Reply #10: After watching the experiences of my FIL in an expensive nursing home the past few months,

[TBF]

I wish we lived closer so we could take him in ... those places are not at all like the fancy marketing brochure. Of course not so much my batty MIL or stepmother. But I would take them in if I had too, even them.

It shouldn't have to be that way though, and it definitely shouldn't be happen with the "younger" elderly - people who have finished their working life and by all means should be enjoying a few years of retirement and maybe travel if they want to. Also why should they be uprooted? These days families are often split around the country when kids take jobs in other states. Why should someone in their 80's suddenly have to sell their house (if they own one still) and move across the country to live with a child?

This is going to get worse and worse ... and the right-wing media will of course be along every step of the way.