Reply #119: thank you for understanding, and for posting your wisdom.

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I will say, though, that while people think it "builds character", that whole "chores" thing can backfire bigtime.

A woman who has just left home because of violence is dealing with a LOT of trauma, and needs all the time she can gather to deal with that trauma.

Plus, she likely has children, and needs that time to spend with her children, who are also traumatized.

This is the typical no-win situation so many women are put in.... you MUST do a lot of work to prove you are "worthy", but if it cuts into your mothering time, then you are an unfit mother.

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