hi ladies, I had a first date Friday night with a very beautiful and nice lady who I have known off and on for 15 years. I thought we had a very nice time. We went to a very chic restaurant in my town that is somewhat romantic and had a nice dinner. The conversation and dinner went on for about 3 hours. I left it up to her to let me know when she had to leave, since I was flexible. At about 10:15 PM, she said she needed to get home to her babysitter for her 4 and 5 year old sons. The babysitter was a first time person, a rookie with her kids. When I escorted her out to the valet parking area, we chatted for a few minutes until her car came up. She then hugged me (with no prompting from me) and told me she would kiss me except she had a cold sore on her mouth. As she was walking to her car, I told her that I would call her and she said "I'd like that" or words to that effect. Bear in mind, this lady is pretty assertive and perfectly capable of telling me politely that this was the last date and that we could be friends. I think I have a second date coming. Am I way off base ?
9. hmm.....second date...I haven't really thought much about it...
I have been trying not to get my hopes up. I have been plumb crazy about this lady for 15 years and am desparately trying not to show it too much to her. If she rejects me, I just don't want to take a nose dive.
33. yes good idea. I'm pretty sure she will call back soon, probably
tomorrow some time. I went out on a limb and gave her my office phone number as well. So, we'll see. The only thing that made me really unsure about the date is that we got into the spirituality discussion. She is a bit more "Christian" than I am, but there were no arguments or harsh words or anything. I reassured her that she was ok with me.
36. LOL well....maybe. I was pretty clear, in a pleasant way, about who I
am. I think she's too smart to try the conversion thing. Hell, at this point, I'm just worried about the 2nd date LOL We have so much in common. We'd be a great couple, as long as religion, etc. didn't get in the way.
I think you have reason to be optimistic. Isn't that awful, though, waiting? That was always so hard, when I was dating ( a long time ago) to see if the other person was going to call. I was always assertive with guys I liked, it's good that it's okay for both people to show that they are interested in more ( dates or what have you.)
I am a single mother. You get worried about your kids, even when you are enjoying yourself. Besides, if she didn't enjoy herself she would have pulled the "I have to use the restroom" stunt. Go to the restroom, message your standby girlfriend, go back to the table. In five minutes she calls you, pretends to be the babysitter, and says the kids are sick. She didn't do that. I think that you are safe.
She may be waiting till her kids get settled in for the night before calling you back. I know I would have waited until they were asleep before I called, so I could settle in for a nice chat without being bombarded with requests for water, cookies, a bedtime story, etc!!!
46. CALL HER.... And arrange that second date. She wants you to be the Man,
and to treat her as though you're interested... then BE interested.
Us women who are always in control, running the show, doing it ALL sometimes want a man to be a man, and to take control, to take charge, to set the time, make the arrangements. We like trusting a man enough to do that.
Now, this isn't all the time. It's our test of you to see if you can handle the job... so pay attention, be FUN. Be CREATIVE. Be kind, silly, funny, easy going and considerate.
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