Since gay seems to be the theme tonight:

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

Straight guys:

How would you feel/react if a guy were hitting on you/checking you out?


Has that ever happened?


Same thing for the straight gals--ever been hit on by a lady?

Once a woman in Payless asked me for my phone number after we chatted and laughed about shoes for about fifteen minutes. I was VERY caught off guard--just didn't see that coming. I stammered a lot and she saved me by acting like she was kidding. We had a good laugh and she said, "Well, see ya!" Maybe I was accidentally putting off the wrong vibes???

And in college, I had a friend whom I found out had a huge crush on me. I always thought it was weird how possessive she acted and how angry she'd get when I went out with my boyfriend, but I thought she was just a bit immature as a FRIEND. Nope, turned out she wanted the Moonbeam action. I had to break it to her gently in a heart-to-heart. She cried and said she was in love with me. It was INCREDIBLY painful. We were going to be roomies the next semester and we both decided we probably shouldn't move in together. We never spoke again.

Damn I forgot to mention my reaction: neither situation bothered me. No biggie. I mean, except her crying and me feeling horrible about it (I think I even said "I'd BE gay if I COULD!").

[SoDesuKa]

1. Moonbeam Action

I'll keep a wary eye out for people looking for the Moonbeam action. You can't be too careful these days. ;-)

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

3. It IS pretty dangerous

[Djinn]

2. once or twice

I am pretty clueless though when it comes to being able to tell people are hitting on me - guy or girl - so it's possible it's happened more often but it's been subtle and I havn't noticed.

Both times I just said the same thing I do to guys I'm not interested in, thanks but no thanks.

[lojasmo]

4. It has happened before

Doesn't bother me. Now I'm fat and old, so it happens less.

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

7. ROFL

[trumad]

8. I once asked a very good friend of mine who was Gay

Why none of his gay buddies ever hit on me.... He told me it was because I didn't look gay. Damn!

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

13. How does one look gay?

Which leads me to something I am probably going to ask in another thread..

[lapfog_1]

5. Oh, that's happened

and it was a strange feeling... but then I don't have that many
people of either sex hitting on me. I had a brief conversation
where I explained that while flattered, I really wasn't interested
in any kind of sexual relationship.

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

6. ?????

In ANY kind???

[lapfog_1]

18. Uh, with someone of the same sex.

just to clarify.

Not put off, not threatened, not angry... sort of amused and
somewhat flattered.

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

9. I forgot to add Mr. Moonbeam's experiences

we were at a gallery opening a few months ago and I saw two different guys blatantly check out his ass. I couldn't blame them; I rather like it myself. (I was across the room looking at some paintings and it wasn't real obvious we were together there for a while...).

One of them passed him and smiled at him. He came over and told me about it, in passing. I told him what I had seen. He said, "Really?" I said, "Yeah, seriously." He kinda chuckled. I think he was flattered.

It's happened to him a LOT. I guess he's cute. I think so, but I wouldn't have known what men thought of him.

[Blue-Jay]

10. If a gay man "checks me out", I'm flattered.

If he persists, after knowing my orientation, I'm annoyed.

Same way I feel about unwanted attention from a woman that I'm not interested in.

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

11. Are women persistent with you a lot?

I'd think guys would like that, but I guess not always.

[Blue-Jay]

15. It has happened.

I'm in a band.

[ronnykmarshall]

22. Plus you play the sax.

It's well know that guys that play sax or any horn are GREAT kissers.

[ronnykmarshall]

21. It's happens cuz yer a hottie!

[Blue-Jay]

36. Aww. How nice!

:)

[TroubleMan]

12. It's happened a couple of times before

The first time I was young and straight out of boot camp...I was pretty rude. The Marine Corps was a homophobic atmosphere and I bought into it.

The second time happened in '95. I was drunk and lost in Arlington, VA. A guy saw me stumbling down the road, and asked if I needed a ride. He took me to his house and I had a soda....then he tried to...um...massage me on the thigh. I politely told him to stop. I was older, wiser, and more open-minded (but not that damn open-minded). After a few minutes, I told him where I thought my car should be. He drove me to it, and that was it....weird night...a lot of other weird stuff happened that night, too, but that's another story.

[Dogmudgeon]

14. I lived to tell the tale

Really, it's not a big deal. I thank them for their attention but explain that I'm straight. It does not challenge my sexuality one bit, nor do I think the worse of them.

I've never had any kind of problems from gay men getting pushy at all. I can't understand the guys who are so freaked out by it that they get violent.

Anyway, I'm sure a lot of "homosexual panic" will be happening in the near future now that Gov. McGreevey has come out. If nothing else, think of all the bad New Jersey tough-guy jokes: "You want a piece of me? Huh? You want a piece of this?"

--bkl

[Demonaut]

16. A fairly good friend came on to me very aggressively once

we were in a hot tub at a party and he was wasted, pissed me off , if he had just hinted or asked it would have been one thing but grabbing me was over the top. I've been hit on a couple of times and usually its funny

[Beware the Beast Man]

17. Just the same as anyone would, I guess.

If he seemed like a pretty normal guy or someone I knew, I'd probably be flattered. If it was just some creep, then probably a little freaked out.

[pagerbear]

19. I can sometimes be too flirtatious

With gay and straight friends alike. (I know that surprises all of you.) I really regret it when it makes guys uncomfortable or puts them off.

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

20. But what about

when they are simply flattered and don't think a thing about it?

That happens, too, I've seen it happen!

And to me, you just seem friendly, though of course I don't know you in real life....

Question: why is it socially acceptable for me and my straight girlfriends to joke about doing each other and wanting each other, but straight guys can never joke about stuff like that?

[ronnykmarshall]

23. What? YOU? NOOOO!!!

Color me shocked! Ya little firt, you!

[pagerbear]

25. Hee hee hee......

Still dreaming of that ronnykmarshall desktop wallpaper!

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

28. I've seen

ronnykmarshall's picture.....I want some wallpaper action myself.

;-)

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

26. For you pagerbear

One of the first posts I ever read on the lounge was you asking for dog pictures and I laughed out loud. So this is for you:

[pagerbear]

27. I'm in love!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

31. And this one makes me kinda sad

but he/she looks like my Hannah Rose:

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

32. How you like this bad boy?

Looks like my Uncle Larry:

[UrbScotty]

24. If that happened...

...I'd be kind of surprised, but I'd go along with it.

[ronnykmarshall]

29. OK, I'll take it from the other side.

A few times I've has women hit on me. I am SO clueless when it does.

BUT there was this one girl that I worked with year ago that I would actually get butterflies in my stomach when she smiled at me.

Go figure!

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

30. AWWWWWW!!!

That's so cute!!!

I dunno, I think it's all a spectrum and we all have a teensy bit of "the other side" in us, whether we know it or not.

[NightTrain]

33. It happened to me quite a bit in the '80s, when...

...I was younger, thinner, had a full head of hair, and attended weekly midnight screenings of THE ROCKY HORROR PICTURE SHOW.

It also happened in 1993. This time, the other person was my former high school English teacher, with whom I had remained in touch after graduation. We became close friends despite our 20-year age difference.

In my late 20s, I went through an identity crisis and began to suspect that I was bisexual. Phil had told me some years before that he leaned in both directions himself. Despite that, I thought nothing about it when he seemed to take an intense interest in my possibly being bi.

Then, at his house one day, we were sitting on the couch talking, when Phil's hand suddenly found its way to the crotch of my jeans. I was bewildered and asked what he was doing. The long and the short of it was that Phil wanted me as a sexual partner, but I didn't feel the same way. As such, I turned him down as gently and as tactfully as I could.

Phil never brought the subject up again, and we remained in touch for several more years, but I still wonder happened after I left that day and he was by himself. Did he fall into bed and shed broken-hearted tears over my rejection? I certainly hope not, but I can't help but wonder....

Incidentally, it's 11 years later and I still haven't done it with another man. So I'm guessing that I'm probably not bisexual after all. And if Phil happens to see this post, I'm very, very sorry if I gave you the wrong idea!

Sidebar comment: When I told my friend Lori, herself a bisexual, "I think I might be bi," she replied, 'Great! What time can I expect you?'" :evilgrin:

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

34. Hee hee

That's something I've always wondered about (the bi thing).

I know a guy who is married to a woman who had ONE homosexual experience in his early 20s. Does that make him bi?

[mongo]

35. I find it very flattering

When anyone's interested in me. It doesn't bother me at all to be hit on by a guy.

[HEyHEY]

37. I was actually really drunk once and...never mind

Truthfully though, I wouldn't care.

[Elidor]

38. Gay is the theme EVERY NIGHT in the lounge

Been chased and hit on by way too many gay men to go into details. I did learn something though - horny men are pushy bastards who won't take no for an answer.

I've always striven to treat ladies with extra respect because of my experiences with gay men. So much respect, in fact, that some of them asked me..."Are you gay?"

You just can't win.