Reply #108: I think that coldness comes when a family

[mkultra]

falls into the position where it must run look a corporate machine. people start to develop bitterness over minor "failures" and that bitterness builds into a kind of division.


imho, the only answer is to scale back your monetary needs so that everyone can slow down and spend most of your time together in leisure.

Me and my wife have always made the economic sacrifice because she wanted to stay home with the kids. At times, she has expanded our social responsibilities which i have influenced her into contracting. The same was also true of my work, where i started charging hard to bring in the money. She talked me into backing down some.

I think we have an equilibrium now which allows us to spend time together having simple fun and gives me enough energy to contribute at home.

Every relationship i have seen in which both parties had their nose to the grindstone resulted in failure.