Reply #132: I like the "let's learn" theme of your post.

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I posted pissed or frustrated late at night. let me see if this makes more sense.

I don't believe a normal, healthy male is ever just going along minding his own business and is so overcome with how a woman is dressed or looks and no matter how turned on he gets, he rapes her. The reason, I threw in example of comatose patients being raped is, with rapist, nothing matters they rape, who ever they see as weak or think they can control. Also example of men in prisons is violent men use rape to margainalize, terrorize, control etc. When in totally male place, the violent will use rape as a weapon. Rape is about violence and control.
Sexiness or sexuality often is as much a part of the act of rape as having a penis is. It may be used, but if not, will use whatever else is handy.

The demoralizing of women, the cutting down to size, objectifying is a whole nother aspect of society. It may be part of rape, but not always. Yes, I sometimes have looked at man as object, I have never been lead from that to wanting to rape and I don't think non rapeist men do either. Objectifying is one subject under broad umbrella. It may or may not be a part of rape.

But always, always, rape is an act of violence. period.
That is what policeman and all need to get. And that is what I think these marches are about.
And that is what I should have said, instead of just having my little rant.