal, kind of way. There's nothing more exciting than a knock down drag out over the meaning of life, or some political point, or even a heated discussion over the artistic merits of a play or music or something. Wanna sweep me off my feet? Fight with me. In a purely intellectual way, of course. It's soooooo sexy! :evilgrin:

[Cocoa]

11. is it just me

or is that question awkwardly worded...

[I Know How To Do it]

15. I couldn't understand it either.

[ladeuxiemevoiture]

16. Sorry, to put it into perspective, I was reading

David Sedaris' book, "Dress Your Family in Corduroy" and he says at one point, as a kind of truth-is-stranger-than-fiction manner (which describes his type of humor, which is what he is, a humorist, like Dave Barry) that he has always been attracted to those who hate him, and that the more people hate him, the more attractive they seem.

And it struck me that this is true for people with little to no self-respect, which would make sense in his case. (Not dissing Sedaris there - he's wonderfully hilarious, just saying that his circumstances make that statement understandable).

By the way, I do not agree with him, I also find attractive only those who find me attractive.

[I Know How To Do it]

18. Ok, That I understand. I've read some of David Sedaris and

although I find it to be funny, I don't really look at it as a source of inspiration. However, Amy Sedaris is another story, I find her lunacy very inspiring.

[NashVegas]

12. Nope

If you're the person who thinks of mating games as a conquest-type thing, you probably just might be attracted to someone who's indifferent. You get to 'prove' your charms.

I've got better things to do with my time. Besides, if someone finds me attractive, I'd be curious enough to stick around and find out why, at least.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

17. I used to, until I experienced mutual love

which is so much better than one-sided, hopeless crushes. :-)