never marry a man with a crazy mother

[mopinko]

i should have learned the first time. i have no one to blame but myself.

[Mizmoon]

1. But all mothers are crazy

I should know - I am one.

[mopinko]

3. not this kind of crazy

never in my life have i been to a funeral where no one cried, except my MIL's. and the first one was an alcoholic.

[trotsky]

2. Or a woman with a crazy mother.

This *is* my first time, so I plead ignorance!

[readmylips]

4. Or marry a crazy woman...

My son is engaged to a crazy woman. Her mother is crazy and her father is a drunk. Her whole family are nuts, illiterate, toothless small town hicks. How crazy? The father is married to one sister then married one of the first wife's sisters and divorced. They both have children from the drunk. Now he is married to a cousin of the same family and she's having his child. The same situation is repeated throughout the family.

To think about it, my son is the real nut here. God Bless Him. All that Law School, Culture, Money and family values wasted on this guy.

[mopinko]

5. my father was a drunk, too

but it just was not the frightening every blasted day craziness that went on in my hubby's family. daily fights and threats of divorce, at top volume. it left him a control freak, with repressed emotions that cause real caustic, lying outbursts when the lid gets loose.
a little kid's fear of loosing a parent, shoved in his face, every day. leaves a big scar.

[knowbody0]

8. my son mated with "the girl who danced naked"

on the pole. i know of what you are speaking. it did not last long, and she gave him custody of his son. i will always love her, but do not miss her.

[mopinko]

21. yuck

stories like that make me think that it is a pity that the institution of arranged marriage is so misused. if the happiness of the couple were the real goal, it would probably work better than following our hormones. my family knew the first one was a mistake, but they didn't bother to tell me. it wouldn't have helped, but i was still mad at them later for not warning me.

[Kerrytravelers]

6. Both of Mr. kt's parents are nuts. Fundy fruitcake, * loving nuts... yuck!

Thankfully, Mr. kt doesn't drink the kool-aid. His parents emailed us during the election, letting us know we have no morals, values and they feel sorry for us because we support Kerry. When Mr. kt left the Southern Baptist church for the Catholic church, his mother wouldn't speak to him for months and his father sent a barage of hate email for months.

These people are so brave. Email. :eyes:

Thankfully, we have my parents we can turn to for "been-there, done-that" advice.

[mopinko]

18. it helps to have one spouse raised by sane people

i admit to having enough issues of me own. that does not help.

[Longgrain]

7. Don't say that, you're killing my chances!

My mother is the most insane woman you'll ever meet.

[mopinko]

14. i almost replied to your thread the other day

about coping with being single. i wanted to tell you that lots of married people are lonely, too.
maybe there is hope for you, since you are an artist. it's hard to be an artist and be so out of touch with your emotions as to f up your life.
the question is- is your inner child an evil bully?

[Bouncy Ball]

9. Amen.

Though in my defense, she wasn't crazy when I married her son. She's only been going crazy in the last four or five years.

[mopinko]

17. then you need a different excuse

they had to be crazy while raising them in order to blame it on the mom.
don't get me wrong, i think this defense needs to be used narrowly, only in cases of daily or at least weekly insanity. i am a mom myself, after all.
i actually felt sorry for her. she was an educated, independent woman who ended up having 4 kids, stuck at home, married to a guy that worked 3 jobs. enough to drive anyone mad.
but like they say, shit runs downhill. and i've been trying to keep it from sticking to me for 24 years.

[Kire]

10. I've been following that advice my whole life.

My mom's so nuts I haven't had a date in 10 years.

[DemGa]

11. People can recover from having a crazy mother! --nt--

[Kire]

13. sounds like something my mother would say

and then change her mind when I ask her about it again

[mopinko]

20. i sure hope so.

that inner child has got to grow up.

[Huckebein the Raven]

12. Does that rank up there with never starting a land war in Asia ?

*please forgive me if I butchered the line from the Princess Bride*

:D

[In_The_Wind]

15. better yet! stay single!

and put a lot of lawyers out of business :nuke:

[shesemsmom]

16. I know what you mean

I did it twice. The first one gave me more grief after my Hubby died than anyone should have to bere. The second one is dead now.....I am sure she is burning in HELL

[mopinko]

19. i actually tied the knot out of fear of her

we lived together for a couple of years, and he wanted to get married, but i did not. one day a friend told me the story of her friend that had lived with a guy for years, had 2 kids, and were planning their wedding. he was killed, and his mom went to court and took his entire estate, including the kids. after a couple of nights of nightmares, i said yes.