Reply #19: No I don't expect them to magically come up with anything.

[plantwomyn]

But I am sure that there were many who thought that the fight in Iowa was a waste "limited resources" that could have been better on fighting Prop 8 or Martinez v. County of Monroe in your state. But the coasts are not the only place were our fight should be waged and Iowa proved that the middle of the country can be a part of a winning strategy.
"And if we win a legal battle in any state then the precedent might apply to many states, so it matters less which state the win is in so long as we get the win." I agree but I'd like to hear the reasons why Indiana can't be one of the states we win in. We have fought off a constitutional amendment for years and for the first time in a long time Indiana voted for a Dem for president. We need to keep up the momentum, not just on the coasts but here in the "heartland" too. Why can't Indiana be next? Why did our "leadership" decide to tell those of us who are on the "fringes" of the fight to focus on other states fights? What if demanding equal rights and benefits due to my legal marriage in Iowa to a Federal employee is just the case that SHOULD be taken to the courts? Would a win in Indiana be less effective for all of us than a win anywhere else?

"Personally, I wouldn't mind if you started a new organization to expand the activism in your state. That would be wonderful."
But our "leadership" disagrees, as do most of the replies. I agree with the attitude that divided we fall and that we need to
help each other if we are going to win. Like I said I have donated time and money to the cause in general and to supporting Californian's right to marry in particular. I disagree that Lambda et al should tell me to acquiesce until they get around to me. They asked me for help for Iowa, Arizona, Maine, California, New Jersey, New York, Florida, and even Indiana at one point. I never asked them to qualify those fights, I helped. Now they are telling me that I don't quailfy for their help even though their help is funded by my donations. Starting a new organization would just spread the LGBT communities and my "limited resources" thinner. As it is the cost of legal counsel is stretching our budget to the limit. So since our "leadership" has decided to take my money elsewhere, I will just have to "expand the activism" in my state by demanding my own civil rights the best way I know how. And that is not by accepting Mr. Indiana's or BCBS's denials. I may just have to make a stand on my own and to have a chance in hell to win, I'll need to keep the money I have been giving to everyone else, and donate my time and energy to our own fight for equality.