Reply #108: guilt is painful and destructive. owning our part in our mistakes is healing

[seabeyond]

and empowering.

living in fundie world and sending kids to a christian school for early years clearly showed me how using the bible to raise the kids did so much damage and retarding the sexuality. we have the same extreme on the other side where we hand our kids adult world of porn and say, educate yourself.

the first bible verse they are taught is "we are all sinners". didnt think much with first child. but the second child that will grab on any excuse for misbehavior. as soon as i said that verse out loud to him, to teach for a test at 5 i said no. no way. what are they saying. beautiful you..... sinner, nu uh. and laughing and teasing with him. so he wouldnt grab hold of that verse and take to heart. since i saw how destructive that has been with the fundies in this area.

there is a middle ground that allows to to explore their sexuality in a healthy and balanced manner