Reply #51: I stopped having lunch with someone for that reason.

[noamnety]

I used to have lunch with a small group of activists regularly. One day just the two of us showed up, which is fine, that's happened before in various combinations. But when the waitress walked away from bringing his food, he made a point of checking out her ass and commenting to me about it.

I didn't say anything, but I think the look of disgust was on my face, cause he mumbled and changed the subject.

I stopped going to those meetups. If he can't have a normal interaction with a woman bringing him a plate of food without rating her ass and making a decision would he or wouldn't he screw her - and sharing that decision with others, no less, I really don't need to spend time with people like that.

I prefer men relate to me as a person. They don't need to be assessing my ass if I walk away from them, and commenting to others about it. I don't know what is wrong with people, why they think that's appropriate.