Reply #27: yeah doing housework has nothing to do w. being sexy

[pitohui]

when i hear people (or magazine writers) say that if men want their women to want sex, they would do the dishes, i suspect that those people don't even know what "sexy" is

if you want a woman to want sex, you have to find out what HER turn-on is and link into that -- same thing as you would do w. a man -- now, sure, there is prob. some dominating woman out there who has a fantasy of cracking the whip over hubby while he does the dishes so watching do the dishes makes THAT ONE WOMAN hot but this is a minority fetish

you have to find out what YOUR wife's fetish is and play to that

i'm not gonna say what mine is, but it pretty much works like flipping on a light switch

i realize men can have a fetish and STILL need cialis, viagra, etc. but i think it's because with age the blood pressure etc. issues come into play that interfere w. sustaining an erection, so the problem is not exactly the same problem as with women

some women don't even seem to remember what they liked/desired or, worse, they really only liked/desired men of a certain age (say around 30) -- obv. if your sex drive is linked to wanting a specific age then you're kinda screwed since people only age in one direction...