Reply #56: marriage is a lot of work, and there are times when you don't like each other

[peacebird]

My hubby and I both agree that *love* is not only a feeling - it is first and foremost a decision. We decided that we loved each other 16 years ago, and there were a couple close calls in the first 7 years - but we stuck it out because we knew our love was more than a "Hallmark moment". It mattered to us, so even when we did not feel it, we persevered. It was not easy, but it was worth it. LOVE is the most work of all. Worth it, but definitely work, especially in the early years.