god DAMN it.

[ulysses]

We've just had our fourth birthmother in eleven months back out of an adoption match. Four. We've become the chumps in a cosmic joke. We're setting records.

Fuck. I'm so tired of seeing my wife hurt.

Anyone know someone *seriously* considering adoption* for their child?

on edit: hey, it's open adoption! We don't want to disappear with the kid and cut you out of his or her life! We're the ones with our naked asses hanging out the window unprotected here! Try us, we're nice people!

[Midlodemocrat]

1. I am so sorry

That is just terrible news. I hope and pray things get better for you soon.

[Bjornsdotter]

2. I am so very sorry!

My heart goes out to you and your wife. :hug:

Kim

[GOPisEvil]

3. Holy crap!!! AGAIN?!

Damn...I'm sorry for you and Mrs. Uly. One day...and when that day comes, it will be that much sweeter of a day.

[ulysses]

4. yes.

I'm not sure whether to cry, yell or laugh at this point.

[jus_the_facts]

5. So sorry to hear this Uly.....

....look at it this way...the best is yet to come along...these past attempts weren't meant to be. :hug:

[YellowRubberDuckie]

6. If I could get pregnant and were closer...

I'd have a kid for you, no questions asked. My heart aches for people who want to have a baby and can't. Have you guys considered an older child? It's easier and those kids are most desperate to get a home.
Duckie

[ulysses]

11. yeah, we have.

We want more than one kid, and we're definitely looking at an older child next. We want to have a baby first, though.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

21. Well, good luck!

I'll say a prayer for you tonight. :hug:
Duckie

[Jack_Dawson]

7. How far along were you?

That sucks so bad. Sorry to hear that.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

8. No offense but why not save up and take a trip to Romania

or another country where there are orphans needing adoption and the likelihood of this happening is less?

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

9. ...or Brazil for that matter. (nt)

[ulysses]

10. I have another window open right now

with a site on adoptions in Colombia.

[AntiCoup2K4]

24. Or China

No way a birth mother can back out of that one. They sign a legal document of "abandonment" there.

Here's a link you might consider:

http://www.faithadopt.org/

[Pithlet]

12. Oh, God. Not again. I'm so sorry.

:hug: I wish I knew someone. I can't even imagine how painful this process is. We've been really pulling for you guys.

[KG]

13. sorry to hear it, bro.

you could adopt me! already potty trained, and i swear i dont eat much...

[methinks2]

14. Sorry to hear it, my brother and his wife finally adopted

two children at different times. Both times there was a lot of crap before the adoption was final. The birth fathers decided they cared after the baby was born, where were their sorry asses when the ob had to be paid? Anyway they had a few backouts before they got lucky, one was two weeks after they baby was born. It nearly killed them.

Good luck and hang in there. Dreams can come true! And don't forget that you can get one a few years old.

[SW FL Dem]

15. So sorry to hear that!

Horror stories like yours were common enough that when we adopted our son, we decided to go the traditional closed route in another state. I wish you the best in your search for a child.

[SOteric]

16. Aw dude,

:hug:

I feel so badly for you I'm half tempted to run out and get knocked up just to help you out.

[PopSixSquish]

17. Aw Uly, I'm So Sorry

I didn't realize that you and your wife had gone through this before. I agree with the other posters on this thread who suggested adoption in another country or an older child.

It will happen, my friend. You'll be in my prayers.

[JimmyJazz]

18. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. - that's all I can say.

:hug:

[ulysses]

19. thanks, everyone. n/t

[intrepid_wanderer]

20. sad state...

... Best Wishes moving toward you're hearing 'Dad' in a short number of months Uly!

:bounce: Bouncing Baby!! :bounce

Coming soon to a crib near YOU

[Zomby Woof]

22. I think about that horrid mother René posted about recently

Then I think about what you and Mrs. Uly have endured.

I will omit my rude comment about the alleged supreme being.

[ulysses]

26. that's what kills me sometimes.

The meanest and most vile people in the world can evidently conceive by simply thinking about sperm. I'm shooting blanks because that's the door prize for getting cancer as a kid.

Nothing against all the decent folks who don't have a hard time becoming parents, but shit.

[greatauntoftriplets]

23. I am so sorry, uly....

You and Ms. uly want a child so badly.

Neighbors of mine adopted a toddler from Russia last year. I don't know the financial arrangements, but both are Catholic grade school teachers and have a fairly modest income.

[CatBoreal]

25. I'm so sorry....

...my husband is adopted and I commend you for going the open route.

I hope it happens for you soon. :hug: