Reply #78: I'm still not sure what the problem is...........

[socialist_n_TN]

Maybe it's because I'm a guy, albeit a guy from a VERY matriarchial background. So it's NOT OK to look? And as a woman, it's not OK to be looked at? And yes, that could be turned around very easily too.

One thing I have learned in a long and sexually active life, is that sexuality is pretty much of a personal thing and it's not NECESSARILY gender based. I've known homosexual and hetereosexual persons of BOTH genders who liked to look and liked to be looked at. Ergo, I don't make judgements about INDIVIDUALS.

What I say is be a slut if you so desire. Don't do it for me or anybody else, but do it for yourself. A woman who is VERY sexually experienced in this society is usually that way because of one of two reasons. They either have VERY good self esteem or very LOW self esteem. IOW, they're empowered enough to do what they want in SPITE of societal disapproval OR they look to OTHERS for a definition of self worth through sexual experience.

Personally, ALL of the women I've ever been with have been VERY experienced. Quite often even more experienced than myself. They've all been of the empowered kind. That's what Im attracted to.