Reply #21: my 17 yr old niece dated a 29 yr old man. he got her preg, purposely

[seabeyond]

as a means of binding her. he is needy, and controlling, and anger issues, low self esteem and he needs youth to be able to dominate. when i met him, being much older, female and not about to put up with his shit, you could see him just wither (i liked him well enough). when niece eventually decided she couldnt marry him, in his dominence and he eventually quit stalking and harrassing her, he found another kid. he cannot interact with a woman his age.

my 48 yr old brother (nieces father) is living with an 18 yr old. not cause he necessarily wants an 18 yr old, but cause a 40 yr old wouldnt put up with his shit. nor a 30 yr old or woman in her twenties. so he is left with inexperience so he can.... hey, dominate.

both situations are sad, and i have empathy for the males because in their overt abuse or taking advantage, i know it is cause of how they see themselves.

that is why there are laws that protect. i dont have much of an hard line opinion. pretty much go with what society says.

i asked hubby about it. his view was, and how he has always lived this piece of life is, whatever age illegal, means NO. period. no if ands or buts.... meaning, dont even go there.