Reply #73: posting on a board can be painful, for sure...

[CitizenLeft]

...especially if you're sensitive or are going through a crisis. I don't know if this will help, but I use "ignore" extensively. Not because I don't want to hear dissenting opinions, but because a nasty reply - or even a nasty post to someone else - makes my blood pressure go up. I'm not afraid of debate - I just don't like punitive conflict. And it's not fear of being hurt that stops me, it's the fear of hurting. I have a temper, and I will go off on somebody mercilessly if they hit a hot button, especially if they think they're being cute with their derisive remark. Then the person who insulted me always wonders what made that bomb go off. LOL - words have consequences, and the rudist posters don't get that at all. After I go off, I always wish I hadn't. So, for my own peace of mind, I use ignore to keep my sanity and everybody else's intact. Ignore gets a bad rap - those who are most likely to be nasty and rude are always the ones who ridicule you for using it. Fuck them. Other people don't get to dictate how YOU experience any message board. Save your sanity and put those who would rip you a new one - like me - on ignore. :hi:

I wish you strength and love and the patience to deal with it all. You're way ahead of me! :hug: