Reply #99: Are you suggesting that all 100,000+ people on this site are rude

[Az]

Or just some of them? And if its just some of them is that not to be expected in such a large population?

Do you really think its possible to walk into such a crowded community and poke it collectively in the chest and not receive such a response? What community do you think would be as tolerant as you seem to be expecting this one to be to the challenge you placed before us? Forgive me for suggesting this but you are acting a bit naive.

In any community there are customs and behaviour that is expected. When you act in a way that strongly violates those codes you will gather the ire of the population. Most people understand this. There are neurological conditions that prevent people from picking up on these factors but those are rather rarified. What is more often the case is someone assails a community by poking at those practices as a means of mocking them and agitating them. It is most people's suspicion that you fall into this latter category.

Now I well understand that if this is not true you find yourself in a difficult position. Pride is on the line. The only way for you to get out of this situation is for you to humble yourself before the community and ask for forgiveness. This may seem backwards to you as you feel as though you are the one that has been wronged. But to the community it is you that have transgressed and are now seeming to poke even more at the community. In all likelihood what is going to happen is that are you are going to be tombstoned for behaviour unaccepted by the community.

The question is whether you really wish to partake in this community or if its just and adversarial bit of jousting for you. I can assure you that the community is very supportive once you establish yourself as someone that can be seen as part of it. But it is also very defensive and will repel any that it senses are agitators. Its your call.