How did you know that you found " the one " ?

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

For some odd reason I am in a mood ( must be all the honey buns I just ate ) to hear some romantic stories about how the DUers met their mates and how they knew they had found " the one " they wanted to spend the rest of their lives with . So please tell .

[EstimatedProphet]

1. Well, I know that mine is the one because

she has the most perverted sense of humor I have ever seen.

[Magrittes Pipe]

2. There is no "one."

There are people one chooses to be with, people we share our lives with. There are no "soulmates," nobody anybody else is destined to be with.

There are simply people who fill a void. Sometimes they fill that void for a few days, even hours. Sometimes they fill it for a lifetime. In any case, it's not meant to be -- it simply is.

And I wouldn't have it any other way. :)

[Wapsie B]

5. You've got that right.

But some make better choices of who to share our lives with than others. Then there's just pure, dumb,luck.
Let's just say if I do have luck it's not in love.

[VOX]

6. Maybe not "one," but there are probably "some"...

IMO, most people have one, two, three (always seems to be a small number) of loves/past loves that somehow really got to them.

I've been in love with many women during my time {not to sound like an arrogant SOB --hear me out}, and I can think of only two who **really** cut right through to something primal, something in the marrow. It cannot be explained, and I, too have to say that it just is.

Of my two truly "unforgettable ones," one had some serious emotional issues, one did not.

Fortunately, I married the latter! :)

[Ready4Change]

9. I disagree. I think there are many "ones"

Some you meet before you are ready. Some you meet before they are ready. The one you find in the common sense of the statement is the one you find when you both are ready at the same time.

Just my opinion.

[MrScorpio]

3. A mutual friend introduced me to MrsScorpio in 1988

A couple of years later, I proposed to her in the parking lot of the Jefferson Memorial. (Very romantic place at night, BTW)

We've lived happily ever after since.

[miss_kitty]

4. because i wasn't 'the one' for him

[TNDemo]

7. Hmm. Not sure I knew.

We have been very happily married for 25 years but never had that moment where the sky broke apart and a scroll rolled out and said "this is who you should marry." I just knew that we laughed at the same things (very important) and he was very easy to get along with. I remember a lady I worked for telling me that her marriage was not a comfortable or easy one and that if you can't sit next to each other on a couch and be perfectly comfortable reading a book or doing whatever then don't get married. I also am very sure that he is in my corner and his motivation is my welfare and the welfare of our kids before anything else. And vice versa. I guess I'm no help...

[greeneyedpookie]

8. Story with happy ending

Being a single mom of a 6 year old at the time, decided to take the chance and got on some of the internet dating sites. A couple of hits, talked on-line and on the phone with a couple of guys. Nothing too interesting. By chance, my "The One" e-mailed me 8 months after I got on the site and I took a look at his profile and thought "what the hell, I'll e-mail him back." It was the first e-mail on that site and well, to say, the best $24 I spent. I e-mailed him back and we e-mailed back and forth for 3 days which was last years Labor Day weekend. We talked for 2 days on the phone and agreed to meet for lunch on the sixth day. Granted, being nervous, went and had lunch and it was wonderful! After that, we went to dinner with my daughter and he spent the weekend with us. Met my family (that lived next door) and after one week, I just knew. He accepted me for who I was and my daughter took a great liking to him, and she is really shy of men. Need less to say, he has to stay the night after one week because of the time and plus I wouldn't let him drive because he had a couple of drinks, he has never left since. We got married in July and it has been wonderful! Never knew that I would find the love of my life on-line.

GEP

:bounce:

PS: Tonight is our "actual" first annv. of being "together"

On edit: tried to change the has to had in the sentence about him staying the night, it shows "had", but puts out "has" :shrug:

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

15. Nice story :)

I hope the 3 of you have a wonderful life together :)

[greeneyedpookie]

16. Thank You!

we are planning on it! Going through a last name change on her and then by state statutes, have to wait 2 years before he can adopt her, however it will be done. We are planning on adding onto our family here next year!

GEP

:bounce:

[Elginoid]

10. I saw jet li pick up a motorcycle and smash it...

then i stopped channel-hopping, and watched the movie.

[pacalo]

11. I knew because time flew by when we talked until 2:30am

on work nights, & when we were together I didn't want him to leave.

[LynzM]

12. Hrm.... good questions!

We'd met in passing a couple of times at school, and met up at a school function at a bar (in Germany!). He was bummed, I asked what was up, he said he'd just broken up with his girlfriend in the states after a lot of crap. I asked if he wanted to talk about it, he said "nope, anything but that". So, we talked. For 3 hours. At the bar. To the exclusion of all of our other friends who were there. And every night after that for 4+ hours every night. :)

We hung out all the time, and could literally spend every waking minute together without going crazy. We could (and still can) talk about anything. It was like the rest of the world ceased to exist. We could sit on a park bench and talk and everything going on around us just.... wasn't there. It was really surreal. We spent a lot of time travelling around Europe and just really enjoyed doing the same stuff, being silly together, really enjoyed each other's company and sense of humor, and just had fun!

We talked about getting married after we moved back to the states, and I was going to transfer to his school (a great school, actually an improvement over mine!) and we would get a place, etc. Then we found out I was pregnant, so plans just got condensed, we got married sooner and such, but still good. It's been a crazy trip, but sharing it with him makes it possible. He's an amazing person, loving, silly, respectful of me and our relationship, open to change and craziness in life, smart, funny, just terrific! I guess that about sums it up! Oh, and he loves my crazy self for who I am, which may be the most important thing. I've never felt I had to change who I was, at all, or 'act' at all around him. I've never felt more comfortable with anyone, ever! :)

[greeneyedpookie]

18. That is AWESOME!!!!

True love always prevails!!!

GEP

:bounce:

[LynzM]

21. Yeah, it really IS awesome!

There was a lot of "you're marrying someone you've only known for 8 months??!??!?" from people for a while, until they got to know him and see us together. But it's good or great, mostly, and when it's not good, we can talk and work through stuff!

[MercutioATC]

13. The Oracle told me so...

:P

[WannaJumpMyScooter]

14. Take a trip in a car together. If you can stand a 4-5 day trip in

a car and get along well, that is a good sign.

[SarahB]

17. I'm a clueless individual.

Only once in my life have I had an almost instant connection with someone which is still somewhat undefinable by circumstance. Generally though, I kind of managed to turn off my emotions years ago, basically out of necessity.

It scares the Hell out of me to think there is only one person that is right for any one person, so I can't think along those terms at the moment. I mean, we're all only mortal, right? Sometimes, one just has to learn to enjoy the journey and let the other stuff iron itself out along the way.

[Mizmoon]

19. Followed me home

I fed him and he stuck around. So I decided to keep him.

[Dogmudgeon]

20. That's easy

It's easy for me to tell when someone is right for me. She starts sleeping with someone else and feels guilt when she tells me to get lost.

--bkl

[alarcojon]

22. Set up by a mutual friend

She threw a party with about twenty people, but we were the only uncoupled ones. Rarely works out, but in our case it did.

[Doohickie]

23. How did I know?

She told me.

[ironflange]

24. Wallpapering and painting

Mrs. Ironflange just said that if you can redecorate and still be on speaking terms, your relationship can survive anything.

[flamingyouth]

25. LOL - my parents tried to wallpaper once

They agreed to never do that again, so they've been married for 41 years! :D

[ironflange]

27. I guess Mrs. Ironflange and I are meant for each other

We've painted and papered three houses and various odds and ends so far, and are still on speaking terms. Papering stairwells are the biggest challenge, those 14 foot pieces can really test a relationship.

[2Design]

29. love your sig...can I use it...eom

[ironflange]

39. You sure can, little buddy!

http://www.smiliegenerator.com/smiliegenerator_eng.html

[Tikki]

26. Richard Berry.......

We were 16 and 15 years old....hanging out in a real Eastern Washington State 'hicksville'.
We were in a mutual friend's car...just toolin' around the desert landscape... when the Kingsmen's "Louie Louie' came on the radio. We both mentioned that we knew who wrote that song (Richard Berry) and that we liked his original version.
Everyone else in the car just gave us a collective 'huh?'.....

40 years ago last June.

The Tikkis

[tigereye]

28. I think you just know

or you grow into it. I think that I knew after a while that the man I would later marry was "the one." He was kind, and funny, and had the same politics and music love that I did. And when you look into someone's eyes and you feel that you have always known them on some level... that is how it was for me.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

30. 40 Years Congratulations !

Nice to see the love still going strong :)

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

31. Oh

well I saw him, he was hotter than hell, so was I. We talked for four hours, I noticed he had a lot of chest hair sticking up out of the top of his shirt and thought "JACKPOT" (I like 'em furry) and his voice was damn sexy and he had (has) bedroom eyes and DAMN I wanted to kiss him.

So we kissed outside, finally and I actually got dizzy. Best. First. Kiss. EVER. Weak in the knees. Sounded like a total dork, but I asked him to do it again when it ended. He laughed and obliged me.

I felt like I had just been hit on the head when I left. Dizzy all night. He called the next day, we went out the next weekend. He felt like me. He felt like mine. I felt like him.

Where have you been all my life and all that jazz. Felt like I had known him before but there was no way. Bells, birds singing, all that.

God we both fell harder than a ton of bricks for each other. The sound of his voice made me go all jelly. His kiss made me limp. His touch...

If I keep writing this, I'll need to go find him. Needless to say, major attraction on all levels, physical, emotional, mental. Whew.

I was a goner when I met him. Might as well have waved a white flag.

Ok that's it, where's Mr. Moonbeam?

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

32. Whoa you sound very HAPPY :) Lucky Mr. Moonbeam

;)

[newsguyatl]

33. wow, that post made ME want to meet him

lol

j/k

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

35. And I wouldn't blame ya one bit!

He's still hot, 14 years later. Whew. Ok, seriously, change of subject, out of this thread.

[Taverner]

34. You never do

Sorry to be such a downer, but you never do....you take a stab at someone you think might be the one and hope for the best.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

36. True ...

I'm a hopeless romantic , what can I say .

[Taverner]

37. And to top it off

You have a 50/50 chance that you will merely tolerate that person after 10 years.

[Swamp Rat]

38. When I was in Lincoln Center listening to Leonard Bernstein and the NYP

perform Stravinsky's "Rite of Spring." The bassoon solo did it for me. That's when I fell in love with Euterpe. I've had numerous affairs with Calliope, Erato, Polyhymnia, and Terpsichore. I like to hang out with Thalia.

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

40. I fast forward in my mind.

50 years from now, does it look like I'll have been happy by being with her all that time? HELL YEAH! :loveya:

[mrboba1]

41. I had a dream when I was a teenager

about the woman I would fall in love with (complete with details like hair color & body type, etc) - when I met my wife, she had all the features from my dream. If that ain't freaky!?!

We had an instant connection and were engaged within 6 months...
And have been married for >10 years...

[Beware the Beast Man]

42. From the minute we met-

It was "like" at first sight. We got acquainted online, so of course we were both nervous about meeting each other. Once we met face to face, though, it was as if we knew each other for years. I really got lucky. :loveya:

[truthspeaker]

43. I'll let you know when I find her.

Until then it's compromise and doubt.

[Mara Steele]

44. not a romance story

but my best friend has shared nearly every important thought i've had, and echoed it but with crazy, wonderful insight added to open my mind and make me see new things all the time....

we stayed up all night the first day we met, and i feel like i could never get sick of him...

he's a wonderful, reincarnated beatnik, totally fucking nuts, and i love him dearly...