Ever get tired of dysfunctional people?

[SarahB]

Poll question: Ever get tired of dysfunctional people?

I so sick of dysfunctions. I really am. There's so many and I seem to attract it all in life- family, friends, past relationships, etc. I'm too nice and understanding toward people I think. It started with my wacky parents. They would send me to shrinks as a kid and were told I'm absolutely a normal, healthy kid and they need to work on their issues instead. That about sums it up.

God, is anyone else normal anymore? Not a dull, inane conformist, just sane, honest, comfortable with their sexuality, and without addictions? :shrug:

[HEyHEY]

1. What do you mean you fucking dick?

Just kiddin ;-)

[SarahB]

5. Oh, I forgot defensiveness

My personal favorite. :P

[Eye and Monkey]

2. Isn't that the same as asking "ever get tired of people"?

[SarahB]

3. There are levels, my friend.

No one's perfect. In fact, I'm rather PMSy right now, but I'll be better in a couple days. :D

[SarahB]

18. Another rimshot

[Eye and Monkey]

20. I'll hang on the rim. Feel free to dive right in.

[Radical Activist]

4. Just enjoy the show

What fun would life be without dysfunctional people? Who would there be to fuck me over in relationships. Who would I blame for my problems if I didn't have two dysfunctional parents?

[SarahB]

6. LOL

:D

[sundog]

7. no, I am drawn to dysfunction like a magnet

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[coloradodem2005]

8. I think I am dysfunctional.

I can be a little intense. I need to work on that.

[LincolnMcGrath]

9. Least you never get them knocked up!

Yo

[SarahB]

13. But then there's the reverse.

:crazy:

[LincolnMcGrath]

15. Si

:hug: :hug:

[KissMyAsscroft]

10. I partially blam these whackjob psychiatrists...

There is a new "illness" every week and some new quack who can "cure" you...the result is a society of strung out, neurotic people who believe they are all going crazy.

I like how Chris Rock puts it..."Whatever happened to CRAZY?!! What? You cant be CRAZY NO MORE?!!"

Now everyone has some pet illness that they can get coddled for. No one is told to suck it up anymore. Parents need to stop sending their kids to these quack doctors. The result is them just getting institutionalized into thinking that they have more problems then they truly do.

[SarahB]

17. Me too

While some people have real, concrete issues they need to work on in life, other times it's a whine fest. I think of Woody Allen. He's been in therapy for over 30 years? Uh...when's he going to be cured? There's self-examination and then there's looking excuses for lousy behavior.

[sundog]

19. but his whole comedy is based

on dysfunction-- that's the beauty of it-- He stands for all the neurotic voices nagging us in our head from dawn till dusk every day of our lives... Watch "Annie Hall" again... Allen sucks now, but in his prime, he was genius...

[SarahB]

21. I love his stuff

Funny as Hell. I'm just glad I'm not his wife.

[sundog]

22. lol-- I get ya...

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[Endangered Specie]

11. How could you get tired of them if you hang around DU?

;)

[SarahB]

16. Touché

:D

[Endangered Specie]

25. How do you produce them fancy letters?

[SarahB]

27. With the accent thingy?

I copied it. I know there's some way to do it with the function key or something, but I forget. :D

[MI Cherie]

28. The ALT keyboard ...

... gets lots of fancy stuff! Like: © and ½ and ¼ and ­¾ and ¿ and » and ‰ and º and · and ¶ and ± and ® ­and ¢ and …

It's cool!

Check the "Character Map" in "Accessories" under "System Tools." It gives the "ALT + 0000" for dozens of symbols. Hold the ALT key and use numerical keypad — or copy or cut & paste.

There's more than just dingbats and wingdings available!

:hi:

[Endangered Specie]

29. I dont get why I cant do the alt+____ thing

how exactly is it done (im on a laptop keyboard btw)

[MI Cherie]

39. A laptop keyboard is different:

There should be a keyboard locking function (FN) key on the left side that gives you access to the keypad numbers: M=0, J=1, U=4, 7=7, etc. Does your keyboard have smaller numbers on those letter keys?

Of course, my notebook computer is kind of ancient. But I think they still have this feature. I occasionally have problems with the FN lock / ALT numerical keyboard when on the portable.

You can check your user's manual or the on-line version through the manufacturer to see how to access this function.

You can always copy or cut & paste from the "Character Map" to get the symbols and special characters. Different fonts have subtle differences, too. I love this feature! Best invention since the computer itself!

:)

[Endangered Specie]

43. Ah ok, but I have to hold Fn down, and have numlock turned on...

thats stupid, why not jusy let us use the row numbers???

[flamingyouth]

12. No, I love the Lounge

Why do you ask? Is it something I said? It's how I look, isn't it! God, I hate myself.

[SarahB]

14. No way!

You always seem very cool! :hi:

[tjwash]

23. Go to hell you piece of crap, I don't have a attitude.

Sorry, had an ex-wife moment there...

[SarahB]

24. Okay then, here ya go

I hear this helps the first lady when she's stressed.

[jus_the_facts]

26. Bwahahahahaha.....

...priceless! :D

....where are all these functional people...I've never met any?! :crazy: :evilgrin:

[shanti]

31. xanax AND botox

lol!

[Mobius]

30. "other" I blame SarahBelle

:7
The fact that you made this poll suggests you have some anger issues. No one is completely fuctional.

[SarahB]

32. anger issues?

My anger is either seen as unjustified by some in my life, met with even more anger in return by others, or met with a brick wall of nonethingness by another. Sometimes all of the above at once. No I can't say I'm totally functional or perfect by a longshot, just a bit hurt and angry for a variety of reasons in life.

You nailed it! :thumbsup:

[Mobius]

33. Ok, control issues then...

because you want people to see your point of view so very badly...please take note of my control issue laden sig line, before you yell at me
:hi:

[SarahB]

34. I won't yell

I feel like I have no control of anything anymore, so that's a definite thing. Ultimately, I do, but not enough right now.

[Mobius]

35. I think having as much control as you want is pretty much impossible.

It would be nice to take omnipotence for a test spin though ...

[I Clenis]

36. Yes. This is my dysfunction.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

37. I don't think we should give dysfunctional people a name or a special

place in our minds. By doing so, we reward them by giving them not only attention but a title.

I used to have some sympathy for this as though it were an affliction. I no loner feel that way. I feel they use their dysfunctionality to make others miserable in order to reward themselves ( in some sick way). My choice is now to either ignore them and thereby rob them of the attention they crave...or respond in kind and do all I can to make them miserable back...either way,,,they should not expect a payoff from me for their poor behavior..it's either irrelevance or suffering...their choice.

[I Clenis]

38. I agree. Further, I'd like to move that we ditch the letter Y in favor of

an I. The Y is just stupid. It's antifunctional.

[ForrestGump]

41. DISfunctional works for me

I mean, functionally.

[liarliartieonfire]

40. Tell me about dysfunction! Ever ride the Transit bus from Downtown at

10:00 at night????
HOly Cow..Its weird.

My car's being fitted with a new fender..So there I am last night 10:00pm trying to figure out the bus time/place schedule so I could get my tail home.

I swear..there was a WHOLE different crowd then the ones I rode downtown with earlier that day.

Daytime was a lot of business/college students..busy going somewhere productive.
But that night crowd..I think that driver could have just as well driven that loonie bus straight to the Rehab Ward.

A cracker sits there picking at his face in a mirror..the couple behind me talking about visiting their kids (plural) in the pen.
Paranoia was the overall feeling, schizo eyes and one young man with his coat pulled up over his head..rocking..(maybe he had headphones & tunes)..A greasy haired girl flashing glances and a quick smile at people who wouldn't look at her. And two tweaky chics staring glassy eyed off into somewhere..over the age of 40..and bone thin..spun.
Two guys in the back of the bus, laughing about some girl they both "knew well"...crreepy, filthy, STD talk.
GEEZ...
I got my car back today...AMEN.

Maybe they're OK during the day. Benefit of the doubt here.
Maybe they hold jobs, have families and pay taxes like everyone else.

Or maybe THEY are "everyone else" and WE are the dwindling few????!!!!

Man,see what one night on the city bus will do to a person.
George and Laura should ride that bus for a month..

[Ellen Forradalom]

42. I sure do

When I broke up with my previous fiance, I sloughed off all the lounge lizards, barflies, nighthawks, adventuresses, couch dreamers, urban cowboys, camp followers, inverts, deverts, perverts and circumverts* that came along with him.

Suddenly everything became much easier. I got more done in the following three years than in the previous six. Shoulda done that years earlier.



* "Inverts...." : Robert Graves. I've always loved that expression.

[SarahB]

44. Apparently DU is my dysfunction.

It's been taking up too much of my time and my family's time (even though most of my posts are after my children are in bed). I already have trouble sleeping and most nights I go to bed by 1am, but last night, as I am on occasion, I just couldn't sleep and was up really late. There's another situation here that has left me rather bruised and I suspect I've become somewhat of a joke to some or a bother to one because of it.

The major issue (and I'll have to face someone being upset at me in the morning for making him look like a bad guy) is that nearly all my posts are watched and read. Often I say things that are misconstrued as worse than they are and I have to answer for or justify what I say. The times are noted and I have to deal with that too if it's one of those rare nights last last night when I'm up really late.

Originally, I came here for the politics, unknowing that there could be any major changes or twists or turns in my life because of it. There have been and that simply can't be allowed. Public empowerment is for people who can afford to have it.

I'll be here a little, but not as much. I'm just exhausted. This isn't some "I'm leaving" post, because it's not, it's just stating the truth in my little life. I wish it were different, but my children need me, so it's not. I don't want anyone's pity. I made my bed in life, I have to lie in it and I'm stronger than it sounds here probably.

I thought about coming here under an alternate name to have a little more privacy (I did for a couple posts), but no one here would know me, I couldn't say who I was directly, and anything I said would probably be found anyway and scrutinized anyway.

[Taverner]

45. Perhaps functional is dysfunctional...

But in the words of Chuck Palahniuk: "If you don't know what you want, you end up with a lot you don't."

[SarahB]

46. yes

I agree.

[mitchum]

47. I only like them in literature...

they drive me freaking crazy in real life

[clyrc]

48. I've moved half a world away from my dysfunctional family

and they still get to me because... I, um, call them every week. I didn't think I could be shocked by them anymore, but my mom told me a new development that did it. It seems my aunt and my grandpa... well, anyway, my husband and I are trying REALLY hard to act like adults, in the best sense of the phrase. We both have our prboblems, and we have to make allowances for them, but using excuses for bad behavior is childish.

[tigereye]

49. we can only truly control ourselves and our reactions

and set limits on others who cannot. As someone who for many years put up with people who were not dyadic ( meaning that their relationship with me was all about them and not really two way), I can empathize. Sometimes it is necessary to find people in your life who truly benefit you and not just themselves, and if you are lucky, people who enhance and enjoy each other. It is very liberating and eventually rewarding to seek out people who do want a two -way street. Best to you, SB and good luck in your journey.

[Nikia]

50. I just get hurt by them when I empathize too much

Maybe I am dystfunctional so I shouldn't talk, but I have cared about several dysfunctional people and have been hurt.
I have been hurt by female friends who leave a decent relationship for an exciting domestic abuser; a couple of drug addicts/alcoholics who refuse to give up their addiction despite health problems, severe financial problems, and other problems that their drug of choice has caused; people who I thought that I was becoming friends with but turned out to be incapable of friendship because they were so narcisstic; and jealous women who are incapable of being friends with women their own age because they are afraid that they will steal their husbands.
I feel bad as these friends and former friends continue to make the same mistakes contributing to their own unhappiness. I feel bad when our friendship becomes less close or ends all together due to some of these problems. I continue to feel bad. I feel that I did something wrong even if I cannot figure out what I should have done other than never gotten close to them in the first place.

[Lou_C]

51. Yes

My business partner and I both are both dysfunctional and we don't know how to treat each other so it's putting a damper on us getting our business off and running.