Reply #101: I think that may be part of it...

[JHB]

I'm not making a counter-argument -- you sound like you're already down the road to splitsville.It's more of an attempt to take the mystery out of his stance:

Everyone lives in a "bubble" of some sort; one only has so many interactions in the course of a day. Aside from you, what does his bubble look like? Is he an activist? (doesn't sound like it) Or does he go with the (conservative-meme-saturated) flow and thinks he's being reasonable because he's not making much of a fuss?

When you're floating comfortably down a river, that person on the shore running around, waving their arms, and raving something about a "waterfall" looks pretty loopy. Until you find out the hard way they were right.

The guy might be reachable, politically speaking, but that's missionary work, not a relationship. It's your life, and your decision about who to get or stay involved with.

On edit: OK, reading further downthread I'm less likely to give this guy the benefit of the doubt, but I still think the above plays into it.