Reply #25: You go right ahead and with my blessing, even if you don't want it

[Tansy_Gold]

But it's your choice, and you're very lucky to be able to make it.

Many of us aren't/weren't so lucky, and I have friends who WERE lucky enough to be stay at home moms and their kids still ended up dropping out of school, in jail, or literally dead on the streets.

If anyone is projecting, it's you -- you think your position is the right one and you think everyone should do as you and that if everyone did so, all would be right with the world. All I'm saying is that what's right for you and what's POSSIBLE for you is not only not necessarily right or possible for everyone else, but it may not have the results you anticipate.

I AM a feminist, and I believe all people of all genders ought to have the right to make their own choices to the best of their abilities. You -- and your husband -- are lucky enough to be able to make the choice of having children and your staying home to care for and nurture them. That's fine, and more power to you if that's what you want and apparently it is. But that alone isn't enough to guarantee that your kids or anyone else's will turn out great.

That isn't the choice for everyone, nor is it possible for everyone, nor is it right for everyone.

I don't expect you to agree with me, or anyone else to agree with me. But I'm not asking you to do as I do, only that you not expect everyone else to do as you do.



Tansy Gold