Reply #33: No, she said that is part of the process.

[Atman]

My first reaction was to also say that it was sick. But, think about any family expecting a new baby...the baby becomes a part of the family long before it is born. You prepare and prep and set up nurseries, and get sonogram pictures and pick names. As I said, grief counseling in these situations often recommends allowing the children to say good-bye to the brother or sister they were expecting to come home. Again, I think it is weird. I've never had any reason to be involved in this stuff, but my wife has, and she says this is what grief counselors recommend for many families.