My mom died today,

[baldguy]

I got home a little bit ago – I was over at Mom & .. or just Dad's house now.

My sister (who's a nurse) was over there checking up on Mom, who wasn't having a good afternoon. She didn't want anything to eat & had gone upstairs to rest, while Dad & my sister had dinner. When My sister went up to check on her, she had died.

My mom had gone into the hospital last Nov for lung cancer, had 2/3 of her lung removed (yeah, she smoked for 25 yrs, just gave it up about 5 yrs ago. I guess it didn't help.) She was in there until May, then she went into a nursing home. At the end of July she was able to go home.

(I'm sorry if this is a little disjointed – I've got more alcohol in me that usual)

We thought she had been doing well, even though she was unhappy that everything was so much more difficult for her. She needed a walker now, and was chained to an O2 generator while in the house or a tank if she went out. Please she had to take about 20 different kinds of drugs – some of which didn't agree with her. So they put her on some different drugs, and so on and so on.

In Sept she started having a pain in her shoulder, which they determined was from the cancer – it had spread into the bone. She had started radiation treatments – but my sis ter said that they probably won't help much. Mom knew this, and she – well she wasn't OK with it, but she was dealing with it.

We just expected to have a little more time...

Well, I'm going to finish drinking and try and get some sleep. Thx in advance to everyone.

[arwalden]

1. So Sorry To Hear The Sad News!

My condolences to you and your family.

-- Allen

[Dookus]

2. I'm so sorry, baldguy

You'll be in my thoughts.

[Maestro]

3. Sorry for your loss

My sincerest condolences.

[ScreamingMeemie]

4. baldguy...I am so very sorry.

:( My thoughts will be with you as you go through this. Great big hugs.

[enigami]

5. I am sorry

I lost my mother a little over a year ago. it is something you never are prepared for nor can ever get over. I miss her a lot.

[Jon8503]

6. Hey baldguy take care, just wanted you to know we are thinking

of you. I went through this with my mom and find myself on Sundays once in a while still reaching for the phone like I used to do. Always called her when I could on Sunday afternoons. Miss those conversations.

Take Care.

Jon

[Nite Owl]

7. So sorry for your loss.

We lost my mom 6 years ago. Her presense is still with me and I so wish I could talk with her just one more time sometimes. My prayers for you and your family.

[Not Me]

8. I feel so badly for you...

My parents are getting on in age, and one of the dark thoughts in the back of my mind is that they won't be around for a whole lot longer.

I got really close to my mom in the last couple years. Though we are now 1200 miles apart, we talk daily on the phone, and I get to see them at least one weekend a month.

I wish you and your family well, and hope that your mom is at peace.

[Old and In the Way]

9. Sorry to read about your loss.....

Take care.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

10. My sincere condolences on the loss of your mother, baldguy

I am so sorry :hug: May you find peace at the end of your grief.

[deadparrot]

So sorry. Best of luck in the healing process.

[miss_kitty]

11. awww I am sorry

I am sorry for your loss. It's tough to go through cancer and tougher to watch a loved one fight a losing battle with cancer. My condolences to you and your family.

[Lefta Dissenter]

12. Oh, I'm so sorry, baldguy

I wish the best for you and your family. Try to take good care of yourself. Your dad and sister will be grateful to be able to lean on you, and you can come here and lean on us. It will be a tough time, but I promise, it will get better. :hug:

[faithnotgreed]

13. wow, im sorry. prayers for everyone....

[shawmut]

14. My best wishes go out to you, baldguy

:(

[ChavezSpeakstheTruth]

15. My friend - please accept my love and prayers.

I lost my grandmother 2 weeks ago - no comparison, I know, but I'm feeling for you!

[PoiBoy]

16. Our deepest condolences...

from our Family to yours.....

[meti57b]

17. May G-d bless you and your family.

[donheld]

18. The best to you

so sorry for your loss

[Pale Blue Dot]

19. I'm so sorry.

We are all with you. :hug:

[mcg]

20. You have my deepest sympathy.

It's very difficult to lose a loved one, especially to cancer, I lost my younger brother to cancer a few years ago and I still miss him. But the pain does subside, you will get through this.

[put out]

21. I am so sorry for your loss. Please have some peace. n/t

[sweetladybug]

22. I'm so sorry. My prayers are with you and your family

[Catshrink]

23. Baldguy: I am so sorry....

I lost my mom on New Year's Day and miss her terribly. Please take care of yourself.

:grouphug:

[fortyfeetunder]

24. So sad to hear about your mom

{{{{{{{{{{{baldguy}}}}}}}}}}}

:hug:

Hope you get some rest and take care of yourself in the days ahead.

[Tsiyu]

25. Sad to Hear Baldguy

I guess it's never a good time to lose one's mama, whether you expect it or not. hang in there.

[knowbody0]

26. so sorry for your loss

mine's been gone five years and every now and again at the most odd times, i'll get her scent.
bless you

[Frances]

27. My thoughts are with you.

I am sorry for your loss.

[dave502d]

28. sorry for your loss

[Flaxbee]

29. I'm so sorry.

My mother is failing, too, and we also hope to have a little more time. It sounds like you have family close so you can all lean on each other for a while. You have my sincere condolences. I hope your grief doesn't linger too long.

[farmbo]

Remember when she was 35 and you were 10...

and she was your hero?

Sleep well.

[steve2470]

30. Talk about your grief, at least in here.....

you are hurting very badly and you need to talk for the next several months. Good luck to you.

[Indiana_Dem]

31. I'm very sorry to hear of your news.

A prayer goes out for you and your family.

I'm a nurse who's seen many a person be taken by different forms of cancer. Bone cancer (primary or secondary)is one of the worst. From my experiences, people with bone cancer never fully get relief from the bone pain unless they just don't move at all which isn't good for a person either. If it gets too far advanced, the bones break just by moving the wrong way. Hoepfully, she didn't have to endure much pain like that.

It is a pleasant thought probably for her that she was able to be at home resting quietly and comfortably in the familiar surroundings. Some people aren't aware towards the end but sometimes I (and many others) feel a majority of people who know their destiny with cancer don't want to end up in a hospital room never to see home again. I and probably many other healthcare workers consider her fortunate to have been able to avoid that scenario. I hope that much is a comfort to you.

My condolences.

[ocean girl]

32. I lost my mom to breast cancer over 2 years ago

sometimes it seems like yesterday.

It's very difficult, but just take it one day at a time. I felt my Mom's spirit around me for almost a year. I think she stayed until she knew I would survive.

Get lots of sleep. Be with the rest of your family as much as possible.

Peace and my deepest sympathy to you and yours.

[Kenneth ken]

33. I am sorry for you and your family

:hug:

[Kire]

34. delete post

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[MrScorpio]

35. May God bless and keep you in this time of loss

My prayers are with you

[Lex]

36. Hugs to you, baldguy.

Peace to you and your family.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

37. Please accept my sympathies

:hug:

[Mikimouse]

38. Sorry for your loss baldguy...

Where she is now, there is no sickness. Warm thoughts to you and family.

[Longhorn]

39. I'm very sorry for your loss.

We know it has to happen someday but we're never ready. I'm glad your mother had her family with her. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

[Pirate Smile]

40. I'm so sorry.

:(

[welshTerrier2]

41. hang in there, baldguy ...

give a little extra love to those around you ...

[Ellen Forradalom]

42. I'm sorry to hear of your loss

I hope she is in a better place where there is no pain. I am glad she had you, your sister and her husband to love her and take care of her.

[NNadir]

43. Though break man.

I've lost both my parents, my mother almost 30 years ago, my father 11 years ago.

It's always painful and it never really goes away.

I'm trying to convince my stepmother to live forever, but there ain't much chance of that.

[MadChatter]

44. I'm so sorry.

It's so hard to deal with the death of a parent. You will be in our prayers.

[madmax]

45. So sorry guy

:hug:

[RetroLounge]

46. So very sorry for your loss.

RL

[Kat45]

47. I'm so sorry to hear this.

At least she's at peace now.

[rockymountaindem]

48. My condolences

[flvegan]

49. Oh, man...I'm sorry. My thoughts are with you and yours.

[ReadTomPaine]

50. My condolences... this is always so hard.

[yardwork]

51. I'm so sorry for your loss. Hugs.

[Spiffarino]

52. Oh God, I am so sorry

Words are never enough. Peace, man.

[indigobusiness]

53. Oh, man...so sorry.

My sincere condolences.

[Devil Dog Dem]

54. My prayers are with you.

I'm sorry for your loss.

[nutsnberries]

55. i'm sorry, baldguy. prayers and a virtual hug for you.

[pres2032]

56. I'm so sorry

you're in my prayers.

[proud patriot]

57. Sorry to hear that

:cry: :hug: :cry:

[El Supremo]

58. My Mother is not long for this world either.

I understand. It is tough.

[meow2u3]

59. I am very sorry for your loss

My prayers are with you tonight O8)

[phiddle]

60. It's just awful. My dad died last week.

I wrote the following to a friend whose dad is very ill, and had inquired as to what it was like:

Hello, dear Barbara: The overwhelming feeling for me and the others in my family is of loss---a great big hole in our lives, absence where there was presence. It's as if a bell which was ringing is stilled, leaving an awesome silence where there had been sound.

It's a consolation that he wasn't bedridden, and didn't suffer enormously. Like your dad, mine had deteriorated greatly; he had been fighting cancer for almost 2 years now. We knew that the end was coming, but nonetheless it happened in a flash. He went for a chemotherapy session Monday, and just died in the middle of it. I regret not having been in touch with him over the weekend, as I just got balled up in all the stuff left over after the Mexico tour. But then everyone tells me that they have this type of regret about one thing or another. I last saw him Saturday the 2nd, and after leaving him I knew that his life was nearly spent. We talked only about the family, and he was taking such satisfaction in seeing his grandchildren grow into themselves. But regrets aside, he died with the certainty that I and my kids loved him enormously, and so I think that he had what he most needed from us.

If I had any advice at all, it is simply: cherish and tend your relationship with your dad, and try to be aware of the deepest wonder and mystery of who he is, the core that animates and expresses his most profound self. In my dad's case, it was simplicity, kindness and love. These were expressed in his entire life: his relationships with others, his ceaseless efforts for each of us, and his ferocious and ultimately successful attempts to hold our family together through some very turbulent times. Because at the end of his day, those qualities are both his deepest self and his enduring gift to all of us. While this is all that we have left of him, it is in a very real sense all that is truly important, and each of us in the family lived a fuller and deeper life because of him.

Dad knew that I saw this, knew that he was loved as he had loved, and that we each would in some way and our own way continue to show his qualities. For while the bell has stopped ringing, its reverberations continue. And while it seems so absolutely and awfully silent, there is not ONLY silence. Rather, in the heart of the mystery, at the center of the silence there are echoes now and forever of who he was.

I hope that this is some condolence. PM me if you want, and take care.

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

78. Sorry for your loss, phiddle

That is a beautiful post. Prayers also for you and your family.

[phiddle]

82. Thanks, Depose...

We're healing OK. (Life is big.)

[RFKHumphreyObama]

61. You and your family have my deepest, sincerest and most profound

thoughts, prayers, sympathies and condolences on your loss I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers and know that you have our love and support during this time. Rest assured of that

I'm so, so very sorry and I wish you peace
Regards,
SD1981

[Reciprocity]

62. Please except my heart felt condolences on your mother's passing.

[flamingyouth]

63. I'm very sorry for your loss

:hug:

[IChing]

64. sorry

may she rest in peace.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

65. I'm so sorry...

Take good care of yourself. Alcohol can be a good idea to help sleep, and to numb the shock; but remember it dehydrates you, and combined with your distraught emotions could lower your resistance to illness.

I keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
:hug:

[whalerider55]

66. prayers and thoughts...

are with you, my friend.

whalerider55

[MsConduct]

67. Very sorry for your loss. My prayers and thoughts are with you. n/t

[devilgrrl]

68. I am so sorry baldguy

:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:
:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:
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[helnwhls]

69. remember to take care of you

my heart goes out to you. every child has to deal with the loss of thier parents, but it still sucks. right now treat your self like a houseplant food water and little sunshine.

[Parrcrow]

70. I'm so sorry to hear that.

You have my deepest condolences. Keep your chin up and hang out here with us when it gets to be too much.

[SheWhoMustBeObeyed]

71. My Deepest Condolences

I lost my mom to cancer too. It's a very hard thing for everyone to go through. My thoughts are with you and your family.

[ulysses]

72. I'm so sorry

I hope you and your family can find peace soon.

[Bunny]

73. Oh, I'm so sorry.

She was taken from you a little too early. :hug:

[Maddy McCall]

74. So sad. I am very sorry.

:hug:

[ogradda]

75. i am so very sorry for your loss

i will keep you and yours in my prayers:hug:

[NamVetsWeeLass]

76. My Condolences

BaldGuy
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I always have a candle lit for souls wandering through, and tonight is no exception. I know it was swift, and I would be thankful for that at least. She battled a good battle, it just must have been a good day to die. I don't know what else to say, but you indeed do have the support of a complete stranger. Keep your Chin up, Keep the faith, and don't lose yourself. Remember, Scars-both emotional and physical- are what makes you human, Having the courage to get over this will be what defines you. I bid You peace and serenity.

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

77. I'm very sorry for your loss

Even when loved ones have been very ill for some time, it's never easy to lose them and deal with the tremendous sense of emptiness. I am praying for you and your family.

[Insider]

79. condolences

may her soul rest in peace

may you and your family find comfort

[Lost4words]

80. Big tobacco murdered your mother,

with the full blessing of the US congress. I watched my father die the same way and am watching my mother go through it right now. I am old enough to remember tobacco company's actually advertise cigarettes as healthful. And congressional hearings over the years, total flim flam.

If I lived next door to a tobacco exec I'd get their kids started on cigarettes, and spray pesticides every day the wind blew in their direction.

You have my deepest condolences

[eyesroll]

81. I'm sorry for your loss, baldguy

:hug:

My condolences to your family.

[BlondieK143]

83. I'm so sorry for your loss.

You and your family will be in my prayers! :hug: